I think teens who have sex is not rapping it up enough. If a teen does end up pregnant I think the male should take responsibilites to because it's 50/50. Really teens should be on some type of birth control and males should rap-it-up. Just my advice and opinion: Be safe than sorry!

Hey it's me again. I was reading the post and i noticed that we are all talking about the teen moms but what about the teen dads? They had apart of this too. Where are they at? Are they helping anybody out?

I just found out that my friend (he's like a big brother) is going to get married to his girlfriend because she's pregant. He's a senior with a full scholarship to a college in Waco, Texas and she is a junior in high school. Now she's trying to take night classes and summer school so they can be together in college. It changed their lives and mine forever. So next time you deceide to have sex think twice because it hurts more than just you.

i think that we really should try to keep from having sex until we are married because it will ruin your marriage life when you are married. Believe me both my sets of parents had sex before they were married. My step-dad had sex with his first wife a couple years before they were married and my biological parents had sex a couple mths. before they were married. It was sad that their marriages didn't last because my dad lives in hawaii and last summer was the first time i saw him in 3 YEARS i was so upset that it took so long but this is what happens when you have sex before marriage.
Now i admit that i do think about sex sometimes and what it would be like to have sex with a guy that i like, but that doesn't mean that i am going to go have sex before i am married. i know this one lady at my church who was about 55(?) when she finally got married for the first time and she was still a virgin. virginity is something you can only give away once. so save yourself for the wedding bed and give your husband all you have there. not before.

It doesn't give you the right to, Im not barely the legal age, but what should it matter? Some people have sex becuase their partners pressure them to, others becuase of alcohol, or becuase they are ready to have children. Growing up isn't easy. One of the toughest battles, is 'just say no.' Think of all the dangers and risks you are putting yourself to, pregnancy, sti's, std's. Whats the world coming to? Think before you act. What are your opinions? Abortions, yay or nay?

We have to learn how to read,write and drive a car.We need to learn about sex and life too.The more information you have about a subject,like sex and babies,the better "armed" you are for the battle with life.Growing up isn't easy.One of the toughest battles,"is just say no".Emotions are not easy to turn off.But if you have the right information,it's easier to not get into a situation where emotions take over and sex happens.We all need to know,so we can be prepared.

Let me tell ya' something, birth control is not all it's stocked up to be. My friend's mother had 3 kids. My friend, her sister and her brother. She only wanted one. My friend's sister and brother were BOTH born within a year of eachother and the mother was on birth control the entire time! It totally messed up her emotions and period. In fact, she didn't have a normal period for six years after that. So even if something like this is real slim in chance, it still happens! And the results aren't pretty. Major post partum depression, more than normal and and and...It's just bad. XD But other than that, it's also good at regulating heavy/abnormal periods, not just killing off eggs.
I am SO against abortion. You look me in the eye and tell me you've watched "The Silent Scream" and still support it. I bet you can't. Basically, for those of you who don't know it, it shows the regular tear-the-baby-apart-limb-by-limb with a vacuum abortion and how the baby screams all the way thru.
Besides, it's not like you don't know what sex does!! Having a baby shouldn't be a small inconvienience to be taken care of by abortion, because you KNEW the consequences, and you KNEW this could happen! The baby didn't ask to be here, nor did it ask to die a horrible death. Besides, I had a pamphlet about abortion that said a large percentage of mothers who go thru abortion commit suicide because of the grief and overwhelming guilt. They just killed something that could've been wonderful but they deemed they didn't have the "time" to take care of their mistake. *huff* >.< Just makes me sooooooo mad. *sigh* Now, there are those mothers who will either die, or the baby will die, so I can't really blame them or the husbands or anything. AND, it really irks me how some schools just kick out pregnant girls while they have nothing to do with the guys! If they're going to be so mean, what about the other party that was involved!?!?!?

there's a girl in my grade who got pregnant at 13!! and now she has to live with the fact that she has a child out there somwhere but shell never be able to see her (she put her up for adoption). i also have a friend who is 15 and has had sex over 15 times with 3 girls. i think abstinence is a very good thing and you should wait for the person you love to have sex, but thats not what teens are doing. even if we are taught abstinence in schools, abortion clinics, the pill and patch, will still be available to teenagers so i dont think the problen is with what schools are teaching, the problem is with parents who arent paying any attention to where their children are going and who theyre with.

While I think that abstinence is a great idea, for most people it just isn't practical. The average age of a person getting married is 25. That is an awfully long time to wait to have sex! For most people, birth control is the realistic option. I have decided that I will wait to have sex until I am 18, and until I love the person that I wish to have sex with.

There are teens everywhere having babies. Some used protection and some didn't. Protection don't ALWAYS work, though. I know someone who had tried everything, condoms, birth control, etc., and they still got pregnant. Just because that is what protection is for, doesn't mean it always works, even though some people think that it does. Everytime that you choose to go down that road, you are taking a chance. Taking a chance that you will get pregnant or get an STD. Now, I'm not gonna preach to you about choosing abstinence or anything, because then who would listen...NOBODY. Teens don't want to hear about that. Most teens hate to be corrected for their actions, and most of the time if a parent or someone tells them that they don't need to do something...What do they do...they go and do it. It's pure rebellion. I know a lot of teens that don't care about anything.
I read some replies from some mothers and they said that they wouldn't trade it for the world, and that they would do it all over again. Well, I'm sure that would do it again, but wouldn't you have waited just a little bit longer? I mean didn't it put a strain on the rest of your life? You went from teen to mother in a matter of seconds!!!! That one time changed your life, you didn't know it right then, but it did.
A lot of teens think that everybody is doing it and they don't want to be the only ones not doing it so they do it. Well, I am just 1 of ?000's not doing it. I know that I can't change the world by writing this, but I hope that I can change someone's perspective.
I also want to congratulate the mothers and mothers to be, because they may not have had anyone to say stuff like this to them and they have taken or is taking on a big responsibility. I hope that you do well and enjoy the time that you have with your child/children.
One more thing: I think that some adults should be ashamed of theirselves. When they see a teen walking around with a baby they automaticly think that the baby is theirs and that that teen is a ****. I have been in a store, holding my sisters baby, and walk by some old people and they give me bad looks. I personally, think it is funny because I know what they are automaticly assuming when they give me those weird looks, but some teens may take it differently than others. But anyway...
Good Luck,
tracie8806

A while ago i wrote on this topic and tld u all my sister had 3 kids and that teens where having way to much unprotected sex. Well now i am 1 of those teens. I am 5 mths pregnant and i used to think of it in a whole other light but now that i am in it i wouldnt change it for the world. Even though yes teens r having way to much unprotected sex we cant do anything to stop anyone, but ourselves.

My name is Christina and I'll be twenty years old in two days. When I was seventeen I met a 23 year old Jamaican named Shawn. We went out for a year and a half, but when we first started dating he didn't tell me that he was married. When I found out I was hurt but I wouldn't leave him because I loved him or I thought I loved him. I think I loved having a boyfriend and I didn't want to be alone and that's why I stayed. I also think that I loved being competition to some older woman who was really jealous of me. After about a year of dating I found out that I was six and a half weeks pregnant. When I told Shawn about this he asked me how I could be so careless. I told him that I easily could have used birth control pills just as easily as he could have used a condom, but we didn't and now we're having a baby. He blamed it all on me and the thing that got to me the most was that he wanted a baby with me or at least that's what he told me. We continued to see eachother after I told him. My mother was very supportive. She suggested abortion a couple of times but I don't believe in it so that was never an option. When I was five months pregnant Shawn stopped talking to me and when I was six months pregnant he left for Jamaica. He never called me to see how we were doing. He never sent any money to help. In anger my mother called immigration on him and he wasn't allowed to return. I was to have a baby shower at my sister's house on January 27 but at 4:00 that morning as I tried to fall asleep I thought I was wetting my bed only to find that my water had broke. I was in labor for 32 hours and to say it hurt a lot was an understatement. I was told that once I dialated one cm. I would be able to have an epidural to stop my pain. I thought that was great and that I wouldn't feel any pain. Little did I know that I wasn't going to dialate until 26 hours later. I went through sheer hell. My contractions were 5 minutes long and only 2 mintutes apart for the entire 32 hours. I cried. But I was calm. When I got the epidural the pain did stop and I was relieved but towards the end when the baby was ready to be delivered there was this horrible pain like I had to urinate really bad and that a football trying to make it's way up my bum. It hurt a lot. Then I pushed for two hours and the baby wasn't coming out so I had to have a C-Section. For those of you who think that's a walk in the park, it's not. They administered more drugs into me and when it came time to cut me open I was relieved. The knife going across my belly felt like ice. But everything that was going on inside I seemed to feel. It hurt a lot and I cried silently some more. My sister was there for me the entire time and I love her so much. My friends and family were there for me in the delivery room and despite the fact that I was having a baby all of my friends stuck around. After she was born life was beautiful. I was eighteen years old and I can honestly say that I have no regrets and that I'd love to do it again... when the time is right of course. I had an easy baby. Julia is what I named her and she slept all the time. Woke up every four hours and I'm telling you the midnight feedings were the most wonderful times for me and for her. We got to spend quality time together in peace. Although it is really early, to me, it wasn't as bad as people made it out to be. Teething was hard and the non-stop crying was hard but I'm telling you that it was all worth while and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I'm telling you that I do not miss my social life at all. I love being a mother and I'm glad I had my daughter. Her first smile, the first time she started baby food, the first time she sat up, crawled and laughed were just wonderful and I cried each time. I never knew that I could love someone as much as I love her. When I wake up to her in the morning I am reminded everyday of the best decision that I have ever made and that is having her. I am reminded that I am one of the most luckiest people in the entire world to have such a wonderful child. She's beautiful in every way. She's happy and she's good, although she's getting into stuff now, that's okay. She's only a baby. Julia is now a year old and if there is any advice that I think should be given to teenager these days it would be:

I am not condoning teenaged pregnancy in any way. I am just talking through my experiences but everyone's is different. It doesn't matter how old you are when you get pregnant and have a child, they are the most precious gift you will ever receive. Don't feel bad if you decide on adoption or abortion because having a baby is not for everyone. It's not easy and it's not always fun but it's the most wonderful experience you will ever go through. So if you're pregnant now and/or you already have a child or more then know that my wishes go out to you and your family and you will be blessed because of the choices you made from the beginning. You're doing your very best to do your best and no one can ever ask for more. If the father's not around, you can be sad, but don't dwell on it. You will meet someone that will take both of you in with arms wide open. I did. He's wonderful. Just know that guys who take off are never worthy of your tears. They have no idea what they're missing. I love you all.

Christina and Julia (1year)

I agree that in today's society that it is best to wait, as then both the child and the mother have the most options and oppourtunities in life on average. But having a child now isn't unnatural or wrong as so many of you have put it. In other nations, and even back a few decades in our own it wasn't that uncommon to be raising a child as a teen. After all, the body is ready for a reason. Nature doens't do things on whim. The change from having children at a relativly young age, to later in life is due to society and it's standards, not nature and the human bodies. Since it is not necessary to follow every trend society sets...people should have at least a better understanding of this issue and be less apt to negative critism, with out fully considering any positive aspects there may be.

I couldn't pass this up.
In religion class, we just went over romance and marriage, and they had a section in the book on teenage pregnancies.

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"A diminished relationship. Young people who choose to have sex while dating often assume that sex will enhance and deepen their relationship. Instead, it often leads to a diminished relationship. Without a long term commitment, the relationship can take on a one-dimensional, sexual character"

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It is also a mistake to think that you are not "in love" with the person if you don't have sex.

I know a friend's sisters friend who was 13 when she had her baby. And she is raising her just fine. She still goes to school and does her work.. and finds the time to be with her baby. Now I'm not saying that it was right of her to be sexualy active at the age 13, but she's handling her "new" life well. I'm very proud of her! People shouldn't judge others because of how "young" you are when your pregnant. Because she's the youngest that I know of around here who had a baby, and she's doing just fine.

babyT

I think you should wait till your married before you ever have sex let alone children.You could easily get sexally transmitted dieases because you had sex and the other person had no clue they had any diease,(then usually)denys having it,then wants nothing to do with you.Thats why you have all those tests done to get a marriage license,to see if there is any dieases,if they have the same blood type if something was to ever happen to one another,& if your compatable to be parents.It says in The Bible
that it's an abomation to have sex before marriage.If the couple is over 18 and decides to get married then thats their decision,but if they're under 18 then they need a parent's signature and if the parents think they're mature enough to get married then they're probally assuming that they will have sex. But I'm personally apalled by teenagers having children or even sex. It is against my religion and personal beliefs.

How callous can you be?
Now i agree with you in that teenagers are too young to be having sex, but that doesn't mean that if and when they do have sex they should get an abortion! people make mistakes and they have different ways of dealing with them. i have talked to very few women who after having an abortion haven't regretted that decisions it is a life changing choice, no matter what you decide abortion, adoption, or to keep the child. it all depends on the mother and, sometimes, the father and the circumstances. teen pregnancy isn't something people can take on lightly no matter what they decide, either way they're playing God and have a life in their hands. teen mothers deserve a lot of respect their life isn't easy if nobody says anything rude or criticizes them, they in some cases are on their own, supporting both themselves and their child, without, a lot of the time, the help of their families, let alone the father. the odds they face are against them, but a lot of the time they beat them, and not only educate themselves but their child(ren), if that doesn't deserve respect i don't know what dose

Now i read in your profile that you hate children; that explains your views, but unless you can find a tactful way to share them please don't.

they just need to shut their legs...or just have an abortion so they dont ruin their lives....teens are too damn young to be having sex

US: is usually the cause of teen irresponsibility. and sometimes rape
Elsewhere: not sure, maybe its the custom or the fact that women have no rights.
I think it's wrong for children to bring more children into the world when most of the time they are unprepared to do so.

when i was 12 my 14 year old sister got pregnant and then when i was 14 she was 16 and got pregnant again and now i am 18 and she is 20 and she is pregnant again...i mean dont get me wrong she is a good mother and i love my 2 neices and my unborn neice or nephew but my sister should have waited....i know a lot on teen pregnacy...i am well educated! but i think that if u do the deed you should deal with the consequences. but i think teens are haveing way to much unprotected sex!