I have been raised to believe that sex before marriage is wrong and I'm thankful that I have been raised this way. I however don't hate other people who have sex before marriage but I worry about them for these reasons. One you could end up with a child and that totally changes your life, two you could catch a disease, and three according to God you should stay a virgin until you are faithful (married) to another person.

I really think teen pregnancy is a big problem in today's world, in fact I know that, I think we all know that. I don't think teens know how big of a responsibilty a baby is, of course is another big issue, and obviously whoever is d doesnt have that choice. If you really do love the person and you are 100% sure you are ready for this baby, well go ahead and have .. i mean i personally wouldnt, that's just not me, but maybe i just really havent expeirenced love yet, but i would get married first, but im not going to sit here and preach to everyone about my religious beliefs and the whole issue of pre-marital , i think everyone has a right to there own beliefs and im not going to quote the bible or tell someone else what they believe is wrong.
One major aspect of teen pregnancy that i feel very set against is abortion. Now a baby would disrupt a teen's life and make a huge impact on them, but i personally dont think anyone should have the option of a child, and thats how i see it, i see it as . I don't think anyone should have the choice over who gets to live and who doesn't. If they weren't ready for this child, they should have thought of this before, and i know comes in here too. but still i dont think it is right for ANYONE to chose life for something as helpless as a baby. That's just wrong. If anyone feels like replying, go ahead!

Although I'm a pretty 'liberal' Christian (more of a spiritual rather than religious person), I know I probably won't be having pre-marital sex. The only time I can see me doing that is if I swear on my life that he is the one and I just, for some reason, can't contain myself, lol. But if I were to become pregnant by some strange revelation in my life, I wouldn't really have a problem. I think having a baby is a beautiful thing and I know my mum and dad wouldn't be 100% thrilled but they'd support me and still let me go to university and they'd help me out 100%. They wouldn't get mad at me they'd only help me so I'm not worried about that only that the baby would grow up without a father and be teased but I'm so confident I'd be a good mother to my child, fatherless or not, young or not that i may be, that the guy I would marry when I was ready would be good enough for my baby and if he wasn't good to my baby then he's gone and I'd always make that child the centre of my world and give them what I didn't have if I could.

So I have no worries, but I do feel sorry and pray for those that are lost and don't have parents like mine or the confidence as I do.

I wish they all had what I do.

kidz n' teens if u dont know if ur ready for a kid how bout all u people think it ova and if ur ready go for it no one is stoppin you... null

Well people can do what they want to do and no ones going to stop people from haveing sex befor there married so teach both at school. Or let us pick wich class we take. Its our chose so if we have sex befor were married and they only teach not to, then we wont know how to prtect outsleves and then it will be even worse so JUST TEACH BOTH how hard would that be, not very.

Ok well i know lots of girls have been saying.... that teen preg. isnt a sin... and there right its not but having sex before marrige is!! Some people dont believe that but it is in the bible and for anyone who is a God fan you can back me up!!! So next time someone is pressureing you to "go to far" a good way to get them to stop is to just tell him that you dont believe in sex before marrige thats what i would do!! ok well thanks for reading this messages!!
God bless
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It's defiantly in the mother's hands. Of course, unfortunatly, girls get raped, and they get pregnant even if they are sex-smart. My opinion is that don't have the baby unless you can take care of it. Tell your family. I know people are all active about the child's life, and if you have an abortion you're killing it. In most cases if you have an abortion before a four-month's period after you got pregnant, you're not killing anything, the thing has not developed into a person yet. Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's what I know, and believe to a strong degree.

I have just read your post and I am on the verge of tears hun. First, I am happy to know that you have decided to keep your baby. I wish only the best for you and your child, I wish you a lifetime of love and further blessings.. Dear, you are right in many aspects. Being pregnant is indeed a gift.
I personally think sex is one of the most beautiful things, it is love expressed between a man and a woman and it is that love that creates THE most beautiful thing-LIFE. Now if this is not your idea of sex is, I can't help but feel a bit sad. My belief is that if you are not open to the possibility of creating life when having sex-you should not be having sex.
Fairydust you are right, everyone has their own life and they are entitled to make your own decisions. Nonetheless, just because it is your life does not mean that what you do does not affect others. Your actions DO affect other people, we are all connected to one another in one form or another. It's the domino affect and hard to state in simple terms right now. If we continue believing that what we do has no influence over others how are we ever going to make this world a better place? AS an expectant mother, I am sure you only want the best for your child-let us all give our best to this world and value the dignity of life in all its wonders. Lets Respect and celebrate LIFE.

Abstinence is definitely the best option. It cuts out the risk of STDs and pregnancy. It also saves people from a lot of heartache.

However, there are teenagers who don't care about what should be done, and they do what they want to. So it is very important to educate people about sex. If people now more about how great the risks are they will be more likely to make the right decision. If they choose to have sex anyway, at least, they will know the consequences.

I do agree that knowing how to use birth control and organizations such as Planned Pregnancy will cut down on abortions, but also people should know understand that anyone who has ever told you that you can have safe sex is lying. It isn't just about pregnancy anymore. New sexually transmitted diseases are being discovered all the time. No contraceptive is 100% affective, and many of them don't fight against STDs.

Being abstinent is the best way to prevent both pregnancy and disease. So take care of yourself and save it for marriage.

I am 16 years old and a teen mother because I was raped. I'm now the mother of a beautiful girl named Bethany Lynn. She has honey blonde hair like mine and green eyes like her father who is now in jail for twenty-four years with a count of "serial raping". In other words, I wasn't the only person he raped. He raped my identical twin sister, Caitlyn. She didn't tell anyone. She also didn't know that he was planning on raping her twice. But since we're identical twins, he thought I was her. So, in other words, I was raped on accident. Rape is a horrible thing but you get through it slowly.

-Kylie-

Why would someone wanna get pregnant,and then get an abortion ? Thats just crazy! It's like u wanted to have a baby so now u are pregnate,and now after u get pregnat u start to really think about how hard it is going to be to have a child and still manage to go to school ? Whats wrong with you ? Why didn't you think about that befor you had sex ?

If a guy and a girl think they are old enoguh and responsible enough to have sex then should also be responsible enough to talk about what might happen after. They need to know how the other one feels about things such as the girl becoming pregnant. If you don't think you are ready to take care of another person then don't have sex at all because there is alwyas the chance of you getting pregnant.

Think about. What good comes outta that? If you wanna take care and love something, get a pet. Taking care of that pet times 10 = what u need to take care of a kid. Talk about a pain in the butt. Plus it takes away all your freedom! Your a teen; which means you should be focusing on your career as an actress or interior designer or something fun; shopping and hangin out w/ your friends. You only get 1 life, and get to be young once. Don't mess it up! And its funny how some people think that it could never happen to them because they think they got enough self-esteem or control or some rebelliousness or independence in them. Don't be so neive. It could happen to any1 out there. Point is, you gotta watch whom you date, and what you do from there. If your only in high school, why the hell do you need sex to make you feel good? I sthe guy worth it anyway? Think about it.

I'm not sure how anyone can say "Teen girls need to think before they act.", there are worse things in this world then a 17 year old girl getting pregnant.
I am 17 and 6 months pregnant.
It was very unplanned.
There is a reason for everything..there is a reason why i got pregnant so young..i am not going to look down on me being pregnant. i am going to have just a good life as someone who finishes high school and goes on to college..which is something i can accomplish if i would like but i messed around in high school and got in alot of trouble with grades and etc.

I am not a stupid person. I did not make a stupid choice by having sex nor keeping this baby.

Abortion is not exactley wrong. They make abortion out to be something its not. I have never had an abortion but many people i know have. you don't feel that regret and sadness. you don't feel like a murderer. sometimes the best choice is to get an abortion..it just depends on the person you are.
Dont judge people for the choices they make or have made. there is a reason why they make them.
you live your life the way you want, and others will live theres the way they like.

Yeah... that site was right. I couldn't watch any of the movies, but I made sure ti was the right one. It was. SERIOUSLY, if you are considering having an abortion, check this site out first...
www.abortiontv.com

THANKS!!!

OMG!!! I just read the posts about babies who cannot feel or think... there is a website, I think it is www.abortiontv.com (I won't go to it because I think it is absolutely disgusting...) and I heard there were videos of abortions and in one circumstance the removed fetus (after being removed from the womb) took its tiny hands and clung to the doctor's finger. If you can watch that and still have an abortion, you would have to be lacking a conciounce. (sorry, I cannot spell that...)

Ithink that they should think before they act cause having a baby is alot of responsibilty.and you can't even finish school if you have a baby and i know it is hard for young mothers.

I think teens need to start to realize what they are/ might be getting into, alot of us only think about what is going on right there and than and to some but not me, how fun it might start out to be, but in the future it wont be fun for to loing, being a child urself is scary as it is, and than u have to worry about ur own in a few months. Plus if ur a teen and ur already having sex what is going to happen when ur older and finally settle down and u pass off AIDS/STD to ur spouse, having sex always has results following, and now a dayz they are probably 97% affective to the body. Please think before u do something drastic!!!Thanks

Well my thing is abstinence. You can wait to have sex until you are married . I can, and I am doing just fine. I learned my lesson from my grandmother. She got pregnant with my mother when she was 14 by a 19 year old man. Before he got my grandmother pregnant he got somebody else pregnant. So I don't know him or my grandmother because my mother was adopted. We have tried to find both of my grandparents but we can't find any files on either of them. A baby at my church was born out of a teenaged pregnancy. His mother was 13 when she had him. My thing is being the only girl in the seventh grade with a big pregnant stomach. To me that is very embarassing.My friend is 13 and she got pregnant. I was like girl are you so serious. She was already showing so I knew she was pregnant. Then she lost her baby. Well let me tell you I learned my lesson from her and my grandmother. So all of you girls who are not married, or is a teen and is sexually active stop because you could easlly get pregnant or you could be now.

I Think there are many different reasons to not have sex until your married.(and i'm not just saying this because i am a christian)
(1)What will you tell your children if...
A-You gave birth at 15,16,17 or even earlier and they ask why you are younger than any of the other moms???
B-You tell them when their older not to have sex until they are married(hopefully you would tell them that)they would hold that against u that u had sex when u were younger
(2)Well i don't know about you but at my school it seriously isn't cool if you do have sex. Then you are pretty much an outcast.
(3)Do you really want to run the risk with STD/HIV. Even birth control can't stop that. Yea sure condoms but what if it something goes wrong
Well this is my view on the matter. If you disagree or agree i'd like to hear from you