Wow, it's been a long time since I've been here at youthnoise. Well, I'd like to start off by saying there's a reason for my 'subject'. If anyone else has said anything similiar or in opposition of what I'm about to write, so be it. I don't have all night to go through all these posts. Anyways, on teen pregnancy. As of right now one of my best friends that I've known for the longest time is nearly 6 months along in her pregnancy. I never expected my friend, of all people to be pregnant. It was very unexpected of her since she was always safe and very cautious. She's just one of those people you'd never expect to get pregnant at 16. I'm sure someone here knows what I'm saying. Well, it all goes to show you can never be too safe. Now that I'm helping her everyday and seeing what a teenage pregnancy can do it's different. It's very much different than what you'd expect. I know some people think they know what going through a teenage pregnancy is like, but really they have no idea. Most people assume if you're a pregnant teen you're either a sl*t or stupid. Neither of these terms could ever apply to my friend. Unfortunately, I will admit now that I even thought that way until I saw what was happening to my friend, and now know how wrong I was in thinking that way. There were times I didn't think much of girls around here who got pregnant. Most of them were very unresponsible and really did mess around a lot, but now I'm seeing even someone responsible can screw up. Now that I'm around my friend and helping her in every way I can my opinion has changed. It's changed drastically. My friend really didn't mean to get pregnant. Well, who does? She was cautious and safe, but it wasn't enough obviously. Now she's preparing to have a baby, by her first and only serious bf, around Christmas time and planning on raising him or her the best she can. I already have promised her that I'll be there for her every step of the way. It's a good thing I will be too. I don't have much faith in her bf sticking around too long once the reality of a child coming into his life hits him. It's a horrible thing to say, but honestly, most boys his age cannot take on the responsibility of a child or be enough of a man to help the mother of their child out. Reminds me of a saying I've heard. "Any fool with a p*nis can make a child, but only a man can raise a child." For those young mother's out there who do have a man who's stuck around, consider yourself lucky. Very lucky. I really don't even think I have to say that. I'm sure you know it. I guess my point really is it is best to abstain, and if you must take all the precautions you can. And another thing, don't ever look down on a teen mom. She didn't become pregnant on her own, and if she's having/had that baby give her some credit for enduring one of the most life-changing occurrences possible. It's no little thing. I'd never want to be in my friends shoes, but I plan to keep helping her walk in hers. Well, that's all I have to say on that subject. Take care everyone. -SaraH
One of my friends is pregnant and she is only 16. When I found out I wasn't the least bit shocked. She had been going out with this one guy for quite sometime and from what she said they really love each other. I think that's the good part but I also think that she is too young. She has since dropped out of school and has told me that she won't be comeing back even after the baby is born. I think that is sad for her because she only has a grade 9 education.
I don't know how she expects to get a job with that much education. I am really glad though that her boyfriend is working and that they can at least try and give the baby a good life.
I am also praying for her. There is a slight chance that she might loose the baby. I don't want to see her go through that. I hope that all of you keep her in your prayers.
On another note....
I have a lot of respect for teen mothers. They have school, work and then they have to take care of their kid. It must be hard at times but at least they are trying their best to give their kid a good life. There are alot of people at my school that are teen mothers and I just don't know how they do it. They have lots of support but it still must be hard. To all the teen mothers out there, Keep up the awesome job that you guys are doing!
so i am interested in starting to make some noise regarding the topic. i am in the kansas city area in missouri. any noisemakers out there that really want to look into this issue with real solutions?? judy
I resent people saying that getting pregnant is a mistake. Creating life is a mistake? That's rather harsh.
Teens may not realize the consequence of their actions, but they learn, as all do.
There are many guys who, upon realizing they helped create life, take resposibility. Many mothers don't do it single handedly.
Having a baby is more than changing dirty diapers. It's more than picking up after them, cleaning, clothing, feeding them. It's teaching them, it's helping them grow, it's so much more than most realize. And it is tiring. Right now, I'm spending 45 hours a week caring for 3 kids. I babysit for a family. Both parents are working, but not making enough money, I'm way underpaid. Yet, I agreed to the job because I have extremely valuable experience now. And I've come to this conclusion: At this point in my life, and in the future, I am not emotionally ready to have a child. Right now, I am potentially on the verge of a mental breakdown, and the kids aren't mine, not 24/7. Yet I know this: If per chance, the circumstance came to be that I was pregnant (through no fault of my own, I assure you, because I don't have much social contact with people, so I'm not really exposed to the option of having sex) but if I were raped, I would keep that child unless it would be a danger to my health, or its.
I do however, support rape victims who abort their babies, because it is traumatic, and some may not be able to deal with the pain as well as others.
It was mentioned quite a while ago on this board that the girl's small body would have some troubles birthing the child. This is not completely true. Most women finish growing before they turn 18. And it is not to say that a C-section is out of the question, or that some adult women couldn't have trouble giving birth.
i dont understand why they couldn't wait till they were done with high school before getting pregnant. were did the communication start when it said, lets be teen parents. education comes first, not spreading your legs
I am 16. Of the friends I grew up with, 5 of them have had children. My closest friend just had her second child. I am the only one left now who has the freedom to go the mall, or the movies without taking a child with me. My friends always said it would never happen to them.Now they're trying to figure out how to raise a kid, keep a job, and go to school. We as teens need to do something to stop the epidemic. Somehow we need to get the message out that you don't have to have kids when you're a teen~there's plenty of time for that down the road. We need to make NOISE!
i'm 18 and i think that when i was in high school if i would have ended up with a baby it would have been rough.now i think i'd kinda like to have a lil one but i know i can't afford it so thats not an option, but if it happens then i know that was my choice b/c i done the deed and have to take care of the consiquences. But i really i'm being very carful and i think other girls who are out there haveing sex should be the same way. BABY
I think that teen pregnanacy is somethjing that is difficult. It seems that many more teens are getting pregnant now a days then before. I think you should at least get your high school diploma before you get pregnant. You might be able to get as good a job as if you recieved a masters degree in college but at least you will be able to do something. FOr the girls who are out there and have babies at six-teen years old or younger, I know you can make it. Just keep Your Head up. Pleasde don't do anyhting to hurt you or that child. That should be the love of youre life. Better days will come, i know it is pretty hard. I would really love to tell you more about this topic so if you want to email me I will hollat at you when I get a chance. You can email me at: Nishasparks@aol.com or redchick4lyfe@yahoo.com or Shaneesparks@aol.com.
1-luv Redchick4life peace out until next time 1null
I think that an abortion should be the girls choice. If you're a teen and you get pregnant, how are you supposed to take care of your child? Its not fair to you, its not fair to your baby, and its not fair to your parents(who will most likely end up taking care of it). Most girls have no right to get an abortion, but if someone is raped and they get pregnant then they have every right to get an abortion.
I am one!!!! It can be hard but the fun and the love make it bearable. I don't want anyones sympathy, I just want respect. I work so hard to raise my sson. I had him when I was 15 and I am now 17, working, going to school and having fun. Abortion was out of the question and there are so many waiting to adopt. that was my primary decsion untill my parents said they would be there for me. Teen parents are everywhere and we will stand strong.
Ok Im sittin here readin ur guyz posts and I cant figure out how u can say abortion is ok and its a "right". No it aint a right to take an innocent life away. What makes u think its ur right? Just cuz its ur body? Well its that babies body and that babys life that youd be killin. And yea that baby does have rights too! Its a livin thang! I dont know who it was but sum1 said well the baby dont know whats goin on. Does that make it right? If sum1 is druggin another person secretely to kill them does taht make it right cuz they dont know whats goin on? Or just shootin and killin sum1 b4 they even know it happened? HELL NO! And it dont make it right to kill a baby either. There are sooooooooo many ppl out there that want to adopt and are on waiting lists for years! Why not just have the baby and then give it up for adoption so that u know u at least gave it life? R these ur reasons?: Dont wanna have to carry it that long? Or get attached while ur carryin it and deliverin it? Well think about how long ur gonna have to carry the guilt after u kill ur child and how much ull be wishin u could feel that attachment again cuz u cant believe that u killed your own flesh and blood! And if ya do have children down the road r u gonna be able to tell them that they had a sister or brother that u killed years before? If ya cant handle the responsibilities of bein a parent then dont jump in bed or in the back of a car or where ever else ya have sex!
Im 15 years old and rite now as Im typin I have a baby on my lap. Well its not a real one ... its one of those electronic ones that are supposed to be just like the real thang. Im doin it for my Child Development class at school. This is my first day with it and I still have 2 more to go! Its hard and I know that this kid is easier than a real one! All I have to do with this one is feed it and change its (always clean)diapers and rock it when its fussy. I dont have to deal with the dirty diapers, dont have to bathe it, dont have to give it medicine, no money is commin outta my pocket for food and supplies, and I know that I will be done bein a "mother" in 2 days. I cant immagine bein a mom this young! I dont know how they deal! I know I couldnt.
I think that abortion should be legal. It is a person's personal decision and the government should not interfere with a person's personal decision. I think that it is up to the parents as to how they want to approach this pregnancy. I don't think that a lot of teens are irresponsible or it is there fault that they get pregnant because I have friends who have had pregnancy scares who are careful. Sometimes things just happen and taking away a person's right to an abortion is a violation of their human rights.
Hello, My name is Latisha Brooks. Earlier this year I the scare of being pregnant. I wasnt which is really good but I spent three months wondering. It got to the point where I decided to tell my mother and that was the hardest thing in the world. Luckily my mother was also a pregnant teen and was very understanding. And though this happened to me I could still never imagine actually being pregnant. I think that we should make a fund raiser to get baby stuff so we can help the teen mothers out. I have many family members that would be willing to donate clothes and formula and bottles ect. Thanks, Latisha Brooks
someone said that it is alright to kill a baby because he or she(not it)can't think or feel. Where do you draw the line? People with Down's Syndrome can't think normally. Are they deserving of death? Lepers have no sense of touch. Should we wipe them out when they become inconvenient to care for? THIS IS THE SAME BASIC PHILOSOPHY HITLER USED! Addressing PrincessL's ideas about a criminals: Don't you think these babies should at least be given a chance? Finally, illegal abortions: The legal ones aren't exactly safe either, and after a few horror stories in the newspaper about girls who practically disemboweled themselves I think most babies would end up getting carried to term
Even children who have parents who care and grow up in nice neighborhoods can start a criminal lifestyle from influence from friends or rebelion aganist society or their parents. It is really sad when you see people heading down the route to arrests, trials, drugs, and jail, I know sometimes when I hear people talking about drugs or activities that aren't so much criminal as they are wrong, i just want to tell them or their mothers what they have been doing, but it is not my place, especially since I barely know them.
I get your point, but if the baby gets a good home, then why would it kill? I believe God watches over them, and has a plan for them. If they go astray it is because they aren't following God. (No I won't preach a sermon, but for anyone who wants one, let me know! HA HA! )
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