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Im just not ready for this!

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Then don't get pregnant.

Most guys my age don't really think about getting a girl pregnant. Sex is nothing more to them than that. I like kids and I'd even have one in my tweenties, but right now there is no way I could have a kid. Once they are born, they are the center of your life. Kids are a great bleasing, but teens shouldn't be having them. Teens need to realize the importance of sex and the risk they take when having it.

i think people with kids that are young should stop *****in because its there damn fault that they ****ed up. so its there fault that they dont have anything to take care fo there kids. its so stupid. so if ur pregnant ur hatin life n if ur not well then if u **** up u **** up.

I am soon to be 16 yrs old.I am a 9th grader in high school.Like other girls I like kids even I would love to have kids of my own someday.But I have lots of friends who have kids who also are 2 to 3 yrs younger then I am.They are always tired they never have time for themselfs .If only they had someone to tell them that no sex is safe sexs.
But millions of teens do not know this and those who do know this are forces to have sex or its because they believe in empty promise I just want to say boys are not worth having sex with.Only when your married is it worth it.

we need to put a stop to teen pregnancy! i dont care who does it !!! but sum 1 needs to. its affecting our world more and more each day! there r more than 5,000 and ^ gurls out there getting pregnant and having babies each second! inow i could go on and on rantin and ravin but i have to go sum were. every body think bout what i said!!

PEACE out! [LIST][/LIST]

Well let me start off by saying, i am Britianie and i'm 15 yrs.old and my boyfriend is 18. he's says he's ready for a child, but as for me i'm not sure because i'm still young and i wonna go off to college... but another thing is i love him and i wonna make him happy, but not by doing something like that... but than again i do wonna have a baby , but i'm still not sure. we've been together for about 2 1/2 years and i really care for him... he tells me that he'll be there for me and the baby and also that when i do go off to college that he'll take care of the baby... also to let you know i'm a sophmore in college, in Sacramento. so by the time i'm 18 i'll be finished with my 4 years... i wonna be an actor and have lots of things going for myself instead of being stuck with a baby to take care of. i am caught in a situation i'm not sure i can handle... i've already had an abortion once before and my parents/aunt didn't know about it. his mom was the one who paid for it. it was almost too late for me to get an abortion. at the time we were going to keep the baby. the reason i don't wonna really have a baby is because my boyfriend is 18 and he doesn't want to go to colleege, he smokes alot and also he doesn't have a job. but he told me once i was tohave a baby by him he'd get a job. he might do as he say, because the first time i got pregnant he went and got a job, so i'm not sure ...
so what should i do... because kids can take alot away freedom away...
Britianie,
Sacramento, CA

After reading Scott's story I was touched. I always liked kids and I would love to have a son of my own and I'm a 17 yr. old guy. I know of the responsibilities myself. I have two younger sisters, and my mom is a semi-workaolic. And since I was 10 I've been babysitting, changing and buying dipers, feeding, getting everyone ready for school, displing, and everything that goes with being a parent. I know that I could be a great father to my child. But I know the downside to it also.

My mom had me when she was 16. Luckly her family supported her in the end and helped her out. But me and my mom have one of the closest mother-son relationships I know of. Sometimes its like we are brother and sister more than son and mother. I know it was hard for her but she wouldn't trade it or me or my sisters for anything (except maybe a day alone and stress-free ) But if I was to have a son now (which I don't expect one) I would be there for he/she unlike my father

I am pretty sure I have posted this in the past,so I will make this short.
THERE IS NOOOOO "SAFE" SEX, JUST "SAFER" SEX.

I can't say I know what Scott goes through everyday because,I don't know.Right now,I am dating a 20 y/o who has a 4 month old son though and I see what he goes through.He never in his life thought that paying child support would be something that he would have to do every week,or buying diapers or bottles or rattles so early in his life.His name is Brian,he loves his son to death,and sees him anytime he wants.Brian doesn't have his life totally straightened out,but what 20 y/o does?He is still realizing that he has to divide his time between the 'guys',family,me,and his son...which goes in the family catergory,but he needs time alone with his son too.My friends asked me if I was crazy for getting involved with a guy with a kid,they said he'd probably get me pregnant and then we'd break up.That's not what happened with his ex,they just argued way too much...and he didn't want his son to grow up in a house or family that argued all the time,and he didn't want to stay with the babys mom just for the baby and make it hell on him.Girls are always after Brian,until he tells them he has a son,I have known him for two years so I knew he had a son,and it was okay with me...him being a dad doesn't change him as a person,he's still sweet,caring and helpful,but most important...he's a great dad.I love seeing him with his son,how the baby just looks at him as him he's saying "wow,that's my daddy,he's such a great guy" or... "thats my daddy and I love him".Being a teen parent isn't easy,I'm not one,but I know from being around it for a long time.Right now,my 15 year old cousin is 5 months pregnant with a little boy,she use to always say when we were out shopping or something when she saw a baby "I want a baby" well,she's getting her baby and now she's asking herself "can I really do this,I can't take care of myself let alone a baby".I can't go through her pregnancy for her,or be a mommy to her baby for her,but I can help her,go through things with her and be there...when she feels that she can't do it anymore,encourage her to go on and tell her she can.People have their own views on sex before marriage,that is up to the people to decide what they want to do.I've had pregnancy scares,a couple of them and I learned my lesson,anytime I have intercourse I use protection,and I'm on birth control...it's up to the person to decide if they want to have sex...but it's also up to them to be responsible if they choose to and use protection.

It is a person's freedom to do what they want with their body as long as they do not purposlly hurt themselves. You can not just put a law on sex. Sex is something intimate and important emotionally. I understand the problem but there are prices for freedom. This is one. One thing America had to do back during the revolutionary war was to learn how to live free and not abuse the freedom they won. This is just another abuse of that freedom. This is more of a moral subject then a official law. I do hope someday all of America will learn how to treat freedom right. But there is a price for not treating it right. Why should people who abuse it be humored by setting a law against those who don't? It is not something you can stop with a law or even with more programs. And if you think taking protection away from younger groups all that will do is worsten the population who abuses it. It would be like making the alchol age law all over again and getting more and more abusers.

I think that sex between teens is very popular in our century.I also think that it is good for young people but we must use condoms or we will getting trouble!After that child the life of two kids has changed but i think that young people are strong and they will do everything for their child to grow up helthy and happy!I am sure that they will make it.Bye,bye!!!

In this day in age, sex is looked at almost as a casual thing that almost everyone is doing. It's on shows, tv, in movies, but people have to see the reality of having sex. It is very very serious and needs to be thought about very hard before it is done. Then, people wouldn't be having babies, and be single parents. Once you have sex, you can't turn back on any regrets. IT's already done.

hey, i think u r very strong to take care of ur son and maintain school.and that ur being respbile cause most dude. and just take care of ur son and always put God first

sincerly,brittany88

I personally do not think that anything should be happening for a teen to become pregnant, but I respect those who value life enough to keep the baby and not kill it through abortion.

I completely agree with OrangeBunnie. If a person chooses to live a life of abstinence the more power to them. But it’s not for everyone. Again I saw the topic of abortion here. I am pro-choice but if it were to happen to me I could not bring myself to do it, but i will not judge others if that is how they wish to do it.

In a class of mine we were told to make laws that we thought would make the U.S. a better place. One guy in class made the law "That any child born to a mother 17 years or younger would be taken away by law." My reaction: "You just try and take my baby away!!" Even if it happened to me at the wrong time in life and it would be hard, I could not bare sending a part of me away to live with someone else. Knowing that it’s out there somewhere without me. So yeah... It all comes with the maturity level.

As far as the fathers go... it just seems to be easier for them to walk away because they didn’t carry it... nurse it... give birth to it. Granted some guys would never leave their child because its just as much a part of him as it is the mother. I don’t know... All I can really say is... if you choose to have sex be sure you know what ALL of the possible outcomes may be...
I'm only 18 and I just had a miscarriage a few months ago. It was an accidental pregnancy, and it wasn’t the right time in life... but still, I was beginning to look forward to it. So it hurt, but in the end it was for the best... and for the record... it hurt my boyfriend more thinking that he just lost our child... *shrugs*...

Peace out.. ~Alex~

I TOTALLY belive that you should wait until you are married before having sex,like HelloKitty already said,you can only give away your virginity once.Personally,I only want to give away something that precious to my husband. Besides, birth control obviously does not always work,why risk it!! Teens are not meant to be having babies,physically,socially(children born out of wedlock,especially to a young girl,will be looked down appon) and emotionally.
And by the way Narnia714, abortions are NOT little babies being slowly torn to bits!! When you get an abortion all they "kill"(note the quotation marks,it's not really killing) is a little clump of cells that has no resemblance to a baby and that has no feeling!! Would you rather "kill" a clump of cells or have the baby born to a person who does not want it,or have the baby born with a diseas,or have the baby born and then left in a DUMPSTER because the mother does not want\could not take care of the baby!! And what about rape victims?! You can't tell me that a woman who is raped is to blame for the unwanted baby and should suffer the conciquences!
Very good point babygurl,why do the men involved in out of wedlock births not get blamed? Well,I think partly because they are men and our society is still predudice against women. Also,why is it always the woman who gets left with the baby? It takes 2 to make a baby!

I completely agree with joyflgrrl. Not only is abstinence widely unrealistic in our generation, it's ignorant to believe that if you are taught abstinence that you will automaticlly use it. I believe that to keep ahead of this epidemic (teen pregnancies) that you absolutely need to offer more options than just absinence. My health teacher this year, a very religious person who fully believes that you should save sex for marriage, didn't even apply to schools that wouldn't let her teach us about various birth control methods. if someone believes in saving sex for marriage then all the power to ya'. but realize that many many more of us don't. We should have options to make our decisions safe.
P.S. no where in the Bible does it say that sex was only meant for procreation. look for yourself if you dont' believe me.

[quote]my friend just had a baby and gave her up for adoption because she could not bring herself to look at her child.[.quote]

Wow, that's really nice. Do you ave any idea how many kids are already waiting to be adopted? Why bring more children into the world?
The second you realize abortion isn't murder will be better for all of us.

if teens decide to have sex, and she gets pregnant, then she has to make a decision. i do not think she should have an abortion because that is just like murder. if she is not ready to be a mother than she should consider adoption. however, not all teen mothers planned on getting pregnant there are special circumstances. my friend just had a baby and gave her up for adoption because she could not bring herself to look at her child. so girls should look over their options before doing anything drastic.

thank u very much...almost all the time people look at the teen mothers as if we r the bad ones...but it does take 2. i am a single teen mother and my babies dad has not had anything to do with me since i was 2 mths pregnant. i am 8 mths pregnant now and the last time i talked to him he said he wished the baby would die. but yet i am the bad 1 right? i am not sayn teen sex is right but if u love the person u r wit then that is all that matters and as long as u r a adult about the consequences based on the actions u take that is all that matters...