Ok, for anyone that thinks having a baby destories your life, your wrong. I'm 17, and i have a 6 month old. You choose to end your education, not the baby. There are enough programs out there to help you get through school. I'm a senoir and enrolled in College courses, I'm becoming a nurse. My son was not a set back or a mistake, and i take offense when anyone says differently.
Originally posted by AlwaysThere761: Okay so call me crazy, but I'd love to be a teenage mom. granite i'd wanna wait until i'm 16, so that's a year or so, but i'd love it.
Sometimes having a baby... can loose your focus in life... your too young to be thinking of having kids.
One of sisters has a friend that had a baby around 16/17... now she has 2 boys... she is a high school drop out... has no job... and lives on welfare. You don't want your life taken away because you thought you were ready to have a baby because believe it your not!
my mom was 15 when she had ame and 14 when she got pregnant with me...while teenage pregnancy is hard to deal with thats how it was done a long time ago because thats when the women was in her "prime"...mt opinon is that if the teenage girl chooses to have sex before marriage, chooses not use protection, chooses to not take birth control or whatever else then she needs to live up to her consequences and not punish her baby for her mistakes.,...no baby deserves the death penalty for the parents mistakes
If I went abroad, I could get a free college education by virtue of having dual citizenship in another country... *sighs* Oh well. If I need a graduate degree, I'll think about that.
No, you don't have to be a citizen. The general no-scholarship included amount of money you need to study abroad is much much cheaper than US schools.
Doesn't the military only provide like a form of of homeschool education?
"Regardless, I have always, and will always, succeed."
I'd say that I'm much above-average, seeing as I was in the top 10 and I have done incredibly well in school my whole life.
And yes, I agree with you about the schooling being way too expensive, especially considering most people who get degrees don't actually go into what they studied.
If I went abroad, I could get a free college education by virtue of having dual citizenship in another country... *sighs* Oh well. If I need a graduate degree, I'll think about that.
And yes, military too. If you don't die first.
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Originally posted by Xia: Not really. Merit scholarships don't really exist anymore. You get a scholarship if a) you're a jock, b) you're part of a minority, or c) you're poor.
I'm an above-average female going into engineering who did a couple of extracurriculars all four years of school who was in the top 10 of her private school. However, I didn't do any "real" sports, I'm white, and my parents aren't in debt. Therefore, I did not get ANY merit scholarships, though after all the time I've put into my schoolwork, I think I should've gotten at least one.
How much above-average?
There's a funding program for everyone, really. I've spent my last couple of years searching for scholarships and the like. There was even an international school giving a scholarship to a blond boy from Minnesota (I think that was it) only.
It depends what college you wish to go to as well, a lot. If the colleges you want to go to are affordable...why worry on it? If it's some very famous place, then getting scholarships is much difficult.
There's always student loans here.
But really, I'm afraid university studies in the US are too expensive when you could find as good or better universities abroad. And cheaper.
"Regardless, I have always, and will always, succeed."
Scholarships are given to deserving kids who work hard. My friend couldn't afford college, and her desired school gave her a full scholarship.
Not really. Merit scholarships don't really exist anymore. You get a scholarship if a) you're a jock, b) you're part of a minority, or c) you're poor.
I'm an above-average female going into engineering who did a couple of extracurriculars all four years of school who was in the top 10 of her private school. However, I didn't do any "real" sports, I'm white, and my parents aren't in debt. Therefore, I did not get ANY merit scholarships, though after all the time I've put into my schoolwork, I think I should've gotten at least one.
"If voting could really change things, it would be illegal." & "A conservative is a person who lives in a past that never existed. "
of course they should, but it is unfair to make them feel as though they have to.
IT IS NOT FAIR TO THEM
you are all saying that everything would be fine, just use the parents as a crutch. Wrong attitude.
Thats like saying "its ok to run over nails at 60mph, i have a spare tire" your parents may help you, they definately should, but it is unfair that your mistake forces them to do that. And yes they are being forced. If parents didnt mind raising a grandkid like its their own, then they wouldnt have a problem with their daughters having kids.
also, just the embarassment the pregnant teen must face would be awful. I sure would be mortified to be the youngest mom in my class.
yogor... you have some good points... i have to agree with most of what your saying. specially the stuff about how the parents of the teen mother should help their child and grand child out cuz they love them thats so true!
A) hard working and deserving kids dont always get scholarships. Merit based scholarships are few and far between and most top notch schools have mayb only one. Scholarships are luck at beating the numbers game. Tons of smart, hard working, deserving kids are competeing for 10 spots or so(optimism). So you cant depend on a full ride scholarship to go to school, unless you are using ROTC wich is a good option most overlook and waive.
B) Parents will help you with your kid, but it is simply not fair to tax them. Also you cant forget the effect on the child. Being half raised by a single teen mother and half by a grandmother and grandfather is not a very wholesome family enviornment.
C) yes good and bad cases of everything exist. But the bad cases in this kind of situation are much more plentiful
D) oh yeah lots more teen mothers and fathers than you would like to believe kill their babies. It is still a few, but it is a good example of what that kind of thing can drive some people to
E) yes i am assuming these kids dont have great lives. All of the signs point in that direction
F) no matter what anyone says teen preganacies should be avoided. MATURE ADULTS dont tell you that for no reason. They tell you that because they see the grl who got pregnant at their school, and when they went off to college and moved to new places, the young mother stayed in whatever small town she was in, didnt go to school, and worked a couple part time jobs. Untill she was much older, and then she mayb got her sht together and got a degree. Typical story of MOST (not all numbnuts) teen mothers. Basicaly that is not a productive or pleasent path to follow
Where the grl cant take it and throws her baby into a dumpster
Because that happens often.
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Im sure these kids dont have great lives.
you're assuming.
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college, something you will not be able to attend if you are desolate. College is something alien to most ghetto teen mothers and their babies.
Scholarships are given to deserving kids who work hard. My friend couldn't afford college, and her desired school gave her a full scholarship.
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And BTW I didnt mean your parents couldnt afford another kid, I meant that THEY should not have to pay for YOUR mistake.
parents are your support system. Maybe they shouldn't have to, but they will because they love their child and grandchild. It's not about whether it was a mistake, families help each other out through the good and the bad, whether you know it or not.
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I love it how the few sucess stories of teen pregnancies are broadcast. Whoptee friggin doo.
A. That makes you sound really mature. B.There are sucess stories not to be like "have a child as a teen" but to show that there's hope. There are good cases and bad cases of everything.
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I love it how the few sucess stories of teen pregnancies are broadcast. Whoptee friggin doo. It seems to me though that they forget to tell about the other half of teenage pregancies. Where the grl cant take it and throws her baby into a dumpster, or where the grl got nocked up in the first place because she was a junky. Im sure these kids dont have great lives. And you people seem to not know how to define sucess save one kid who mentioned college. Yes college, something you will not be able to attend if you are desolate. College is something alien to most ghetto teen mothers and their babies. If you are 15 and have a k8id, you may be a caring mother and you may be intelligent and compassionate. But you are not mature and you sure as hell are not pulling in the kindof money it takes to raise a child and put him through school, let alone yourself. Oh and please dont say "college isnt necessary for sucess" almost 100% of the time a college degree is necessary for sucess and nowafays graduate school is becoming just as if not more important than undergrad. And BTW I didnt mean your parents couldnt afford another kid, I meant that THEY should not have to pay for YOUR mistake.
regardless of what everyone has said most teenage pregnancies do not have sucessful outcomes
Congratz you keep that baby and you most likely ruin both of your lives, and you wanna drag your parents into it. Misery sure does love company.
Your arguments didn't impress me at all. Just because you are a teenager having a baby doesn't mean that your parents couldn't afford to help you out. That was a huge generalization. Sometimes families could afford to have more children but don't. Having a baby does not doom you to bad life. Did you read the story that was featured on the front page? That boy didn't have a bad life just because he had a son.
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Originally posted by Kristy33: Look people i have a little sister and she is 10!! And she had a big crush on this boy her age in her class and she is in 4th grade! And Denny ( the crush ) had sex with her that one night he slep over and she is PREGNANT! And she is NOT A TENNAGER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tell me that she is going too have her baby like in a week! And she did not get a abortion and she is too young!!! But you know that all girls have too have their period and my sister does!Just saying its weird cause she is only 10!!!!!
Umm so 3 points...A.I don't really believe the **** you're saying b/c it just doesn't flow or make sense? B.LEARN TO SPELL. C.No, it's not weird...my twin and I got our periods when we were 9 and a lot of our friends got them when they were 9 or 10..it's NOT that uncommon... ~Serena~
One boy, one girl. Two hearts beatin wildly. To put it mildly it was love at first sight. He smiled,she smiled,they knew right away.These were the days they'd been waitin for all their lives.For a moment the whole world,revolved around one boy and one girl.
You'll see a trend most young mothers, under 20... were also born to a young mother as well. You shouldnt be having kids if you can't give it the best life you possibly can. This means sending it to college.
But you have to realize that at 15, chances are she couldn't possibly give you the quality of life a child needs. A teenager most likely (though I won't generalize and say this is the case for all teens) won't have the responsibility to care for a child.
But aninvertedlove I didnt give the whole story.. i hate the parents im with.. i wish that my mother would have kept me.. i wouldnt have cared how irresponsible she is because i know she would have been better than the ones i have now..
AMF8... ok now what if the girl was on birth control? that certainly dont put her at fault, she was trying to be safe about it... not all teen mothers are idiots..only if they are sleeping around TRYING to get pregnant.. teen mothers have to go through enough with out having people telling them if they have the baby it will ruin their lives.. my friend jessica is 15 and she just had a baby boy.. well shes doing great.. shes a proud parent.. shes doing the best she can, she isnt an idiot.. at least shes trying to give the baby every thing he needs.shes a great mother so dont just stereotype teen parents. it isnt necessarily that they want kids, most teens figure "im the one that got pregnant its my responsibility to take care of my child" it may not be simple, raising a child at all isnt simple, but they made the mistake. look alot of the teen pregnancys that occur were while using condoms or birth control. obviously tho you wouldnt know about that.... seeings how your saying the teens that get pregnant are to f'in stupid to use anything...
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