ok my disclaimer this is about me not my "friend" and i am realy in love with this guy , yes yes stupid i know but w/e .
My boyfriend plays ftbl , he is 6'1 and almos 200 lbs where as i am only 5'1 and about 70 lbs less than he is . We get in fights over stupid things like everyone els dose . sometimes tho he gets so mad that he hits something ( never me ) but when hes mad at me he will hit lik e the wall or a pole or a door , he clenches his fists and yea that scares me sometimes . But sometimes we joke arround like that like ill fake cry and he acts like hes gunna hit me . but thats all in fun ( i kno i kno its horrible fun ut kinda funny) any was i was talking to 3 of my most trusted friends, friends that i tell everything to and they all said they think he is unna end up hitting me none of them trust it dose any one know what i should look out for , and if its realy oing that way what i shoud do ???

it doesnt sound like thats something to worry about to me but let me say two things.

if he ever does, don't put up with it, just leave, it's just like cheating, he's hurting you and you dont need to waste your time.

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you always need to pay careful attention to what your friends say about a guy. just trust me.

sounds like right now he is doing fine, exerting his anger on inantimate objects. you could tell him when he's calm about how it sometimes frightens you or even suggest ways to stop the things that upset him or release anger in another way.

I'm not going to tell you to tell him to stop hitting things, because I know alot of people think that will help. WRONG, it doesn't, it may only cause him to hit you before he even gets really mad.

What things make him mad? If you know what things make him mad you might be able to prevent him from getting mad at these things. WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T TELL HIM HE NEEDS TO CALM DOWN, GET HELP, OR SEE A PSYCHIATRIST. This action will PROBABLY **** him off, and you don't want that.

I really can't tell you much to do after that, and I won't even tell you to leave him. If your in love, you can't just leave someone. 'Love is blind and it will take over your mind' -Eve 'love is blind'

Tell him he needs to chill out, otherwise you guys can't be together. You're putting yourself in a potentially dangerous situation.

Maybe he dislikes the fact that you can't spell?

LoL. That is one way to get rid of him! And it's funny how you did that with your affair, that's just the kind of confidence girls today need. I just don't understand why so many people (guys and girls) think they can't do better or want to try and get out of an abusive relationship. They always use the same line..."I love him". But will they love him when they put them in the hospital? Or when their boyfriend/girlfriend hurts someone else they love? I just wish more girls/guys had the knowledge and advice to know how to handle relationships like that.

i had a bf who was like tat. started out hitting things. then he slapped me once. i let it go when he promised he wouldnt do it again. but he did. he even beat me. and nothing worked. not even twinkle twinkle little star.

so one day, when i was REALLY pissed off at him, i went to his house, and lucky me he was taking a shower. i went into the bathroom, blindfolded him, and walked him to the garage (without his knowledge), where i told him to stay, because I was going to do "naughty stuff""to him. yeah right, i ran back into his house, jumped his backyard's fence, and left, with my affair. funny thing is, the garage door where he was was open. and he isnt big.

-arianhorn

I like your idea about making him sing a song or something CelticNewAger. Even him counting to 10 would work. Or maybe you can ask him what his favorite date with you was luvableme(or most fun) and every time he gets mad, remind him about the date. Or think about something that makes him happy. I dunno, honestly if it was me, I wouldn't even deal with it anymore for fear of it getting worse. But if you truly love this guy, then do what you can before things get bad.

i agree with mxchick. you need to talk to him pronto. get a way to make him remember not to get so angry, even if its supid (thats better because it makes it funny), like making him whistle twinkle twinkle little star or making him hold his breath

-arianhorn

No offense, but have you not heard about how this has started to become a serious problem now a days? It always starts with him getting mad and taking it out on something else, but if it continues he is going to eventually take it out on you one day. And as for you guys playing like that...it sounds like it's more than playing right now, especially if he has an anger problem. I would ask him to get help or to control his anger more (like tell him that if he truly likes you or loves you that he'll control his anger because it scares you sometimes). Just do it soon before it becomes a serious problem.

thats the exact difference between american girls and puerto rican girls. american girls let guys be violent, at time even hit them. puerto rican girl get the gun.

-arianhorn

stop pissing him off and he wont do that kinda stuff.

I'd say you need to talk to him about, but it does not definitively mean he will hit you. I had a boyfriend who would hit things when he was angry but if I so much as lowered my head when he did it he would know I was intimidated and stop, and I would hit things too, and we would like slap each other on the shoulder when we were joking or threaten to hit each other playfully, but I never would have thought to hurt him.

~Kitty

*wrong, thats first

wake up, girl, he WILL hit you. they always start that way. joking and hitting other things. then they hit you.

-arianhorn

Ok...No one has replied to this which is really weird. I think he will end up hitting you, not soon but eventually. He has an anger problem, but thank god he doesnt take it out on you. My b/f at the moment as an anger problem, but he never gets mad while i am around him because he knows he gets carried away. he also punches things and ends up breaking his and and what not. I trust him, so as long as you trust your b/f it should be ok. But the fake hitting thing that you guys do would scare the cr4p outta me. lol. good luck
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