I was 13 when i lost my virginity. I dont regret it at at all because although it was unprotected i am not pregnant. I think teenagers should be able to have sex if they really want to.

hi, its been a while since i last treplied but yeah i totally agree teen pregnancy is dumb, i have family that i am really close with that had a baby at 16, a few years ago, and im 16 now and its so scary to think how much i am going through right now and to have a baby. i would be so scared. Yes please use a condom, but my cusion got pregnant even when she did have a condom. the best way seriously is not to have sex at all. dont ruin your life at such a young age. im not saying babies are a waste of time, or ruin ur life completely. because they dont, i definetely want kids but to be so young and a child still its so scary to think of all the changes i'd have to go through. im still a kid, and dont know everything i should, i wouldnt know what to do with myself, if i became pregnant. Of course i would still have the baby, but i would give it up for adoption. I am doing a report on abortion right now, and what those people go through and put their babies through is completely disguisting. I would never ever do that. its not the child's fault that u screwed up, and sometimes its not the mothers fault either if they are raped but still, abortion is not the answer. Its murder, you should have the baby, and think everything through if u want to keep him or her or givethe baby away to a family who can support them better. i personally would want to stay in touch with the family, to see how my child was doing throughout its life. You cant ever get that chance back, and when abortions occur, a lot of times women cant have children anymore. And many people think its okay b/c it will keep teens from having kids themselves, but if its made illegal than teens will stop having sex so young, wait till their married and settled down, this way they will know whats coming. But if u cant hold back, which ik alot of people cant, even though its not an addiction, but some act like it is, ALWAYS DOUBLE UP, not like double up on comdoms, but take birth control pills, and go to clinics and ask them other then abstinence what else would decrease ur chances of getting pregnant. Think it through, before ur act.FOLLOW YOUR HEART, ITS THE ONLY THING THAT WILL KEEP YOU FROM MAKING A MISTAKE, AND THINK OF OTHERS THIS MIGHT EFFECT.DONT LET ANYONE PRESSURE YOU, MAKE SURE U ARE COMPLETELY 100% POSITIVE YOU ARE READY FOR THIS KIND OF RESPONSIBILITY, BECAUSE PREGNANCY IS THE LEAST OF UR WORRIES, YOU CAN GET STD'S,HIV, AND AIDS. PUT YOURSELF FIRST, AND MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR ABOUT TO DO. IF UR THINKING ABOUT AN ABORTION, PLEASE REMEMBER YOU MIGHT BE LET OFF EASY FOR NOW, BUT U WILL REGRET IN THE FUTURE, AND YOU LET A CHILD DIE.

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teen pregnancy is so dumb. If your going to have sex use a condom duuuuuu.

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She said it for me!

my mom was really really young when she had my two older brothers and myself, and i think that she was just getting her medical degree and taking tests n stuff when she had me. my bio father left us, 3 kids n a single mother in her residency.

you have to bee strong...

Your not being imature by saying that sex is gross because I counld understand that you are young and you haven't done that yet. But thats good that you and your bf have a bond like that and don't get mad about what others say gerbergurl because you know whats true and whats not.

You can't say stop, breathe, and remember it's not your life cause that person could have gone through or is going through something you have so thats also important to keep in mind.

Really you can't say it's a lessoned learned because the fact that you can't get rid of it and it won't go away. Now you not studying for a test and you getting a 0 on that test now that would be a lessoned learned because next time you would know that next time you can study but with a baby you will still know that you mad a mistake but nexttime make a different choose but you still have one of the results.

I know that having a baby is a hard job. So you have to take care of a child being a child. Yeah, it maybe hard, but sometimes you learn things that you have not learned before. I know clothes, foods, and pampers may cost, but their is a reason for everything. Then sometimes these reasons make you stronger and you may learn alot or sometimes nothing will not be learn. So having a baby is hard, then again it can be a lessoned learned.

live and let live. If you have the urge to preach... stop, breathe, and remember it's not your life. With this topic.. that's important to keep in mind.

three words: true love waits!
personally right now i find sex a little gross. i don't mean to be imature about it but it's just not appropriate until you can deal with the end result. and i know that right now i couldn't and i would be to scared of getting caught in the act and to ashamed of what i had done. i don't think sex is worth it until you find the right person to share it with.
i started dating this year and not even a month after we were dating i got a true love waits ring b/c i didn't want the rumors. my bf and i will have been dating for 8 months as of june and i hate the rumors that go around about us even though we both had TLW rings. that's the sad thing about our society is that sex is expected after a week.

Teens with babies you see a lot of this around the areas of where I live. I have thought about having a baby before but not at the age I am now. I was thinking around 24-25, but me and my boyfriend even talked about it and he didn't agree with the ages I said he said never but hey it can change when you have sex. Having a baby would be a big responsability and most teens that think about are young leaving with there parents and don't have job's so what exactly do they think they would do? I love kids, I love watching them and spending time with them but I can;t picture having my own. And I have to admit I have had sex before and I can't be ashamed cause if that was the case I shouldn't of did it in the first place but after my first experience I really wished it never happened, and sometimes I hate myself for it, but I always have to think im not having a baby and I won't have sex again till I know I can take care of another humans needs.

umm..

i agree..

but i dont agree with premarital sex.. so iv got no problem there..



..i just wanna say that i dont think that in rape situations, the rapist will go through the trouble getting a condom.. poor teens..

JHOLLY
Some people don't get a choice if they want to use a condom. If they are raped they can't say wait i have to get a condom!!!!

Some people use condoms and they are sometimes very uncomfortable to use. They sometimes don't work.

I'm really fascinated by the responses. It breaks my heart a little to hear girls under 20 say they want to have a child, even claim to understand what it's like.

I became a Dad just days after my 18th birthday. I completed high school and am now in college, still raising my young boy. But it was a struggle. I'm glad to see triumphant responses from teen parents who have made it, but you should understand that this isn't the trend. It is quite challenging to raise a child, and continue school, and work. I haven't had parents supporting me, so this has been completely my own journey.

Understand... it is possible to raise a normal, healthy child when you're a teen. But the risks are too great.

I don't think that teen pregnancy is bad. i am 15 years old and i have a 5 month old. I is hard but you take what is dished to you. My boyfriend is not in my childs life. i live with my parents and they help me out,but they don't take over like she is their child. When i need someone to watch her they volunteer. i have kept up with school and i am a Freshman in High school. My parents thought that i should give her up at first, but i proved to them that i could do it. I won't lie it is very hard. I plan on going to collage to become a nurse. Even though i am a mother i am going to reach my dreams.The Father does come over sometimes to see Rosa.He goes out with other people,but he still spends time with his child.

[This message was edited by Kittycats on May 05, 2004 at 10:30 AM.]

since i can't edit my posts now, i would also like to ad that both my cousin had her daughter (my second cousin) at 18 and my friend's mom had her at 18. yes they struggled a bit for the first few years of their daughters lives. but then they got married when their daughter were young at are still with their husbands in pretty stable environments.

I don't think there is anything wrong with teen sex with protection. I wish i had a baby right now too but since i'm only 14 it wouldn't be a "healthy" aspect in my life.

spanishchica, you're fine- the urges are biological. i've been wanting a baby since i was 11 or 12 (don't have kids yet though) the female body on average is able to start producing children at about 12 years of age-in a lot of cultures still girls would be married and starting families between 12-16 years of age. just try not to act upon that urge until you are more stable, ok? which for all i know could be next year. who knows?

i'd just like to point out that just because a baby is born to teen parent(s) doesn't automatically mean they'll grow up in a crappy home and not know both parents. waiting until you are an adult to have your baby doesn't automatically guarantee roses and sunshine. my grandma turned 18 three weeks after my mom was born so my mom was a product of teen parenthood. so my mom decided to wait until after college and marriage to have kids (she turned 28 after my brother was born and was 31 when i was born)- but it still wasn't as great as she thought. my folks divorced when i was a baby and things still sucked. one of my friends is almost 19 and has a little girl about 2 (she was date raped when she got preggers), she started college last semester and will be back either in the summer term or fall. she knows how to program and build computers, she's starting her own businesses. she's also looking into programs she can do in japan because she wants to live there. two more of my friends each have a child from a previous relationship- the woman has a daughter now 9; the man has a son now 15. they were 17 and 19 when their kids were born. they have a little house, a cat, a dog. there kids are healthy, they have good jobs. one graduated college the other one is working on it. there are adults who don't have there stuff together like that who didn't have kids ever. so it's unfair to the people who are actually getting themselves together to just dismiss them as hopeless cases. the one person i know that was a teen mom that did concern me was a girl in my 9th grade english class- and that's cause she was 14. but after school she took care of her son; i haven't seen her since high school though so i don't know what happened to them.

i'd think the worst thing about being a parent at any age would be lack of support and people belittling you constantly. yes i'll admit i have told people that what they did sometimes was dumb but i'll also support them as best i can even if it's just giving them info about where to go for support and resources.