For me, it's your choice to have sex. You can do it, or you don't do it. Your choice. But if you are old enough to have sex like an adult, then you should try acting like a responsible adult and raise the kid if you get pregnant. But it is not and I repeat NOT just the girl's responsibility. Maybe guys, if you don't want a kid, then you should keep it in your pants. And if your girl gets pregnant, and you decide to bolt try thinking what it would be like growing up without a daddy, even if you can't get along with the mom, think about that little boy/girl that would one day ask his mommie, "Mom, how come I don't have a daddy?" with tears welling up in his/her eyes. And guys, if you could honestly say you could walk away from a little kid looking at you as if you are his/her hero, then you don't deserve the love of that child. A child comes into this world so carefree and innocent, and wouldn't you like to keep a child that way? And to those moms who would rather leave their child in a dumpster or kill it remember what does around comes around. One day you might not be able to have children, but you would have killed a life that could have cured AIDS or ended world hunger. So if you believe you want to try and act like an adult and have sex, and you get pregnant, think about the consequences of your actions.

i think it is ok to have sex, but you should always be aware you have a risk of getting pregnant and if you get pregnant i think you should deal with the consequences of your actions. the baby you conseive didnt ask to be brought into this world so you shouldnt murder a living thing.

I personally know what it is like 2 have been a victim of teen pregnacy but at da same time i was enjoying the fact that i was bringing a beautiful life into this world and people were telling me that i was lucky 2 have a baby. There were other people telling me i was a ****..oh wait can i say that..oh well anyways and there were people saying i was 2 young 2 have a baby. I cant blame people 4 the way they feel but i can say that whether they know the whole story makes a big difference cuz i was lied 2 i watched him put the condom on but i didnt know he took it off on the low. So when i got pregnant i was wondering why he was so happy when i told him he wanted a child and didnt think of consulting the person who would be carrying the baby 4 9 months and probably would be taking care of it 95% of the time also. Now i have a 3 month old son and hes seen him 3 times since hes been born. So basically im saying some girls get pregnant cuz they are looking 4 love from a guy or they r not getting the attention they need at home but some females r decieved and they dont even know sometimes we r in da dark as well.

I totally agree with you Creeker...I think if teens are having sex they need to be ready for whatever consequences come their way, either pregnancy, STD's or anything else that could happen! I also believe that you should truly love your partner, because if that is true and if something were to happen like the above consequences you know you have someone there for you who loves and cares about you! Which makes it much easier in dealing w/ the consequences!

Well i think some of u guys are right... i mean.. if ur not ready to have children y have sex.. the way i was always told is that if u ready to have children then u better be ready do get married.. and if ur ready to get married u better be ready to have children... well im a virgin.. and i am going to remain one until i get married.. because it is something really special.. and i would only want to share it with the person i love, who would be my husbend.. i do know some girls who are pregant and they also used a condom.. but that doesnt even work most of the time.. it only protects u 97% so.. the 3% it doesnt and it doesnt protect from SDD... i have some friends who did get pregant.. it was really hard for them.. because the guys never stayed.. which is really sad.. and people dont just blame the mother.. because it takes two...

I think girls you should start being responsible I am not telling people don't do this but at least use protection.I appuald all girls who contine to go to school and have a future that is realy difflcut to do and they are proving that never giving up will get you somewhere in life.I wouldn't know whait is to be a teen mother because I stil have my vrignity all I have to say if your going to be sexually active do it in a resposblie and mature way use protection but to be 100% sure you'll make it in life wait!You have the rest of your life to have sex but only right now to be a teen!

Judith

As far as I'm concerned, don't do it at all. Most girls do end up getting rid of their kids, which is terrible. I agree - if you can't take the consequences, don't do it. Honestly,though. Come on. You say "You love each other so much - you want to give him everything you can." If you love each other that much, then you can stand to wait. And you can give him other stuff, besides yourself.
Also, would you be more comfortably getting married to a guy if you would still be pure, or if you had done it because you "Loved someone so much", and you probably ended it with the guy about a mnoth later. I mean, your hubby could be clean, but you weren't - wouldn't that make you at least a little embarrased?
God made us to produce sexually, but it doesn't mean that that's all he created us to do. Some peeps are so obsessed with it, it's sick! If some guy even suggested it he'd wished he had never laid eyes on me. I'd knock him to Mars. NO ONE has the right to ask me to give them the most important gift I have. In my opinion, if he asks you to do it then that's probably all he was after. One nice thing about being ugly - no guys go flocking to you for the wrong reasons.

I THINK SEX IS A BEUTIFUL THING WHEN EXPIRENCED BY 2 MATURE ADULTS THAT IS ABLE TO DEAL WITH A BABY OR ANYTHING ELESE BUT THE FACT IS SEX ISN'T A PLEASURE IT IS A REASPONSIBILITY THANX 4 READIN'

I think that having sex at an early age is irresponsable. Sex is something sacred and should be done with someone that you truly love and trust. I am not saying that you should wait until marriage because I dont plan to by any means. But I am going to wait until I love someone and can let all of my emotions out with them. When people have sex after they have just met, their realtionship skips all of the steps of truly getting to know each other. So many people in my school think that it is SO cool to be having sex as a freshman. They lose there virginity to upperclassman in the back of their cars. Sex should be somehting very special that both people agree to. I also think that it is really stupid and irresponsible to get pregnant as a teenager. You arent fully grown yourself, you havent had the full life experience. How can you raise a child yourself? Your parents help, but it shouldnt be their responsability, no matter how supportive they are. It was your mistake. You should face the consiquences. I feel really bad for those children born to young teenage mothers. I have great respect for those who do take responability and raise their children on their own and further their education. They made a mistake, but they took responabilty for their actions. They didnt have their parents bail them out.

YO Whats up Cheeker04.
How are you doing. Iam glad that you are happy withyour son and you had him at a young age and didn't get an abortion. I am not to fond of girls who kill other human beings. Any advice that you need just hit me up at Nishasparks@aol.com. I love giving people advice. Keep your head u. ANd tell your son I said Hi and that he has a strong mother that loves him very much.

Peace out
Keep loving your son no matter what YA HEARD
PEACE OUT-1

i think their is such a stereotype about teens who have babies many people view them as careless ****y girls who dont give a toss but mistakes happen not just to the irresponsible..my mum had me when she was 18 and she was a better mother than alot of other people out there twice her age and she is the most amazing person in the world!
I have a 2 year old sister and 7 month old brother and i am 17 and i love them alot and it has made me realise how much hard work it is to look after a child but luckily a can hug them and leave them to my mum to worry about..lol! i respect peoples descions i think it is ust as hard to raise a child alone as it is to decide to abort a baby and that it is an individual choice..however i would personally not abort if i fell pregnant i know alot of people would and i think it is their decsion to do so and not have other to judge them.

There was a time that I thought I was pregnant. I wasn't thank God. I wasn't ready to have a baby. It was quite silly really becuase I read you could get pregnant from fooling around with your clothes on if your man came. Well my boyfriend did and I was about 2 weeks late. I just want to emphasize you girls to be careful about everything you do.

Pregnancy is a beautiful thing. If you had a baby, you can't change that you can only make it better. Its not something to be ashamed about. I'm not saying that it was a good thing to happen to you, however, its something that can't be changed. At times people might embarass you about what you do but so what! God will forgive you.

It was great of you to be responsible about your actions. I know alot about taking the responibility, as I am a 17 year old with a son who is almost 2. He is my everything and I ca't imagine life without him. Ladies and guys... you need to be careful. The choices you make now can and will affect the rest of your lives and the responsiblity lies both with the girls and the guys. Hang in there, you can deal with anything that happens in your life.

I think its important that you were willing to deal with the responsibility a child would have brought in your life. Its good that your Mom would have supported you. I'm not sure what my Mom would do even know if I got pregnant and was unwed. I believe in abstince but my boyfriend wants to go further. I told him we could when he got me a ring. At times my boy wants to take over but I don't want my heart hurting or left confused if he gets what he wants and leaves. I really care about him. He's a really sweet guy. Sometimes relationships can be so cofusing.:confused:

In Christ
Marlayna

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Thank you! That means so much to me. You just don't even know. Well my e-mail address is BabyGirl_TCD@hotmail.com I usually check my e-mail like 3 or 4 times a week so if I don't repky immediatly dont' get mad. Thanks for the reply.

Hey Creeker, I am happy for you. I read that you are sorry for the way you lost your virginity, but God always forgives. I am glad you didn't kill your baby, because I know a 13 year old girl (she goes to my school) who has had 4 abortions, and I told her, those babies weren't asked to be brought into this world, but yet you can kill them as if they weren't humans. I think it's sweet that you cared, and I am sorry for your miscarriage. I hope you and your boyfriend can have another baby! If you need any help one day with baby names, let me know. Do you have an e mail address I can have? If not, an address? I would love to keep in touch with you!

Well Thank You! I thinik that it is so cool that you actually think that it was sweet because most people don't think about it being sweet they just automatically assume that I'm a hoe or something. I'm not. Granted that I wasn't trying to get pregnant or anything but still ya know I got feelings too.

I think that it is really good of you to want and support your kid, I am sorry that you lost him but at least you were responsible. I don't think that we realize what fooling around can do until something happens. It's like a kid that just found his fathers gun. Teenagers just won't believe anyone until it really does happen, I know I still am a teen.