Let me just start out by saying I don’t get along very well with my dad, but then who really does. He is always saying things like “you stupid b**** ” “you will never amount to anything you dumb b**** ” or “who the hell do you f***ing think you are dumb***”. I don’t know if I should be complaining, but the thing is that I have begun to believe him. Do you have any advise or comments?

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Originally posted by WorthWaitingFor:
bauhaus, while she may very well do some dumb/bad things (I don't know, since she hasn't responded), her dad's actions are still unacceptable.

I AGREE! The only reason i agree is because my parents got divorced because of how my father spoke to me. He alwas said stuff about how i was doing in school (very rude comments) or call me and idiot or a b**** or a f** or something along those lines. I have very many abusive relationships these past two years and it just isnt acceptable.

bauhaus, while she may very well do some dumb/bad things (I don't know, since she hasn't responded), her dad's actions are still unacceptable.

My parents would never call me a dumb b**** no matter how bad I screwed up.

verbal abuse is horrible. But why does he say these things to you? If you do act like a dumb b- maybe you should change what you do. If you are going to respond please be as honest as you can.

People's brains under 22 arent fully "there" yet, theres an imbalance and its hard for you to see it. So please tell us exactly what you do, for him to tell you these things.

Look at the responses they are quick to blame your dad.

OMG. The question is who does he think he is? Just because he is your dad he doesn't have any right to be treating you that way. You should try telling someone who would understand and try and help you maybe another family member a friends parent or someone else you trust. In my opinion I would rather be hit than yelled at because at least with physical abuse you have scars to show that eventually fade. But emotionally scars are much deeper and never really fade.

I think physical abuse is just as bad as verbal abuse and visa/versa. They both leave scars that are forever there and are rarely removed or slightly torn away. My advise, in my case, verbal, is to try to stay away and do your best not to pay attention even though the comments will hurt.

Thank you for your comments and advise.

Dad problems - thyve made me do so many stupid things and get onto so much stuff thats not good for me . One second its like i dont give a damn and the next its like but you are my dad . and then again he is not always bad which makes it impossible to out and out hate him .

You should get a buffer . A mom or sister/brother who will trade abuses with you on your Dad or distract you or tell you your worth or........

Just make sure and talk or write or something and dont get onto anything worse.

And yaah verbal abuse is worse than physical .

My mom does the same thing, and I think it can be worse than physical abuse. But I don't know, I guess I'm just used to it.

The best advice is to take it with a grain of salt, and know that you are important. Your dad isn't the ultimate judge of you, you are.

much luv

~*FOXY*~

Don't listen to him. Realize why he is saying these things so you know they are not true.