some one in my school is pregnant, the teachers know....she has special previlages...she doesnt know who the father is ...3 suspects

Obviously some one can't screw herself and get pregnant. There has to be someone else involved in this. Sometimes teens are left with confusion after these kinds of incidents... what to do? whether to keep the baby? or abort!?
Ofcourse, first option in mind will be "abortion", which is for sure not the best solution. It is hard for you to raise a child, during ur teen years, reaching school everyday, have no job, no husband, and all those phrases that a teen has to go through.but too bad, that u never thought of it while you were doing it. you say that you're a teen, how could u raise this child? this unwanted baby! BUT before you had sex did you ever think of it? did you ever think that you were a TEEN? well to the ones who really don't care about, ending up with pregnancy, maybe you should read all these stories up there. they are inspiring and helpful. and also maybe, next time, you should think before you do something, so that u don't end up like the others did. to raise a child ain't easy.
it isn't important whether u have sex with somebody before marriage or not, as long as u know what you're doing and you're old nuff to take care of urself, ur able to take care of a baby too!
good luck. holler at me if ya need to reply at dis.(zoneunknown@hotmail.com)
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Fariza

To All Teens w/ Babies or Not

I have read alot of the stories and I think that No one knows until they have been there! My best friend got pregant and didn't know what to do. The first thing that she thought of was a "ABORTION". Which I was totally against but she told me that if I was in her position I would have to change my mind! I thought about it and asked her if she would let me tell her all of my reasons that the baby deservers to live! And she said yes and by the end of the 3rd hour of talking to her she was in tears and understood me 100% which made me very HAPPY ! She told me that she wanted to keep the baby and she told me she wanted me to come w/ her to a child raising class, and I did go and I came to realize that she was scared and I told her that it was her doing to make that child and to care for it! She didn't know what to do at the age of 13! and becoming a mother when she would be 14 and it was a very freightful thing for her to exciprence as well as me! I went and held her and threw her labor and cut Ashlyn's ambilical cord! I knew that my friend Katlyn thought that the father of her baby wouldn't be in their babies life and So I went to talk to him told him all that she had went threw as well as how much she wanted him in there for the baby! They soon enough got together and decided to go and get the baby child care and they got a house and now live together both supporting the baby and for the final thing not everthing turns out this way so wait until you are surely ready and if you ever need any advice then e-mail me at deedra_loves_rc@yahoo.com

I'm 19 and have a four year old daughter, it's not easy! Girls need to think before they just spread thier legs! Boys too!!! O)n second thought stay a virgin till marrige! Life is full of hardness don't let a baby be one of the things you regreat later when you are a loser working at burger king. I finished high school, go to work, and am starting college soon. Think!!!!!!

ok...to the teen w/ a baby....
i feel sooooooooo sorry for u... i mean, u say its cool having a baby and i dont doubt that.. but ur only 17!!!!!! u said u knew what u were getting yourself into and i doubt that... u dont even hav time now to figure out who u are, let alone take care of someone else!! i mean, now, ur trapped.... u cant just undo all of it...u hav to stick with the baby. im not saying ur not, but, u still dont hav time to just be u... i guess all that matters, is that ur happy.. i hope u keep giving the baby everything it needs. good luck!!!
cole8

Dear Dustinsangel,
It takes two to make a baby. You know what you are capable of doing. When make tht decision to do that to, make sure your heart is with that decesion and not just your hormones. Whoever the father of your child may be has to stand up be a man and take care of his responsibility. "It ain't no thang" to just up and go have kids. People make mistakes. You are strong and very sophisticated. Have faith and keep holdin' on. Remember, it takes two to raise a child.

Peace,
Preciousangel18

There is no "safe sex", everything has risks. Even if you don't get pregnant or get an STD, you will still live with it for the rest of your life. Back in the 50-60s, STDs were the least of anyones worries, and could be cured quite easily. Now, their are life threatening STDs that are quite impossible to cure. Think about having sex before you have sex; do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person? Or do you just want to experience sex? My advice, wait until you are old enough to get married at least! I can't control your choices, but just use common sense.

Currently i am nineteen years old. not saying i'm perfect but youth need to realize that they are taking a risk everytime they have sex and they need to be weary of that. they think oh yea i'm not going to get pregnant if i have sex one time or even get a std. but HELLO! it only takes that one time. youth need to wake up and realize that.

1. teens with babies ride my bus
2. pregnant women go to my school
3. babies with their teen moms go to my school

there. that's my life. and i'm only going to junior high. heh heh

Sex is getting complicated, why? u may ask.
Heres why in my opinion,Sex has become something immoral.I believe sex was created strictly for married people(BIBLICALLY), thats why people that violate this law(who are mosly youths) suffer the conseqences(except of course u were abused), they get unwanted pregnancies,HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.
Now to the main topic, most youths get pregnant early ,we can't kill them for instead we should help them and create a real loud awareness program that would so lud that when that chic's about to get into bed with a guy it'll hit her so hard she'll turn straight back. I also think abortion should be an option it's murder, it better killing a hardened criminal than killing an innocent child, whoevever does that in my opinion is a muderer and a coward afraid to take responsibility for a child. Even if your parents would kill u ther are people out there ready to help. Don't get into something u ae\re not ready for, you're are not the first teen to raise a child.aprilolu@yahoo.co.uk

I am not i repeat not gonna have sex before i am married, no offense but i don't understand how anyone else can either. Guys brag ya know..... and i just am confused why anyone would have it before marriage.... could someone like help me understand, please..

My name is Judy and I am a teen mom. I got pregnant at 15 and had my baby at 16. My baby was no mistake I knew what I was getting myself into when I had sex with the father of my child. I loved him and we wanted a baby so we had one. I am no longer with him sad to say but I still don't regreat having my baby and her father is very involved in her life. We are still friends and we love our daughter Jessel very much. Now I'm not saying it is easy having a baby it is hard but I don't regreat what I did and nieither does he. So if you are a teen mom keep your head up high it will be aight.

wow, sticksgrl has an amazing story.

dont have sex if u are not ready for parenthood. not saying that if u want kids, then have sex, but make sure that u are ready. god gave marriage for this reason.

honestly....I don't know how babies can make babies! I do understand it is very easy to do...but people know that what they are doing have consiquences, I'm not saying having a baby is the only consiquence, but then again some people don't care about this consiquences! I can't exactly make any teens stop what they are doing...'cause I may sound like an adult saying it...or I may sound like another annoying voice saying the same bs...over and over again! The only thing that I will probably repeat even while I'm holding my v-card is....."RAP IT UP". If u want to go around "doin' the do" please rap it up! If u don't see it....I will explain it..... Our generation is dying out fast...it still has drug and gang relations as a fault but std's play a big part in it now! Have y'all heard about "the buddy system"? NO not the school buddy system! But The new teen thrill... where you go to parties to have sex with ur peers? How is this affecting our generation? IF u don't see it then tell me how it's making it any better!
thank u!

ps. sorry if I'm too outspoken...if u want to talk to me about my habbit, or any other issues, or u just want to holla at me as a friend...DO SO! peace! ~Eb

O.K., I never realized how many teenage GIRLS got pregnant every year, or even month! That was until my mother became a Doula and started teaching birthing classes. Now she comes home at night telling me how upset she is because she got another 13 years old girl in her class PREGNANT. My god,what is this world coming to? I felt so scared for that girl. Now she has 2 of them. Both at the age of 13. One of them doesn't even know the daddy of her baby because she had sex with two brothers in one night. It was one of those group things. I just don't see how girls can do that! I've been raised in a big christian home so I pray for every teenage girl my mother tells me is pregnant, CONSTANTLY! Another thing that is so sad is that the girl who doesn't know who the daddy is, her mother is dying on top of that and she has no father. DHR will probably take her away and maybe take her baby away since she's only 13. Please PLEASE pray for her! I've never met her but I'm still praying for her like crazy!! Y'all we might not be able to stop the teenage girls from having sex but God can. I mean, I walk in the public schools and see tons of pregnant teens walking around talking about how much FUN they had making their baby's. That really does make me sick. I pray for them though and would certainly not be mean to them. I just remember it being that girls ruled,they didn't let the guys get a finger on them, you know, drive them crazy. Now teenage girls give in to any offer the guys put out there! WHAT HAPPENED!? The guys are taking over the girls!! Please pray about this. PLEASE!
Nancianne

Man! half a million babies are born to teen mothers, was it every year! I dunno about anyone else, but that is way to many for teenagers! stop having sex!! i was given a pamphlet that says 101 ways to make love without having sex! and you know what it works! i figured that i would want to wait till i had a stable career and money flow, a loving husband in wedding lock, and a house for the child to grow up in.

Hello. My name is Nicole ******* and I'm 16 yrs. old. I would jus like to tell u all how it is to be a mother at this age. Imma start with my story....I got preg. at the age of 13 and jus like many others out there, I was raped. The weekend that I conceived my child, I was lying in the bed with 3rd degree sun-poisoning from the waist down. Basically, I was paralyzed. My bf at the time took advantage of my immobilization and I ended up preg. Well, I went through my first 5 and a half mths not knowing that I was preg. I began having lower back pains and my mother took me to the hospital. They asked if there was any way that I could be pregnant, and of course I had to tell them yes (in front of my mom). So they run all the tests and we waited for 2 1/2 hrs. The Dr. came in and said that I was pregnant and then walked out. That's it. He didn't tell me how far along or anything. On the way home that night, my mom told me that I had no other choice but to get an abortion. I was VERY shocked. I couldn't believe that she, out of all people, would tell me to kill my own child. It was nuts and I wasn't gonna do it under any circumstances. It was obviously an act of God himself that I found out so late in my pregnancy bc the abortion couldn't be done in this state. I was too far along. Therefore, I started going to the local health dept and they set me up on regular visits and everything was fine. I talked to my baby's father and we worked out some things. Because he was no longer in school due to health problems, he agreed to keep her so I could continue my education. I went on and had my child at 14. I continued my education and now I am the HAPPY mother of a 2 yr old child and a senior in high school. This jus goes to show that ANYONE can get through this. Don't look at pregnancy as a burden, look at it as a time for u to shine. Abortion is not a method of birth control either. That's what condoms and birth control pills are for. It should only b used in the instance that a young lady was raped and had NO POSSIBLE way to keep and raise the child. I hope that my story inspires some of the young ladies out there that think they can't do it. I promise u, it is possible...If you have any ?s or anything, plz plz plz write to me at destiney514@aol.com. I'm on here everyday and I would love to be of any kind of help to any of u. Thx for ur time.. I send my love to all out there. Sincerely, Nicole

[This message was edited by YNmoderator on August 05, 2003 at 06:37 PM.]

I think that abortion should not be seen as "oh, well, if i get pregnant later theres always abortion". You know, as birth control.

But I do think that if a girl gets pregnant, that abortion should be there for an option. Adoption is an option, and raising the child herself should be an option. Whichever one she chooses is her business, and no one elses.

I don't like teen pregnancy, but it's there, so i don't think teaching abstinence in school is the best way to go; education is the best way to go. Tell the kids how to prevent it, and how to deal with it if it happens!!

(And i saw someone say that it's four months when the embryo is a fetus...actually, it's more around 8 weeks, but at that point, all the organs are formed, though it still needs to develop its brain...but four months is when all its systems can completely function)

-rito

I think it is very important not to have a baby (or sex for that matter) until you are married or mature...and by mature I mean in your 20's. I personally wouldn't be able to take care of a baby at my age (17). There is so much responsibility that goes along with taking care of a child and they need your attention 24/7. Also I think people should wait until they are sure they found that special someone before they have sex. I think it is such a turnoff to know that your husband/wife or bf/gf had shared that intimate experience with someone else. I believe that if teens do become pregnant and can't handle it, they should give it up for adoption NOT have an abortion. Abortion is just SICK. Its MURDER although some people don't think so. That baby inside of you has a heart that is beating and you are just sucking the life out of it, literally. That is a sin. Adoption is a beautiful thing. My aunt had ovarian cancer and couldn't have kids and all they wanted was a baby. They got my cousin William and they treat him like a prince. He has everything he could ever want. Who knows what his life would be like if his birth mother had decided to keep him.