okay this is for everyone the looks down on teen moms. we all didn't get pregnat bc we wanted to. i was raped when i was 13 with my first child. i decided to keep her bc it was for the best. Now i am 6 months pregnat but only because my lil madison needs siblings. trust me its not all fun and games but not every teen with a baby is bad sometimes we can't help it. Madison's(my 1st baby) dad may not be around bc i don't know him but i do have a wonderful man that she thinks of as her daddy and he treats her like she is his. so i know that my lil girl on the way has nothing to be afraid of bc she will be taken care of. for all you teen mothers or mothers to be good luck. its hard going to school and having a job but if u stop to look you will find someone. feel free to e-mail me if you have any questions teen moms. naughtygirl_sweets_69420

I think if you can handle being a mother then thats good.
I congratulate any woman/girl who got pregnant in her teens and finished high school and went to college.

I personally feel teens should use more birth control and not feel so embhrassed about it. I'd be embhrassed if I didn't use ANYTHING!

I think President Bush should spend money on information abstinence and birth control. yes abstinence is good because no STDs and so on. but birth control should be talked about too. it's realy more up to the couple. i think wating to have sex after you're married is much better. it'll be with the one you love. if you have sex with someone and then leave them, 1: it's like losing part of yourself and 2: you've lost that special moment. birth control is good too. you don't have any kids to worry about after. it's really up to you. just be respinsible.

I'm 17 and I have baby boy who is a week old today.It is hard I'm not gonna lie,but I still love him no matter what.I have to depend on my parents and it's hard.I do plan to get a job soon,but until then I have to depend on my parents 4 now just until I get my **** together.I feel bad when I see my parents going to work everyday to take care of me and my son.I feel like I should also be going to work which I will soon.

I have thought about being a mother more than once just like the rest of us girls but what really discusses me is that i cant even walk down the street in nyc or bronx, ny without seeing one teenage girl wheeling a baby carrage and it really discusses me when i have to see that and it puts more and more pressure on the rest of us girls that dont have babys and who are not willing to have babys right now. I know how hard it is to have to take care of a baby I myself dont have one but my mom recently had one and it feels like my own I am always feeding him, changing him, buying him things and watching him. And I will tell all you ladies out there who were thinking about becoming teen mothers it aint easy. You have to constantly be focused on them, you cant go out with out worrying about him/her and changing and feeding him it takes up most fo your time. SO i hop what i told you makes a diference because my mother having that kid made an impact on me and it makes not want to have children until i get older. I see what she goes through and what she has to do and that she is always tired and i dont want to do that to myself.

There is usually this thought around teen mothers that they're all s luts. In some cases, as in all things in life, this is true but in some it's also not. I know a couple of teen girls who are pregnant or having sex and they are some of the most careing and wonderful people I have ever met. Sterotypes in teen sex and pregancy need to be changed and based in your own mind on a person to person level. You need to know the person before you judge them and their way of life.

if you are 14 and pregnant you have no respect from me. you might think oh this gurl has a big mouth. i am only speaking the truth. u are suppot to have fun. not be at home watching ur kid. sex can wait. i am a freashman in high school, and even i know sex can wait. there is a lota of girls that are prgnant. its weird seeing a perttyful girl going to waist. i mean why would u throw your life away ur life well thats what i gotta say unprotected sex can wait.

-LOUDMOUTH

I am sorry that happen to you wow 14 years old i am now 14 and there is tons of girls pregnant at my school. i look at them with no respect because teens should not be pregnant wait to you are older i am not going to say wait to you are married because i thint when you are in your middle twentys your old enough but no girl deserves to be pregnant. she is suppost to go to partys have fun but when you have a baby you have tons of things u have to look out for i am not telling you to listen to me but wait for unpretected sex u might think you are ready but you are not

Don't always judge a pregnant teen by it's cover. What I really mean is don't think all teens just got pregnant by just making a stupid mistake because you really don't know that person or what they could of done to prevent it. One of my friends has a mom who had her when that mom was only sixteen and the father of my friend left both of them. Right now my friend and her mom are living in not the best conditions, but atleast the mom is trying to make a diffrence. So hopefully from now on when you see or know some teen thats pregnant don't just assume you know how it happened because you don't know who they are or what they have gone threw.

-Sporty girl

Im sorry, but I don't know why people go around and feeling sorry for themselves and displaying that they have a kid for attention. Personally, if you didn't want a kid, then don't have sex. PERIOD!! So, I don't feel sorry for anyone that has kids at a young age cause you KNOW the consequences! If you are old enough to have sex, then obviously you are ready for a child.

well, i am a catholic girl, who doesn't believe in abortion. If you don't want to have a baby don't have sex. I am sorry if this seems rude, but i really just want to put it clearly Don't Have Sex until you are married.AND to all teen moms that kept your kids, I am really really happy about that! I want to thank you for that. and i want to wish you all Merry Christmas, Happy Chanukah, Happy Kwanza, and Happy New Years!

I'm surprised to hear that using protection doesn't always prevent pregnancy! Well, I attend a Catholic school and they teach never to use protection but this year they came in and said to use it for "safety" because so many girls were getting pregnant at school. I just assumed it was a slim-to-none chance of getting pregnant if you're using condoms,pills,etc.

My friend is 13 and pregent do u think thats werid???

blah blah shut up

why do ppl think that being a teen mom is so hard.. it isn't i mean i have a kid and i raise myself and my kid just fine!! i wish ppl would stop judging us because they don't know what it's like and they don't know how bad it hurts to see people making fun of them!! i mean yea it can b chalenging but it isn't that hard!!! so to everyone out there stop making fun of teen moms and giving us dirty looks ok!!

~brittany lyn~

Hey all... I just thought that maybe what I have to say might be of a lil bit of help to at least one person out there who's having sex or is pregnant. Basically, I've never been pregnant (thank God) but I have had my share of sex and all of the stress that comes along with it. Ladies, sex really isn't that serious is it? I mean is it worth wasting your life over?? I dont think it is. I mean think about it...you get like 15 minutes of pleasure for 9 months of pain and a lifetime of responsibility. I think thats all a bunch of bull. I think that if a girl wants to have sex, then hey, its her choice to do that....not anyone elses. But whenever you do decide to go with it, just make sure you consider all of the consiquences that could hit you at any given second. And last but not least, like I said, I've been there and done that. I lost my virginty when I was 12 and in the 7th grade. I dont have any STD's (I get checked at a Planned Parenthood Center...great place for teens by the way) or anything like that, but I just consider myself lucky. But even if you dont get pregnant or get an STD, there are still consiquences like regretting what you did or feeling heartbroken once your guy is done with you. Heartbreak is the worst thing that can happen is what I think, and that's probably the most common side effect from having sex. Ladies, just be careful, be smart, and THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. "It may take 2 to tango but it only takes 1 dance."
PLease, E-mail me if you feel like I might have anything "worth hearing" on any "teen issues". ----Believe me, I have been thruough almost anything you can throw at me. It can't hurt to see if I can help at all...My e-mail: cvricanpuppyluv@aol.com

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some one in my school is pregnant, the teachers know....she has special previlages...she doesnt know who the father is ...3 suspects

Obviously some one can't screw herself and get pregnant. There has to be someone else involved in this. Sometimes teens are left with confusion after these kinds of incidents... what to do? whether to keep the baby? or abort!?
Ofcourse, first option in mind will be "abortion", which is for sure not the best solution. It is hard for you to raise a child, during ur teen years, reaching school everyday, have no job, no husband, and all those phrases that a teen has to go through.but too bad, that u never thought of it while you were doing it. you say that you're a teen, how could u raise this child? this unwanted baby! BUT before you had sex did you ever think of it? did you ever think that you were a TEEN? well to the ones who really don't care about, ending up with pregnancy, maybe you should read all these stories up there. they are inspiring and helpful. and also maybe, next time, you should think before you do something, so that u don't end up like the others did. to raise a child ain't easy.
it isn't important whether u have sex with somebody before marriage or not, as long as u know what you're doing and you're old nuff to take care of urself, ur able to take care of a baby too!
good luck. holler at me if ya need to reply at dis.(zoneunknown@hotmail.com)
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Fariza

To All Teens w/ Babies or Not

I have read alot of the stories and I think that No one knows until they have been there! My best friend got pregant and didn't know what to do. The first thing that she thought of was a "ABORTION". Which I was totally against but she told me that if I was in her position I would have to change my mind! I thought about it and asked her if she would let me tell her all of my reasons that the baby deservers to live! And she said yes and by the end of the 3rd hour of talking to her she was in tears and understood me 100% which made me very HAPPY ! She told me that she wanted to keep the baby and she told me she wanted me to come w/ her to a child raising class, and I did go and I came to realize that she was scared and I told her that it was her doing to make that child and to care for it! She didn't know what to do at the age of 13! and becoming a mother when she would be 14 and it was a very freightful thing for her to exciprence as well as me! I went and held her and threw her labor and cut Ashlyn's ambilical cord! I knew that my friend Katlyn thought that the father of her baby wouldn't be in their babies life and So I went to talk to him told him all that she had went threw as well as how much she wanted him in there for the baby! They soon enough got together and decided to go and get the baby child care and they got a house and now live together both supporting the baby and for the final thing not everthing turns out this way so wait until you are surely ready and if you ever need any advice then e-mail me at deedra_loves_rc@yahoo.com