Originally posted by shygirlinthecorner14: I don't even know what I should weigh. How do you guys know how much a person of a certain height should weigh anyway? Is there a web site,or is it an ask your doctor thing?
You could try those BMI calculators, but I hear that they aren't very accurate for anybody who is really athletic, really tall, really short, or who have chronic illnesses.
And Raindrops, really, you shouldn't worry. 5lb is virtually undetectable - nobody should notice. As said before by other people, you're probably just paranoid. Maybe they like your curves.
And as for the common opinion that anybody who's thinner than average must be sickly...Well, I don't think that's true. I have a few friends who are around 5'5"-ish and are incredibly thin - as in around 90-something - but they aren't starving themselves. They eat like everybody else does, they gorge on all the same junk food and they don't obsess over their weight. And quite a few of them are very athletic.
Maybe you guys aren't really being fair to people on the opposite end of the spectrum, who are naturally very thin.
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I don't even know what I should weigh. How do you guys know how much a person of a certain height should weigh anyway? Is there a web site,or is it an ask your doctor thing?
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If you are 5 pounds overweight is it quite possible that they are staring because they like what they see? Most guys don't like a toothpick girl, they like curves.
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OMG, my best friend thinks she's fat, but she's like a bean pole! She weighs 110, and she's like OMG!, i'm HUGE. She wants to look like all the stupid bimbo models in the magazines.
GOT ANY IDEAS TO WHAT I SHOULD SAY TO HER, PLEASE REPLY!!!!
I'm sassy, i'm spunky, DEAL WITH IT!
I have something you could show her its a portfolio of a friend of mine. Basically it shows just how much work can and is done with a models photograph in photoshop, and believe me every picture of a model you see is airbrushed in some way. Cindy Crawford once said "I wish i looked like Cindy Crawford." Anyways check out this site the image you intially see is the airbrushed one, roll the mouse cursor over the image to see the original (and what a drastic change it is.) They not only remove blemishes but change skin tone, shading and can even make a huge person look like a beanpole, its a powerful powerful program. The women you see in magazine are no more of a realistic represntation of a women then say, a hand drawn one.
hey don't worry. screw five pounds. i say be happy. i mean hello look around at the website your at. look at how everyone else is suffering. rape in kenya, sexual harassment, etc.(sry to everyone if i didn't mention something very important to you i really believe everything is important). one day, someone will ask you out and you'll think they're playing a joke when you look in the mirror, and think, Hey! I really am pretty! I am worthy of attention! it happened to me when i was 13 and i realized my life was to be dedicated to making people happy, and never feel the horrible pain of depression that sucks you down where there is not light. believe me, and i know this(i have a fairly intuitive sight for who's gonna be happy and who's not) you will be so happy one day. email me if you want @:fantastico1990@hotmail.com tina
Hey there.. I think that maybe people don't actually think you're fat or are staring at you. Hear me out.. I think you might selfconscious about your weight and thats why you think people are staring at you. Honestly, I bet you that NO ONE would notice if you just gained 5 pounds. So try not to worry so much about your weight and start loving yourself for who you are... not based on who is watching or not.
wow raindrops, i can have empathy for you, but it sounds like you're way overalalyzing..okay, all girls get stared at because of those two reasons, wether big or small...
OMG, my best friend thinks she's fat, but she's like a bean pole! She weighs 110, and she's like OMG!, i'm HUGE. She wants to look like all the stupid bimbo models in the magazines.
GOT ANY IDEAS TO WHAT I SHOULD SAY TO HER, PLEASE REPLY!!!!
[/QUOTE]Being a fatty is the least of your problems, you semi-literate butter troll.[/QUOTE]
Heartless moron.
america places a very high emphasis and worth on SELF CONTROL. to many americans, being overweight in instantly associated with a lack of self control. and people react badly to that because they think you should have the 'will power' to contain yourself. especially if you're female.
i don't know why overweight people get bullied. but i am sorry for all you who have this experience. ::hug::
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yeah thats something i wanna no aswell y do people bully fat people? i am overweight and im trying to lose it i get called fat once in a blue moon but thats because people know that i will stick up for myself if sum1 calls you fat then stand up to them show them that there words dont bother you and if they do cry sumwhere out of site so they dont think they have got to you.....get some willpower it will do you the world of good
Why pay them any attention believe me someone likes how you look so why does it matter to them?? When people stare at others I think that means they have something they want or like so don't fret over it. Believe me I get talked about all the time because of how I look because I have a big upper portion (the staring) but hey I have a man so why do I care and I never have, so niether should you.
quote:JUST RELAX .I'M ALSO FAT .I DEFINETLY AM TRYING TO REDUCE.BUT U SHOULD HAVE SOME SELF CONFIDENCE COZ,IF U DONT THINK UR GUD NO ONE WOULD EVER TRY TO THINK THAT U CAN B BETTER.
Being a fatty is the least of your problems, you semi-literate butter troll.
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JUST RELAX .I'M ALSO FAT .I DEFINETLY AM TRYING TO REDUCE.BUT U SHOULD HAVE SOME SELF CONFIDENCE COZ,IF U DONT THINK UR GUD NO ONE WOULD EVER TRY TO THINK THAT U CAN B BETTER.
quote:Originally posted by raindrops: Why is it that if a girl is a tiny bit ooverweight suddenly shes a pig yhat doesnt take care of herself that you shuldnt respect at all? im not fat i have like five pounds to lose and im on a diet. but people stare at me. they stare at two things 1)my breasts. 2)my stomach. why does it matter soooooo much that imnot perfect? its not like they are! can anyone tell me why just because i have an extra five pounds on me thats all people see.
i dont know who the **** you were talking to..but it wasnt me. But first of all..magazines are NOT displaying healthy people. Most models weigh about 90-110 lbs, where Im 5'4, 13 and I weigh 117 and I might be underweight. Them being in their very late teens and 20s, thats pretty effing unhealthy. J-14 is the most useless waste of paper piece of crap magazine anyway, thats freaking pathetic that you read it, and that you think ANY model is healthy! I think the only healthy models are the plus size models, because they have a good enough mental health that they can model their perfectly beautiful bodies without complaining and starving themselves. Skinny models dont have good mental or physical health. If youre skinny to the point where its disgusting and you think you look good but youre still not skinny enough for your next shoot..then you beling in a mental hospital. Oh and by the way..those shetchers ads airbrush abs and a stomach onto that girl..
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"I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not" - Kurt Cobain (Nirvana)
quote: its not all the media's fault. they are advertising Healthy people, not just the skinny ones.
you are saying that anorexic women with their bones sticking out are healthy? what magazine are you lookin at?
being overweight is just a turn off to people. They think of a skinny girl w/a huge rack and huge a$$ as being attractive...well i am skinny but my rack and my a$$ are small too. I may not be overweight but I am far from perfect...and don't worry, if all you need to lose is 5 pounds, i wouldn't be so concerned. Your diet should take care of those as long as you exercise too. Be happy you aren't one of those people who could stand to lose 100+ pounds....Now that would be embarrassing.
Hey hey, your askin me what magazines im lookin at...well. i like J-14. but thats OFF the point. i hate it when peope quote me, so im gonna quote u. What magazones are You looking at?? ok, im my mag, page 23 of the new J-14...they are not anerexic...and they are models. ok, now page 39 (still sept. issue of J-14) skechers, i see belly!! NOT Anerexic!! oo i win.
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Weight should be no object for anyone. Sure, being overweight is unhealthy, but what about the people that cant help it becuase they have some kind of disease? Being unerweight is unhealthy too, again if you have a disease or not. I hate underweight people that think they look good. I dont count anorexia or bulemia as diseases, I wont go into that, just keep in mind that Id make a terrible physchotherapist. I'm average weight, I work out to stay healthy but certainly not skinny. I think as long as youre okay with being overweight (not terribly overweight like 350 lbs or anything) and you think youre beautiful, then you are and its great that you have self-confidence. But if all you do is complain then try doing something about it or just shut the hell up.
"I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not" - Kurt Cobain (Nirvana)
Hey i'm about 10 lbs overwieght but that doesn't keep me down and Celtic is right quiting the soft drinks really does help i've been off all carbonated drinks for 5 months and i lost alot of weight .... soooo also just ignore the people who stare at ya guys stare at my boobs all the time but that's bc i have large boobs not in doubles just single but they'er the biggest in my grade
Well, I guess it's normal that alot of people(not all) would at you that way. It's human nature, and I'm not saying it is right but that's the way that it is. Look, I think that as long as those people also look inside of you and care about the real you rather than just your looks, than those people are worth your time and concern. If not, then you shouldn't even worry about what they think, because girl, there not even worth your time! Take care of yourself, being healthy is a very good thing, but don't obsess over looks.
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Why is it that if a girl is a tiny bit ooverweight suddenly shes a pig yhat doesnt take care of herself that you shuldnt respect at all? im not fat i have like five pounds to lose and im on a diet. but people stare at me. they stare at two things 1)my breasts. 2)my stomach. why does it matter soooooo much that imnot perfect? its not like they are! can anyone tell me why just because i have an extra five pounds on me thats all people see. 
