ok. i just thought of something to say..feel free to ignore me..

ok. i just realised that there are so many sexually abused women here.. i mean a ton.. well and i know that it must be hard to go through such ordeal..

my question:

1. how do u guys feel about it. it must be a crummy feeling, people looking at u like u ur some helpless person..u guys may not want to talk about..but considering ur population..well anyway, thats ok

2. 4 the none abused, how do u look at victims of sexual abuse? do u pity them so much? do u think that they should be given special treatment? do u look down on them as a pathetic sex slaved person? or whatever?


cos i feel gr8 sympathy for them. it must be a gr8 burden to cARRY A horrible picture in thier minds..guys just dont understand...

well anyway...hope some of u answer my questions

agree with ur #2 becca

Audree
1) I don't think the guy feels bad about it necissarily. Like if it's a known rapist then they don't feel bad, but if it's a boy not being able to control himself then he probably does feel bad.

2) No don't give them special treatment that just singles them out more than they already are. That also doesn't let them move on from that tramatic situation.
Luv
Becca

ummm..sure..
but for us, its only like 1/40 rape victims r male..kinda different

I understand now...and I really don't think you're a b!tch, I just got upset cause of my brother and stuff. It is a lot less likely for a guy to get raped/sexually abused (I believe that about 1/10 of rape victims are male, but don't quote me on that.) I shouldn't have jumped on you like that, especially without making sure I understood your point. I know you weren't trying to hurt anyone's feelings. Love, Jen.

oh. ok. im sorry if i offended u guys. i didnt mean it that way. im so sorry. i really am, but i meant what i said.

jen, i accept ur apology, but if u really wanted 2 call me a b!tch, huh, well thats fine. ..but i think its pretty low cos i just said a brief thing which i didnt mean 2 offend people and already people calling me those, well anyway..

what i just meant is that guys dont understand much of this sensitive sympathy stuff..yes it must be horrible 4 guys too.. but girls just much sympathism (word check?).. i mean, u cant deny that there is more danger of girls getting raped than guys ryt? and girls r kinda more sensitive,..

and when i sed that "guys just dont understand" , i meant that for d women who got raped by guys. i meant that guys (of course some women too but i just didnt add it here cos what i was talking bout was women) just go raping girls not understanding what thier victim would feel.....

im really sorry if u didnt understand, i didnt make it clear..and im sorry if i didnt add guys who get sexually abused too, im sorry , i just didnt understand cos here in our country, its very very unusual for guys to get raped...it really really is. im sorry we hav different cultures..i 4got that americans r d dominant population here and you guys would take things really really differently..........


im sorry

okay, that makes sense. you win

I meant what I said, but I shouldn't have called her a b!tch. She wasn't being deliberately rude or attacking me. So I shouldn't have done so to her. Love, Jen.

because you had every right to say what you did. you have no need to apologise

Why not?

jen, you shouldnt have apologized.

*slinks back to apologize*

Why is it that I'm always getting emotional and then having to ask forgiveness? In any case, that's what I'm about to do...

I should not have called you a b!itch or been so sarcastic with you. While I do disagree with what you said about guys, the overall sentiment of your post (that victims of sexual abuse should not be looked down upon) was valid. Therefore, I want to extend my apologies to you and ask that you pardon my rudeness. This topic hit very close to home and I spoke without consideration.

Love, Jen.

Yeah, you're right, guys could never understand. For instance, someone like my brother, who was raped and sexually abused for years, would never be able to fathom the pain. After all, how could they, since women are the only ones who could possibly be victimized like that? B!tch. Do you have no concept of sensitivity or courtesy or reality? Damn it, this pisses me off.

its sad

Ohhhh... I just saw the comment...

WTF, it does happen to guys, do you see how many boys it happens to in the news? And look here's proof; Korith.

My friend, who is a boy was also sexually abused. By his own mother, so don't go saying that boy's do not understand. The media has gotten to you too. So, disappointing.
-Sunset

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guys just dont understand...

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Yeah, because i am a guy, I don't understand what sexual abuse is like...

Because I am I guy.. I don't understand..

How dare you, honestly. I DO know what its like, it happened to ME, a GUY.

I am so mad right now.. I can't take it people start talk like that..

I feel really bad for the abused women, but as a guy I do feel kinda bad when every other show i turn on is like men are evil they will rape you. when there is a ton more honest good guys than there are offenders. I also dont like how women are not covered on tv as much when they abuse somone, when was the last time you turned on the tv and saw a story about a woman sexually abusing a boy? I dont know this was a pointless post ignore it

I'm not sure if you're asking boys in general, or all of us.

Anyway, it's really... really... (where is my word) ****** up. You never forget about it. I personally never forgave the 3 people. I just can't. I feel dirty, ashamned, they've taken something away from me that I can not take back. But, you've got to move on. Tell sombody and get those sick perveted *******s in jail. Women are not, and I repeat, are not the only victims of sexual abuse.

I was watching Oprah on t.v. a few days ago, and I couldn't believe my eyes that there was so many people that have went threw sexual abuse. But, only a few have told. It's sad. And, I'm the one that have not and will not tell anybody.

I personally dispise pity. I do not want pity, pity is not a good thing.

Hope I have helped you.
-Sunset

[This message was edited by YNLissa on November 15, 2003 at 04:12 PM.]