Question:
I hate to whine about my life...but its been pretty rough.a couple of years ago i was molested...and it really hurt me emotionally.my friends have all literally said i need to get over it. but because of the fact that i trusted the person that did this to me..i have issues trusting people.usually guys..and because of this i have been tempted to do things i shouldnt..drugs and alcohol have been a big part of my life. dealing with the facts are so hard. i mean when i finally did come out and tell the truth,which was hard, my parents didnt beleive me. because this person is so trustworthy.!?!?!Am i the only one in this universe that has dealt with this and has these issues because of it? Do i need to get over it?I am so confused...!?!? HELP!!!

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this isnt a poll...i need some answers id like to hear from someone dealing with these things!!!

 

I have personally never dealt with these things, but I have a couple of people very close to me who have been molested. Your friends have no idea what they are talking about. You can't just get over things like that. And having trust issues are perfectly normal. People get over these in their own time. It isn't exactly something that you can just rush right back into. It is sad if your parents don't believe you, but in this case, you should seek out a therapist, or talk to another trusted adult, or friend. And I am sure that there are plenty of people here that you could talk to. It might even be easier to talk to one of us first, and then seek professional help. Know that if you need to talk, me and several other people are extremely willing to listen!

"The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple"
-Oscar Wilde

Wow....I had no idea that there were so many people out there that have been molested! I would CERTAINLY think it was a VERY big deal! Friends that are telling you to just get over it, just don't understand simply put. Wow, I'm so sorry to everyone who's been through that....

How was this person "so trustworthy"? Was it a family member or family friend or soemthing?

I'm very sorry this happened to u, but as u can see u are not the only one, this has happened to a lot of us...sadly. But I think that your friends shouldn't just tell u "get over it" or whatever, these things take time, and u may never "get over it". I still have trust issues and it happened like...2 years ago. I agree with every1, I think u need to get someone that believes u and has your back. U should talk to a counselor so u can find a way to prove this and get this person to pay for the consecuences. U are defenectly not alone. (excuse my really bad spelling)

im so sorry

starting at age 9 i was molested for 3 years by a woman who was a neighbor of mine...she was also a good friend

i was always to scared to say anything til after she left to visit mexico when i was 13

we called the police, but she was never arrested because they didnt have enough evidence

you cant just get over this...and your parents need to believe you

if they dont...tell someone else like a school counseler

this incident caused me to start cutting constantly

yoiu just need to know that youre not alone in this

im sure any of us are willing to talk whenever you need it

Omg I am so sorry a couple of years ago I was molested and raped and now I still suffer the consequences no I don not have a child but I live in fear everyday going out on the streets well if you need anything any ?'s or anything my aim/aol s.n. is sweetchick34997 and my emails are immaprep101@yahoo.com and sweetchick34997@aol.com

You are in my prayers honey!

you are not alone. Although I would not openly share things like that...no. I've been through similiar. If you need someone to talk to you can IM me or e-mail me. My AIM is painpillar and my e-mail Is barnyardschizo@yahoo.com

You have all the whining rights you need. Your friends are wrong, you can't just "get over" something like that. You need to talk about it, learn about it, and deal with it. Talk to your parents about it, before you can do anything it will help to know that they're by your side. So many people have had this problem, always remember that even though it may seem like it, you're not alone. I've never encountered these things, but I want you to get professional help. It will be hard to talk about, to face the facts, but once you do you will be on the road to dealing with your problems.

RAINN Rape Abuse and Incest National Network
1-800-656-HOPE(4673)
i don't know but this may help

you are in my prayers
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I'm sorry but your friends don't know what they are talking about. You can't just "get over" things like this. What you really need to do is talk to someone. If your parents don't belive you than find someone else. You are NOT the only one that this happens to. Unfortunatly this type of thing happens all the time and most everyone that it happens to have emotional problems dealing with it. Try to find a hotline that can help you deal with this. one of the worst things you can do is keep your feelings bottled up inside. If you can't find anyone to talk to, journal write your feelings down. I will help you find a hotline and post on here. I will be praying for you and you can always come to talk.

much love
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Lot's of people have similar stories. Did your parents not believe you were molested? If that is so, you need to tell someone else like a school councilor or the police.

As for getting over it, it sounds like you need to see a therapist to help you.