Im not trying to critice teen parents I am 1 so all of you who think you are ready you aren't guys dont want anything to do with you and protection doesnt work...I had twins he turned 3 jun 5 and my other son passed just think about if something happened to your baby...I didnt I had a good job a supporting family and everything just blew up...ryan means everything to me...but if I wouldve waited Jamie might be alive...I had to work through all of this and Im only 16...

well concidering the post i put up here was from this year... i still havent done anything... lol but i have a question... has anyone read my posts where i say i want my child to have a good life... that im not gonna go get pregnant because i dont want my kid/kids growing up in poverty? i take that as a no. i think im making a good choice by not having a baby. yes i want a baby... but no i dont want to have one so that my kids grow up not having what they need or want. im gonna wait so my kids can have what they want/need and when they want it or need it. i think kids are the best things in the world ive been around my nieces since day 1 and its been amazing i wouldnt change the experience for anything in the world they may not be my kids but at least i get to be here to watch them grow up.... i think right now ill stick with my little kitten my mom got me.he needs me about 24/7 or he misses me, if im not in the room with him he sits by the door and crys.hes great practice minus the stinky diapers (just a litter box) and the formula (hes finally on hard food! yay!)

This is from 2001. Where are you now? What decision did you make?

Look, I'm not a teen. I am married and I have a 5 1/2 year old son and a 6 month old daughter. I became pregnant while on BC the first time, and planned the second. Why do you think I waited so long for #2? Having a child is very difficult, even for someone(like me) who is 32 and my husband makes 6 figures. I have some very difficult days. He travels 3/4 of the week and I'm alone with both kids. I have days when I want to just run away and yank my hair out!!! Not to mention the expenses. Even though my husband makes 6 figures, there's not a lot of extra money because of the cost of raising a baby. My almost-6 year old isn't too much of an issue (except for all the "I don't have that, or that. Can't I just have that? My friends have that, can I?) The 6 month old is going thru separation anxiety and 2 teeth coming in at once. In other words, some days I don't even get to shower because she screams when I leave the room. I have to carry her constantly. She still takes a bottle every 3 hours. You have to burp them constantly (and you hold your breath that they don't spit up the entire 8 ounces all over the 3rd shirt and shorts you've had on that day). They go through about $200 of formula and about $30 in jar baby food at 6 months. Don't forget the $40-50 in diapers, $10 in wipes, new clothes every month(sometimes they grow so fast that they don't even wear the ones you have already bought and taken the tags off), doctor visits for immunizations, your portion of the delivery charges(I have insurance, but I still had to pay $4800). In the mean time, you have to eat, sleep, cloth, and take care of yourself at the same time. Talk about being worn out. I'm lucky that I have a 5 year old to help when I get frazzled and need 5 minutes alone!!!!!!!!! You forget what life once was. I haven't even been to a movie alone or with just myself and my husband in 6 years. I love both of my children with all my heart, but having kids is very difficult even for us thirty-somethings. I miss my dating years. I know I'm a better person now(some days I'm my worst). But my children are gold to me. No matter if I only have had 3 hours of sleep in 2 days and I have on the same make-up from 3 days ago!!! I would have never dreamed of doing this as a teen, or without my husband.
Good luck, but please consider going to a support group for preg/parenting teens first. You may feel lost now, but that will become so much worse with a baby. I was hospitalized twice for post-part. depression in the last 4 months.

ok so me sitting here saying im not going to have a baby because i dont want my baby living in poverty and i want my baby to have a good life isnt thinking about the baby? ok well i dont get it but what ever. look im thinking about my "future" baby because i havent gone out and gotten pregnant because of the fact that i want my baby to have what ever he/she needs or wants... i dont want to depend on my mom to support the both of us.. i think that is thinking about my child

Look, I know having a baby may seem like a wonderful new adventure, but you are actually just being selfish because you are not thinking about the best interest of the child. don't you think the quality of life for your baby will be better when you yourself are more mature and can make more sound decisions and make better provisions for them? don't have a child until you can be the best mother possible, it's only fair for your future bundle of joy to have the best. The best comes through experience and learning life lessons, and at 15 you couldn't have possibly learned half of the many lessons life teaches. wait until you can offer everything that child could possibly need and want. at 15, if you want to be realistic, you just can't do that.

well concidering my dad tried to kill my mom i dont think she wants to go out and spend time with him. but aside from that shes in school...and yea i would be a mother to... a pretty dayum good one but i want to be sure that my baby will live a happy life...

Yes its true that a teen mother has to make sacrifices but what mothers don't do that. What about your mom she probably wants to go out and have good time with your father but you need her. I just feel that teen moms are mothers too. Don't we all know some bad mothers and they're not teens, so a teen mom has a harder time but so does every woman raising a child. A woman maybe more mature but older women have a higher chance of having post-partum depression. Just because a teen becomes pregnant doesn't always mean she's heading towards a path of failure

look... i want a baby but does that mean im gonna go screw up my life right now and my childs life? no im not that stupid... i plan on getting a good job first. i dont plan on having my child living in poverty. i would rather be able to support my own kid then have my mom supporting the both of us... trust me i know what it takes to have a baby my 22 year old brother and his 20 year old girlfriend live with us... they have 2 kids... Tiana who is 1 yr and 3 months and Alexis who is 3 months old.. they struggle constantly cuz she cant work she has to stay home with the kids.. i know what its like and i wont let that happen to me and my child

well just because i said i wanted one dont mean im gonna go get pregnant... i want my child to have a good life.. and with the age i am now he/she wouldnt i dont have a job or my own house i live with my mom and we already have to babies in the house.... i would rather get a job and a house and be able to give my child all that they want

so no one should be able to get an abortion? what if the mother finds out she cant carry the baby full term and she cant deliver the baby with out risking her life? whats she gonna do then

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I will be harsh now.

You need to get your head out of your *** and back from La La Land. There is no **** way in any planet you would be a good mother now. Yeah, you may give it all the love in the world, but that's nothing. Cute little babies grow. And they eat (they won't be drinking breastmilk till their teens), crap, burp, puke, get sick, hate you, etc.

Sacrifices? I laugh at how you magically assume that cutting highschool and not going to parties are the only sacrifices you will make. You'll need a **** good job, which you CANNOT get unless you go to college, which you CANNOT do properly if you have a child. Don't tell me you'll work in McD's or anything, because that won't even pay the rent. What about when your kid starts making college plans? Or medical insurance? And what the **** are you planning on doing if your kid turns out to be Rosemary's baby and becomes a pure Antichrist on your ***?

Also, at 15, you don't have the mental capacity nor maturity, much less patience, to handle a child. That whole "I will make some sacrifices" attitude will fade once you get bored of being "mommy" (which you will), and want to go out and be a "teenager".
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i agree with you.
sacrafises arent all that it takes to have a baby. last time that i checked it took money also. how can you take care of a child without no money?and if you are only 15 than you dont even have your own place yet. let alone even finish school. plus welfare aint gonna support you for the rest of your life. i dont believe in abortion but you shouldnt try to get knocked up on purpose!that is some crazy ****

i think that if you are ready to have a baby then you shouldnt have the baby!you may be able to give the baby all the love that it needs emotionnaly but if you aint go no job and you work at kroger than you arent realdy to have a baby. you should have fun with the teenage years that you have because they dont last forever. when you are an adult and you are in the right postion to be having a baby then you could think about having a baby. you shouldnt try to open one door before you close the other.

people shouldnot get abortions because it is taking the life of a child.just because the child cannot survive on its own doesnt mean that it should be killed. even if you were raped it still does not make it an ok thing to do. not only r u killing a child but in some cases it can affect you mentally and phyically. if you dont want to keep the baby you can put it up for adoption if you really have the heart to. but for the young teens out there that have sex and then when they find out that they are pregnant then they dont want their parents to find out, you still shoulnt abort your baby. you should just tell your parents about it and im not saying that you have to keep it just dont kill an innocent child.

well dustinsangel.... yeah i could imagine my self being pregnant... and i would want to be pregnant more then ne thing in the world... i know im only 15 but i think it would be great.... yeah it would be hard, but i could get through it... maybe i would need help. alot of teens feel they arnt ready me on the other hand... i want one ive been thinking about it for a few years

ok well you have all brought up good points but im 15 and i will tell you that i do want a baby. i was reading earlier that rape victims should have to carry the baby... but it depends... if they arnt able to support the baby (health wise), and/or they are below a certain age they shouldnt really have to(when they r little their bodies still need to mature quite a bit)... but i think that it should be illegal for girls that are having it as a sort of "birth control" now i dont agree with abortion any more then the next person but if a woman isnt able to carry a baby and it could risk her life then she shouldnt have to carry the baby. and the girls should ask them selves "am i ready to support a baby if i end up pregnant?" when they think about sex... if girls would think about that then there wouldnt be as many abortions... or kids put up for adoption.

Hey how are you guys doing? Well i found this website while i was looking at teen pregnancy things and blah blah... Well i have read alot of you guys things and see that alot of yall want a child at the age 14 16 17 just becuz there cute! whatever but for real im 16 years old and i am pregant and i thought it was going to be alright but its not!! I cry night to night because i thought "he" loved me and was going to be with me no matter what.. Well we recently broke up and then i found out i was pregnant so i told him of course and now hes dodgeing my phone calls won't talk to me i don't know what to do im so lonely my parents don't know yet and i scared to tell them and in return im not getting help from him... I don't know where to go or what to do with myself. Everyone keeps asking whats wrong with me but i can't tell them.. What im trying to get to is trust me you don't want this at a young age! No im not saying all ("boys") guys are like this but it happens. I thought he was going to help. But here i am every hour trying to call his cell phone his house phone everything and he wont answer! And i keep asking why! PLEASE don't let this happen to you!!

A. I wouldn't go to Chi-town because I would not waste my money on low-class filthy places.
B. You are not Puerto Rican. You are American of Puerto Rican descent.
C. You are also naïve and likely have a small oxygen atom in your brain, whereareas the rest is filled with carbon monoxide, thus killing your born-with brain.

She may be 13 but you both sound 10. And the hell, I sounded better at that age.

Oh, and it's me whose post made you frown and cuss. Now I shall intruduce myself:

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hey...i just wanna know 1 thing:y does just about every last 1 of y'all criticize babietaz?? i mean i've read her posts-or whatever ya call them...i think she has a lot of reason and makes a lot of sense--really!!! i also think she is a little bit on the crazy side--but i'm like that too. i live in Chi-town and she's right about what she said that [celtic-something-i 4got the rest of the name]u could get jumped or at least cussed out on the southside of the chi. my ma lives there and thats where i stay at mostly. i know at least 20 morenos like i say it-i'm puerto rican-and about half of them saw this site and started cussin real bad when they saw that somebody wrote that saying african american is some way of holding back on sayin ni**a-or something like that-and all them are decent 2!! my man waz thinking about pulling out his ak rite away!! but i know how 2 calm him down...NE ways actually its EZier 2 take the shortcuts like she does...i'm not and that's y i'm taking so long 2 type. i know i can get along with her and she's only 13!! but she seems mature enough 2me because of what she said about teen pregnancy. and Babietaz4107?? i give a lot of props and credit to ur mom--tell her i said happy mamma's day!! also she's right about telling whoever that if they can't handle adult words then not to read them...she may not physically be an adult yet-but 4 saying that 2me she is so babietaz...i gotchu!!!! well bye!!!!

I think the some of the policies that bush did would work like the absintance program and the abortion but makeing it hard for birth control is stupid casue if teens get brith control then teens wouldn't have to have abortions and I don't like abortions it's legalized murder to me. My advice if you dont wanna get pregnant don't have sex believe me it would bring alot less stress to your life.