I just found out that one of my guy friends is gay. I just wanted to know how to approach the situation and what to say to him. I don't have anything against him. I still consider him a friend. I just want to know what to do.

Uh... treat him like normal? Just a suggestion. Yeah, don't pretend nothing happened, just be a friend. He's no different than before.. unless you had a crush on him or something.

yeah, my friend brought her girlfriend by my house today, it was kinda strange, but still fine. just embrace it, and tell him your cool with it.

Thank you all for your comments. I don't really care that he is gay. He is still a good friend of mine. I was just wondering because I have never had to deal with one of my friends being gay. It is a new thing for me. Thank you for all of your posts.

If he told you he was gay, I suggest:

Telling him how awesome you think it is that he trusted you enough to share that.

Say that it's totally okay with you and that you're still his friend and it doesn't change anything.

Ask him if he's okay and tell him you're there for him.

If he didn't tell you, and somebody else did, I would say nothing. If he doesn't tell you or it's not obvious (obvious meaning that he's telling you about his boyfriend, not obvious as in "he seems very gay") I would say nothing. If he is in fact gay and wants you to know, he'll tell you.

Did he tell you, or was it rumor mill stuff? Because that changes how you could/should react.


Just be a friend, listen when he talks, offer advice when he needs it.

Like Iceland said, don't force the issue, but just let him know that you're supportive, and you want to understand.

There are two things not to do:

1. Do not ignore it or pretend they never said anything.

2. Do not pressure them to talk about it if they're obviously uncomfortable, or if you're talking somewhere they're gonna be uncomfortable.


As long as you don't do those two things it will be fine, and those are easy to do so don't worry about it.

Also, if they've never been able to talk about it, your friend will probably actually like it if you asked him any questions you might have.

Do you really care that he's gay? I don't care how my friends like to do it because it's none of my business. It doesn't change who he is does it?