Hmmmmm. I love nice guys! They are so cute and sweet! The only reason I dont go for them personally is because I know I havent got an ice cubes chance in hell with them . Maybe the nice girls your lookin for feel the same way?

Well sometimes nice girls lose out too. Don't get bitter.

Some people do not know a good thing when they see it. For example some girls SAY they want a nice guy when really what they want is a nice, good-looking, cool, 'fit' guy with an ego bigger than his head. Because they are looking for all these qualities they will TOTALLY MISS the nice guys RIGHT UNDER THEIR NOSE and go for the a ssholes with all those other assets that really don't matter.

Those girls have the wrong approach to getting a nice guy. I sympathise with you. But a lot of girls really do appreciate nice guys, I promise!

I think you've just been chasing the wrong girls…

Bex

omg litree, i talk just like you... strange... i mean AWESOME! haha, wow

i tend to op for "bad" but loveable guys... they also tend to be christian for some reason... newho, i vary, everyone varries... i'm rambling... everyone rambles

so yea, my friend is one of those "nice guys" everyone thinks he is gay, but now there are some younger girls in our school who are all fawning over him... it's quite odd. ok i'm mentally anguished and no longer have any idea what the hell i'm talking about.

I always went for the nice quiet guys in school. There was just something about them that was just huggable. But what really attracted me to my boyfriend now was how he knew who he was, and didn’t care what others thought about it. That’s how I had always been. I have never had any true fashion sense (never really wanted one) and I was just really REALLY quiet. My freshman year of high school I scared that guys at my table in my foods class because I never said anything to them. I sat in my own little world and watched them mess up brownies. I dunno... I like a guy with confidence. My boyfriend says I helped give that to him by loving him for him. Which is good and bad... bed because other girls see that and want a piece of it.

... Totally rambling... Anywho... just be who you are and don’t go far out of your way to impress someone. In the never dying words of Dr Sues: "Do what you want and say what you feel, because whose that mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind."


Tootles

Now I don't know about any of the other girls out there, but I would only go out with a "nice guy" maybe that's why I'm all alone...

I too go for nice guys, and so do my friends. In fact, I only go out with guys if they're nice to other people (not just me) and openminded. Also they have to be able to make me laugh and I have to be able to carry on a conversation with him, but that's not really relivant . Anyway, don't lose hope

hmmmm....

ok I agree you need to be who you are, I remember going through school and everyone started "hooking up", but not me. I didn't change...I stayed me. And then one day it was cool to be me, everyone started being into the same stuff as me and my friends. We wern't social misfits anymore, we were now the life of the party. What I'm getting at is your time will come, it's hard....but I waited on the side lines as well. I'm sort of glad, I know how it feels to be on both sides of the spectrum.

However...

I'm a bad boy

I dunno, I know what you are all saying about guys being jerks and stuff. But I was never really a jerk to anyone I dated. But if you wanted to get in my face, I was down to fight. I could fight with words and fists, and I won't stop until I win. I think that is what girls saw in me, I was someone who would fight for what I believed in and was able to protect them and myself. Another thing is...I just went out and did wild and crazy stuff, being I thought I was so bad. I would go anywhere...and I think sometimes girls just want an adventure...something easily provided by me

any of that make sense?? Not trying to glorify myself...I was just sort of rambling. And the girls I dated where very diverse. The nice shy girl to the wild freak!! I'm guessing girls just sort of want some excitment....not that fighting and all that is right or exciting, but it happend especially places I went

I'll stop now....

If it makes any of you guys feel better, i always go for the "nice guys". i think highschool i a very shallow time, because i am a "nice" girl, and since i won't be laying anyone on the first date, i don't get much attention. but i'm convinced i'll find someone, now is just not my time. just be yourself, you'll meet a girl that will go for the nice guys. it will be worth the wait, too.

Nice guys may not be getting any attention in high school or college, but they are eventually the guys who get the girls in the long run. I personally, tended to go toward the "bad boys"...then I regained my intelligence and found that they treat you like ****. Nice guys are the guys who will be married one day, and the other guys can find their own future w/out the girls! Cuz, honestly what girl wants to be married to a guy that is a jerk and treats her like ****?!?! Not me!

Those girls are just *****es. All they want is sex and they DON'T want to be respected obviously. Our society has taught a lot of the girls that if they wanna get a guy, they gotta act like ****s which is a bad choice. If I ever dated a guy that was a jerk even if it wasn't to me (which I never would unless he held that info from me) I'd say take a hike. Nice guys just need to aim their aspects a little higher instead of looking at the lowlife chicks.

I'm not sure I understand this.
what do you mean by "nice"?
if all you mean is friendly, it is not bad.
to finish last, there has to be a goal.
what exactly are you trying to do?

I'm interested, I have heard many people say something along this line before.

anyone who has an opinion please speak up.

--Void

Thank you for your broad generalization, poser, but just because a guy isnt pouncing on every girl he sees or grabbing ***** and such doesnt mean he's gay, just considerate of girls who dont nessecarily want to be groped by everyone in sight. Unfortunately, its those guys that go for every girl they see that find nice girls to be with, while the selective considerate guys end up with nobody.

NICE GUYS SUCK.AND USUALLY,ALL THE NICE GUYS ARE GAY

Sometimes a girl sees a nice guy and think hey there is a great guy what a friend he would be.and the see a jerk and thinkwow wonder what i could do to get with him and change him, whether the girl relizes that or not, thats what she's thinkin. And i've relized i do the same thing i go after the bad boy image and the guy really isn't a bad boy but he's not totally good either.The only thing i can tell you is to go with the flow of things and don't think of you self as the NICE guy and don't be one of the Jerks, just be yourself and let things come your way don't go lookin for them.
BABY

it's not that you're too nice but shy. I can sympathise with your postion, I been there. It's just sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and take a chance.

NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
lol. i know what you mean dude. im known as *the brother type* every girl just wants to be my friend. lol it is true, nice guys finish last. hay i guess all it takes is patience right? i just gots to wait my turn.

KEEP BEING NICE AND YOU'LL FIND THAT SHY ATTRACTIVE GIRL THAT IS COMING. She will pop into your life and you won't know it until you get that weird feeling when you're with her.
Good luck,
N Sync girl

Don't stop being nice! ! If ya get bored listen to "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Green Day.

Wanna know what I think... being a "nice girl"? Sure, I'm always looking for a "nice guy" to date; and I see them all around. And its not like they wouldn't go out with me, I just don't like asking much (course this could be cuz I have some issues with like every male who's ever influenced my life). Basicly I'm afraid to be hurt some more by guys. Atleast guys that I know I could trust.

I have learned one thing, you can spend all day fooling around with someone you don't really like or even know; and it won't even compare to a lasting relationship with someone you really care about.

So why might we end up going out with the losers instead of picking someone we know we'd have better luck with? Easy, its cuz we know we won't be rejected.

I just wanted to say thanx. If all guys were like you. The guys i have dated are such jerks. Its nice to know that there is a guy out there that respects women. As for the guys who call you saps, they are probably just jealous. i cant exactly tell you why girls go to guys that treat them like crap. Do me a favor and dont change.
Stay cool

~Britt~