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there are more benefits of waiting than just having sex with someone you "love" because that puts us on the same level as animals which is obviously not true...

I disagree with this. Why is sex veiwed as an "animal" thing?

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That way if something happens (ex: STD's, pregnancy) then they can take care of their own problems themselves.

Being 18 doesn't really make anyone more prepared to deal with STDs or pregnancy.

I think that people should wait until they are at least at the age of 18 before they have sex. That way if something happens (ex: STD's, pregnancy) then they can take care of their own problems themselves.

I, personally, am waiting until marriage. Not necessarily because of my faith, but because of my own standards and morals. And no, I mean no offense to those who have had sex already, or are having sex now - but I have the perfect honeymoon dreamt out for me and my husband.

If I get married.

the only way abstinence is going to work is if more people talk about it and all the good things that come out of it..there are more benefits of waiting than just having sex with someone you "love" because that puts us on the same level as animals which is obviously not true...but while abstinence is what it is it still needs to be taught and strongly urged...we all know what "safe" sex is but there are still those percentages that prove that "safe: sex isnt always safe and scaring kids into abstinence is not the point...its gotta be the kids choice

I believe that its been proven that teaching only abstinence does not work.

I don't think there's any way to teach an intelligent kid to practice abstinence. Unless you scare into him or her using religion or fear of STDs.

Here, abstinence was the last thing we were taught in sex ed. It was always safe sex, the way to practice safe sex, the consequences of unsafe sex, and the only 100% effective birth control - abstinence.

Not because it's less important, but because abstinence is not something that can be taught. It's self-explanatory and pretty much always in practice unless you have an active sex life.

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Originally posted by clpo13:
Abstinence-only education is a sure-fire way to ensure kids have sex before they get married. The studies prove it. On the other hand, if you teach them everything they need to know regarding sex and relationships, the chances are lower that they'll get STDs or become pregnant as a teen.

I love US News, don't you?

Not true. You need to teach it with a reason, which is what Sunday School and other like organizations do, and that's when it succeeds.

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p.s. why does everyone have quotes at the end of all of their posts???

Just some people's signatures. They can be turned off....like here

His profile says he's a 16 year old male [probably in the closet ].

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pink_fairy

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i lost my virginity at age 15 to my gf who i was in love with

Are you a lesbian, or just a really abnormal dude?

Abstinence-only education is a sure-fire way to ensure kids have sex before they get married. The studies prove it. On the other hand, if you teach them everything they need to know regarding sex and relationships, the chances are lower that they'll get STDs or become pregnant as a teen.

I love US News, don't you?

I've never had "sex-ed" (unless you call Sunday School (abstinence) sex-ed) and I'm not pregnant. In fact, I'm a virgin. Come on! What's the problem with virginity. Why is it that virgins are just less mature? I would think it's the other way around?

BTW, didn't this thread die?

i lost my virginity at age 15 to my gf who i was in love with. Looking back i wouldnt say i regret it, but it can take over a relationship, and instead of talking or cuddling, it kinda became based on when we could have sex..honestly i no this is going to sound werid, but sex isnt all its hyped up to be. After i had it for the 1st time..i was like where is this big life changing thing that was spose to happen. i mean if your ready to have sex and the hype is the only thing stopping you go for it....i dont think it should depend untill your married, it should depend on when u feel ready.

i am not and i regret doing it the first time when i was 13 but i dont regret doin it now with my current boyfriend because as you said we love each other and i kno hes not in it just for that..if u feel that ur boyfriend is in it just for sex than u should dump him


p.s. why does everyone have quotes at the end of all of their posts???


http://www.myspace.com/lovinherandrew ---add me

My opinion:

If you want to have sex, go for it. Use protection.

If you don't want to have sex, don't have sex.

Pushing of abstinance in today's society is by my understanding a way to prevent teen (and unwanted) pregnancy and the transmission of sexual diseases. Which is completely different from the motives of the Bible which says it is a sin as well as many other actions we can and do take. I personally am a Christian and I am also 17 and a virgin. I don't "intend to stay that way" but I do firmly belive that you shouldn't have sex just because you can. The reason I'm a virgin is because I haven't found the right person yet. As far as the Biblical standards, well yes I care what the Bible says but I've also committed a host of other sins, and the Bible itself says that no sin is greater than another. So by inference, every time I lie I might as well be having premarital sex. I think I'll leave it at that.

Sex can screw stuff up. Did I wait? No. But I do believe you should wait till it is someone special, someone you love. Whether you are marrying the person or just dating.

Bauhaus, you have just ww, not http://www...

Sex or Abstinence...??


If you decide to have sex or not that's your problem,good for you or bad,how you see it is how your going to feel and be.If you decide not to..well you save yourself of any sickness or pain(physical,mental and spiritual).
But that depends on how you see it.

What I do say is:If the person loves you GREAT! Feel the pleasure and the love,dont do it because you think your going to be "IN" with the group or something like that.

In my case I'm a Christian so I see it as a gift from God.To love,to be loved,to feel pleasure and give pleasure to that person I care most.I'm not going to say if is good or bad doing it before getting married.

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Originally posted by freedomordeath:
Your profile isn't working bauhaus, I can't get to your myspace profile....

it should work now.

Your profile isn't working bauhaus, I can't get to your myspace profile....