I also agree with strange Love.

You may be 14 and yes its possible to be in love...But you have to have felt hatered and pain before love and its hard to have felt those emotions at such a young age.

But when it comes to regreting sex because of your age...its really not that bad. i was 14 and i have yet to regret it.

I got to agree with strangelove there.

Love is a very complicated thing.

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Originally posted by Emma14:
I have a boyfriend of 1year now and we took our time to do things as we are really in love - people who read this will thingk being in love at 14 is stupid. But after a year i know now how much he means to me and its alot.. And year we have done it im not going to lie but it was special and i knew it meant alot to th both of us. and if we keep going out - who konws maybe he could be that special one? i know i will regret doing it at a young age? but i cant help that i fell in love so early in life

Oh I can't wait for the imminent thread where you start cutting because he left you and you think your life has fallen to peices and lost all meaning.

I'm sorry but you don't know what love it. You can't truely know love untill you have fully accepted loss and the meaninglessness of most things.

I have a boyfriend of 1year now and we took our time to do things as we are really in love - people who read this will thingk being in love at 14 is stupid. But after a year i know now how much he means to me and its alot.. And year we have done it im not going to lie but it was special and i knew it meant alot to th both of us. and if we keep going out - who konws maybe he could be that special one? i know i will regret doing it at a young age? but i cant help that i fell in love so early in life

i personally think that it is that person't opinion on what they want to do, i mean there are lots of things that come along with sex you got the stds,babies and all of that and i think that it should be shared with someone you love and if you are sure that you love that person i say that you should go for it, I mean everyone has their opinion and that is mine!

hey everyone!!!

this is obviously an issue that everyone is faced with as teenagers no matter what ur views are ...
i have a lot of respect for those people who feel strongly enough about waiting for their wedding night to have sex ... and i hope for u all that it really is as good as u want it to be ...
the thing that gets me is when sometimes peole put expectations on how much better it will be if u wait until ur married ... and i did use the word SOMETIMES

i personally dont think that waiting until ur married is an issue ... as long as you care strongly for and respect the person you are having sex with ... and its not just some sleazy bogan off the streets that u just met

on the other hand ... i have no respect for those people who sleep with as many people as possible just because it is a fun thing to do ... sex is a special thing between two people and it shouldnt be taken lightly ...

so i guess ... like a lot of others ... im midway between both those extrememes ...

catchas laters
porge xxx

Sex is wonderful!
I'm not going to lie about it, I was young when I had sex and I know kids who were even younger then me that have had sex. Be with someone you care about and respect, and please be responsible, too many kids are having kids.

Personally, I think teenagers aren't ready to have sex. Sex is the union of two souls, and the most sacred of all acts. It isn't just a two minute fling, and then move on. It is an act that can change a life, or perhaps even create one.

This is just my opinion, I think its ok to have sex as a teenager just make sure u use protection. I myself love to have sex because it makes me feel good, no im not a hoe, or s*lut or a w*hore, i just think its fun to do.

Read 1 Cor.7:2 (KJV): "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."

if you even have one small amount of questioning in your mind... then it isn't the right time.

Only you will know when is the right time. Don't let anyone decide for you! it is your decision and if you think your 99.9% ready then your still not 100%, take a step back. When you can HONESTLY tell yourself that your ready and this is something you have thought about and understand... then your ready

YOU ARE MARRIED!!!!!!!!! Read 1 Corinthians 7:2 or the whole chapter.

and i forgot to add:
if the idea of people finding out that you have 'done the deed' makes you feel like a filthy s***, then dont do it. Because people will definately find out. It always happens. So be ready. They really dont care that much anyway. People have sex everyday.

GIRLS>>> Here are some basic facts. Do with them what you will. Take it slow, be safe, have fun. Good luck.

SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME:
-is not that exciting
-will not take you to higher levels
-is messy!
-and is rarely romantic when neither of you have a clue what your doing and your trying to hide your saggy boobs and he expects you to act like a pornstar
-and to top it off it hurts as well!

SEX SHOULD, HOWEVER:
-be with someone you trust, someone who respects you and is not going to tell the whole school the intimate (and most likely exaggerated) details
-be safe, always, always use a condom.
-be remembered, ie it's probably not the best idea to do it when your pissed or stoned or googed up or all three.
-be something that you have discussed with your partner, something that you are both prepared and ready for.

sex should be w/ someone u love, u care, the person u have in common with. not with some person u just known for a couple months or days. and i think teenagers having sex is just too early.(that's what i think)

Just laughing at the idea of sex being sacred… I think to some people (or a lot) it's a big thing and I'm sure it can be really special when you're with someone you care a lot about. But 'sacred'? Give me a break! It involves a load of bodily fluids. I mean thinking realistically, sex is pretty gross. There's no point idealising it.

Anyways I dunno why I'm pretending to know my subject here… for all I know it raises you onto a whole new spiritual level. So, idealise away.

Bex

My mom is always telling me "Don't have sex!" and I just tell her, "I'm a teenager, I'm not supposed to be completelly comfortable with my body. I'm not comfortable enough to take off my clothes with a guy." And besides, I'm waiting for marriage. People I've told this to have said "Well, why do you want pain on your wedding night?" but that isn't the point. It's about being pure, and sticking to the Christian morals I was brought up with.

Dante is right,
It’s not that amazing.
I've always wondered how people who say "wait till marriage" can say it’s "something amazing." But hypothetically since they aren't married and therefore they shouldn't have had sex yet, what makes them qualified to make judgment on how "amazing" or "unamazing" sex is.

Not really as amazing as you seem to think...

i don't think sex is right before marriage, i don't think you're a terrible person or anything if you do it, but i think that your virginity is something to give your spouse, not anyone else. Seriously though, sex is one of the most amazing things in the world, and if you can give that gift to your spouse and nobody else it makes it that much more amazing.