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Originally posted by cascaya1:
the sad thing is most girls who want a baby dont know anyting about babies, one they thing its just a thing that will love them no yu will have to lovbe the baby first take care of him, wake up at night when he is sick or cant sleep this might meanb you wont fall asleep at all, you have to be prepared that hte guy will SO NOT be helping u, and once the baby is grown there are so many othger repsonsibilities and issues and they wont end till the child is 18, remmeber 18 long years

Being a parent doesn't end at 18 nor do the responsibilities.

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Originally posted by chercher:
we are in a era where all kids get told about safe sex etc...there is no excuse nowadays for unplanned pregnacies etc..if u are going out drinking etc at 15 or whatever you obviously know one day or another u will have sex whether with someone u planned too or not...want to act like a adult...be one...use protection ..both sexes not just the girls, i am so angered by girls who say it was a accident...there is no accident just plain stupidity...grow up...take the blame for your own actions..whether male or female...just look at an abortion website and see what u are doing to your unwanted pregnancy, when u turn 30/40/50 whatever it is the one child you can never kiss goodbye

Ok you know what that was really rude. I don't look at my daughter as a mistake. Most teen parents do take the blam for their own actions. So untill you completley understand teen parenthood I suggest you shut your mouth.
Oh and BTW Alissajade you made an awsome statement
Kimber

I feel the same way to cause once your pregnant your whole life changes forever and your parents wont trust you anymore and people look down on you and say things behind your back. Plus i just found out my friend was pregnant and i cant even imagin whats she's going through. But all we can do is if we decide to have sex we have to use protection and get birth control so we dont ever have to be in that situation.

i think all of you are takin an imature aproach to the topic. The fact is none of you have been there and you cannot comment untill you have. I was with my partner for two years when i got pregnan t at 15 we had always been carful but things happen. I kept my child and it was the best decision i ever made. If i never got pregnant i'd probbaly be dead. I was heading down the wrong road. Your opinion is your opinion but theres no need to call other people names and judge them you've never been there so you have no right to judge!!!

I think that teens that are parents it's terrible because when your a teen your still a kid your self and you have a life of your own. But it's their choice if they want to keep the baby. One of the worst things is that when it comes down to actually taking care of the child the man doesn't always want to step up and help but I must say Scott is one of the strongest boy that i have ever heard of in reality.His son is staying with him, and not with the mom. Also it's a big surprise to me because when boys become fathers at that young of a age they would maybe say" I'm to young to be a father I can't do this I have a life too" but scott took it all in his hands and did what he had to do for him and his child.He is defintely a role model and if I was a boy and had a child at that age I would defintely look up to him ,he is defintely a god sent.

I'm 18 years old and got pregnant when i was 14 i kept my child and I tell you what it is the best thing i have ever done. she is the reason i got my life back on track. she is the reason i graduated highschool. she is the reason i am going to college. maybe me and her dad aren't together anymore but we do equal custody. People who say that teen pregnancy is bad are just looking at statstics not actually out there talking to these young women who have children. look around there are more of us then you think. alot of us our in college or working full time jobs making more out of our lives then most teenagers do. most sit around play video games go out to parties and just scerw around we are the productive ones we are the ones that have found the ultimate meaning to life and are making the effort to do something with our lives. I'm sorry I get so heated about this stuff but it just burns me what people say about us, i am not just one of the statistics I am a great mother and a productive member of society. I owe all of my lifes accomplishments to my little girl without her i'd be well nothing maybe a highschool drop out who sits on my butt all day wondering what the heck life is all about. I hope i didn't offend anyone but hey people need to quit sterotyping us!

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Originally posted by chercher:
...want to act like a adult...be one...use protection ..both sexes not just the girls, i am so angered by girls who say it was a accident...there is no accident just plain stupidity...grow up...take the blame for your own actions..

Condoms break, pills fail, the patch fails, Depo fails. Yeah, if the condom breaks you can get emergency contraceptive, but with hormonal birth control, if it fails you won't know until it's too late.

Accidents do happend. The only way to 100% prevent a pregnancy is not to have sex.

we are in a era where all kids get told about safe sex etc...there is no excuse nowadays for unplanned pregnacies etc..if u are going out drinking etc at 15 or whatever you obviously know one day or another u will have sex whether with someone u planned too or not...want to act like a adult...be one...use protection ..both sexes not just the girls, i am so angered by girls who say it was a accident...there is no accident just plain stupidity...grow up...take the blame for your own actions..whether male or female...just look at an abortion website and see what u are doing to your unwanted pregnancy, when u turn 30/40/50 whatever it is the one child you can never kiss goodbye

I got pregnant when I was 16. At the time, I thought I knew everything and my age wouldn't be a problem. I'm 22, married, with 3 kids now. I love my babies, they mean everything to me. I love being a mom. But, I cry myself to sleep almost every night knowing that I can't give my kids the life that I would like for them. It's a hard life to live, and I hate that my kids don't have the childhood that every kid should. There's never enough money, never enough time.

I know I've made many mistakes in my life. I would never consider my children mistakes, because they are amazing little people. But, I'm still growing up and trying to figure out who I am. The only identity I have is my kids' mom. The situation we've gotten ourselves into sucks. It sucks for me, it sucks for my husband and it sucks for our kids.

I'm trying to make things better. Going to go to college and try to get a real job that can support a family of 5. But, when I think about what most people my age are doing in their life, I feel so much older than I am.

Really Turtle you need to check over what you write. Your mistakes are horrendous.

Being a teen wit a child is ahrd , i kon cause som of my friends hav kids and i seen them go through all the pain and sufferin of havin a chlid while still goin to high schol and the father not even tryin to help. But they made it through and theyre havin good life and theyre child are lik 5 yrs. old n theyre r happy.

Yeah I have friends with kids, it's sad but then again, it is their fault. Ok except for a few of them. The saddiest thing is the city next to mine is Santa Maria, and it has the higgest teenage birth rate in the nation.

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I have a female friend at youth group who' one month along and she's keeping the kid and suprise the boyfriend is not wussing out of his manly responsability. Posted by Amp

I'm prode of that guy, it takes alot to stay. Expecially with her parents, probably gona kill him.Maybe not.

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Originally posted by ruthibel:
anyone can make a mistake (and don't get me wrong here, not ALL teen pregnancies are mistakes), but it takes a person with some real character to accept the consequences of their actions, and then live with it. It's terrific to see a young teen father being so open and honest and articulate about his life and the challenges he faces. No, it's not just terrific, it's superb.Teen pregnancy is jst a reality we all have to face up to. it's here, and we can't live in denial of it's existence. We have to realise that we need to help theindividuals who end up in this situation. it is so crucial for us to not ostracise thses people and make them feel any worse off than they already do. it's a huge responsibility, and we'd all know that if we just took a second to put ourselves in their shoes.

....but for some people...they just are not ready...its not that they do not see it as life...but they know that their child if he or she was born at this time would have a horrible life...did you ever consider that?

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Originally posted by ruthibel:
Getting pregnant at an early age doesn't necessarily mean that you're stupid.

Or careless.

you know you can take all the precautions in the world...and still get pregnant...I use protection...the one time I didnt I went out and got plan b..and still got pregnant...(it died)

I have a female friend at youth group who' one month along and she's keeping the kid and suprise the boyfriend is not wussing out of his manly responsability.

hey iam 18 years old and i have a four month old and iam still in school and plan on starting college in the summer.

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Originally posted by risika2004:
Exactly. Most of the time you're too busy fucking someone's eyes out to pay attention to the consequences.

Or just too busy screaming for bloody murder because you're being raped.... but then, of course, as you seem to see it, it would be the momma's fault because she's a careless bitch, right?

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Originally posted by risika2004:
Nay doesn't seem like a good answer unless you're ultimately stupid. As you appear to be.

Right, and that makes two of us.

Exactly. Most of the time you're too busy fucking someone's eyes out to pay attention to the consequences.


Say yay or nay to safe sex. I'd go with yay. Nay doesn't seem like a good answer unless you're ultimately stupid. As you appear to be.

I'm going to go with risika on this one... careless is a good word for it.

No, it means you're careless.