SwitchKittie,

Most of the reason that contraceptives have low success rates it because most teens don’t use them correctly. If you take the time to learn how to use whenever you choose it will work correctly. When used correctly condoms have 98.9% success rate. When you use the pill as well it helps twice as much. But you have to remember nothing is 100% safe, there is always risk. Just do what you can to lower those risk percentages. Personally I would go with the pill over the shot because you never really know just how fast the shot will go through you body where as the pill you take everyday so you know its there. But that’s just me. Hope I was some help...


Tootles!

last week, for the first time, i made love to my boyfriend of 3 years (come july 13th). it was pretty spontaneous, but we used protection and i am fine; however, it seems that i keep hearing more and more about contraceptives not being as effective as i'd always thought (and, at 17, we are definately not ready to be parents!). my boyfriend and i would like to continue having sex, but first we want to make sure we're using the most effective contraceptives available. we've done some research, but i'd like an actual opinion rather than a bunch of ratios that are often much too confusing to understand. can anyone tell me if the pill is more effective than the shot, or if simultaneous use of the pill and a condom is more effective than using only the pill? i’ve also considered spermicides, but i don’t know anyone else who has tried them or where i would be able to find them. if anyone can help, please reply. thanks so much.

i think laurencruz19 is entitles to her own opinion as we all are... but just bc she has planned her pregnancy and wants us all to worship her and then thinks she can send emails to ppl bashin them bout their opinions (and by the way i have nothing against teens with babies and excuse me maybe i have a baby so watch yerself b4 u say something u might regret) SORRY ITS AMERICAN AND I CAN SAY WHATEVER I WANT SO IF YER GONNA SEND ME AN EMAIL BASHIN ME ABOUT THINGS U DONT KNO ABOUT THEN BAK OFF CAZ U MESSED WITH THE WRONG PERSON

ok, here i am not knowing what to say because there are so many people who think having a child at a young age is wrong for whatever reasons but here goes I am a teen mother i have a daughter who is now 10 months old. yesterday i turned 17 so yeah i was pregnant at 15,having a child young is not a punishment its more of a lesson in growing up and being responsible, i breastfed(but my daughter weaned herself), i co sleep, i put my education on hold to bond and spend time with her BUT i am enrolled to go to school in the fall, i volunteer, i am better then most moms in their 20's and 30's and it is sad that there is little to no support for teen moms. instead of coming down on us how about educating young moms and young moms to be here's my advice: so you say your not ready to be a teen parent 1)dont have sex 2)wear protection and use birth control (although lets face it s*** happens) 3)your pregnant but not ready? explore your options, basically i personally hate people who judge and don't know s*** about what teen moms go through and/or put us down

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I don't think that teen pregnancy is wrong at all. It all falls under whether or not it was planned. If you didn't plan it, you still have no one to blame but yourself. But that doesn't make it wrong at all. Good luck with your daughter, punkmom18! I wish you all the best!

I am a 18 year old young woman and I have a 4 year old daughter. Yes I was too young to be having sex yet alone having a baby! I made the decition to keep my daughter and raise her up as a productive part of sociaty. It was a hard choice to make because I was alone on this choice. Her father left me when I started showing.....usless skin he turned out to be! Luckily I have my mother to help me and my daughter will have a step-dad in a couple years. I am proud to say that just because I was young it didn't mean that I was a bad mom!

I think that its not right for young teenagers to have children.They are not ready to have children at a young age.I'm 18 years old and i am very proud of myself becausse i don't have any children yet.I used protection all the time and everyone very proud because my mom had her first child when she was 15 years old.Young teenagers should be focusing on more important things in life besides sex,drugs,and having babies.That's all i have to say,

Billy:: it's not like she knew he was a dead-beat..he was really good to her..and treated her amazing..Im just saying that usually (from all my experiences with friends/family being prego) the guys leave...or want nothing to do with the kid..or her.

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The father is a dead-beat, and left after he found out (don't most guys tho?!)

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if you date a dead beat, you end up with a dead beat, don't go blaming all guys!

gosh, I wouldn't know what I would do if I got preggy right now. I know my mom would help me. But to an extent. She's like "You've made your bed hard, now lie in it!" or others words "It's your responsibility!" I know I'm not even ready for sex, much less, a baby? No way!

My Best Friend is pregnant...due at the end of August/beginning of September. I know it is hard for her, and I have been there everystep of the way. The father is a dead-beat, and left after he found out (don't most guys tho?!)I think that teens having babies need friends and family to support them mentally. I know it is really helping my friend!

Tou know what you people need to watch what you say cause you may not like teen pregnancy but you know whay i am 15 and i am going to be a mom in september and if you want to reply to this e-mail me at EvelHottie@aol.com

People usually mature when they're older; not spontaneously after they are married.

5 years so you are ready for a kid and everything else in marrage and are ready to be mature

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People should be abstinant until they are married for at least 5 years because thats the only way

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is it just me who's confused? could you please explain?

Why five years?

People should be abstinant until they are married for at least 5 years because thats the only way

i am a strong believer in absteinence, yet i am not ignorant and i do know that teen pregnancy is on the rise in the statistics. i do have great respect for the mother to keep her child, and not have an abortion. i have even more respect for the father to be throughly involved in the child's life. i know that this is hard for mature adults to handle, let alone teens who have school, family and friends to deal with. i have tons of respect for anyone who can go to school and raise a child and still be a teenager! that way of life is really tough, and i guess that's why i chose to keep absteinence.

you know what? diapers...food..and other things baby needs are what they need... I am a 17 year old WITH A BABY ON THE WAY and excuse me for sounding mad but this is b.s. Just because someone isnt a teenager doesnt mean they can not have a child. My baby was planned...it wasnt an accident and just because im young doesnt mean i will end up on welfare...and even if someone is on welfare...don't bash them... they are on welfare because they are doing what they need to do to keep their child healthy and happy. It doesnt matter if they are a teen or 35 years old.. anyone can go on welfare and anyone can be a bad parent... Can i just remind you guys years ago kids as young as 9 were women and having children. It isnt about a teen being pregnant. It isnt about an adult being pregnant. It is about a women no matter what the age loving and taking care of her baby. That is it and that is final. Young people can take care of kids...their kids can be extrememly successful. Just like a 35 year old moms children. Many young mothers i know take care of their children MUCH better than any adult. So stop this "Prevent teen pregnancy" ****..and understand that these girls are braver, wiser, and are able to do this.

People treat teens like they are monsters who just want to have sex and get pregnant. Well some teens do feel that way but some feel that they are in love. You can tell how you feel about the issue when it comes up. I don't think that people have the right to tell us that having sex or getting pregnant is bab and sinful It's not. I know that some people feel differntly on the issue but we aren't monsters who are willing to ruin our life's just to sleep with some one.!!!