I think it has to be a mutual feeling before it can be considered a non-harassment case. Many students just let harassment go when it should be reported so that the problem can be stopped.

sexual harassment is ANY contact that YOU feel is unwarranted or unwanted. For example, I am working at the burger-grill and a co-worker makes a lewd comment (that is sexual harassment), or pats me on the butt (that is sexual harassment), or pesters for a date (again that is sexual harassment). ANY actions or words that are of a sexual matter AND unwarranted or unwanted is sexual harassment. Also, let's say you and your friend are having a mutually explicit conversation (that is both sides agree on the sexually explicit subject matter or you even bring it up) and you decide that you do not wish to discuss further yet the other party does not let it go (that is sexual harassment)... this is a psychological and legal definition however any company can add to it or subtract from it. .....best thing is to keep yourself right, do not tempt fate, and report ANY thing that makes YOU feel unconfortable. NOTE: it is not the intent of the actions or speech that define sexual harassment IT IS how YOU interpret such actions or speech.
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Personally, because I have been sexually harassed before, I believe there is a fine line between sexual harassment and being friendly. What is friendly to one person is harassment to another. Half of it is how you percieve it. Sexual Harassment is the continued bothering (I guess) of a person in a sexual way, and although the person may think he or she is being friendly, if the "victim" percieves it as harassment or does not like what the other person is doing, then it is harassment.

At a party I went to last saturday, one of my friends decided to go up into the loft for a bit, there were other people there… then she went into the other room and the door shut behind her and the light went off, she realised this really pervey boy I know had shut her in with him. He started trying to feel her up, she was screaming but the people in the other room couldn't open the door, she managed to escape, thankfully!
And then this boy was hurt when nobody would dance with him at the end!

one kid in my sicence class said i had to give him a Blow Job or he was gonna kill me i have to go to court cus he also abused me. we never even went out~he told people he was gona rape me! he told people i was his B*tch and his wh*re. he also told people i was (in his words) ******* him

[This message was edited by YNLissa on March 23, 2003 at 06:50 AM.]

Dumars3- the boy got hit over the head with a ruler until it broke, and hasn't dared to talk to me since.

Wow, only two replies, and I thought this was an interesting subject…

I think girls are harrassed more by boys than boys are by girls, but why is that? I honestly can't figure it out. Are boys harrassed as well but in a completely different way or something?


I also think there's far too much casual bum-pinching around. Boys who do that think it's no big deal, but it's never happened to them! It's humiliating and painful. Grr, makes me angry.

I think these days the sexes are pretty much equal, but sexual harrassment is one area where we really aren't. It infuriates me, I mean really, really makes me ANGRY. They may think touching a girl's bum or whatever is 'just being friendly' but they don't realise how absolutely humiliating it is. Or don't care. I am getting worked up just thinking about it. So a tip for boys: if you think it's a good way to get a girl's attention, I will tell you right now it really, really ISN'T! So many of my friends (and me) have been really hurt and upset by this and it is really wrong and definitely harrassment so DON'T DO IT. 'Nuff said.

What you described from the boy story is sexual harrassment. Any advance towards you in a sexual manor even looks by someone is sexual harrassment. If you dont feel comfortable then nine out of ten you are being sexually harassed. Even if he is down the hall and motions for you to perform a sexual advance that is still sexual harassment. You need to talk to an adult at your school and report this incident to and adult and make sure that this stops.