One has to want to overcome addiction on his own. You can't make him stop wanting to drink. Encourage himi to get outside help, but don't blame yourself for his difficulties.

If he really wants to get over being an alcoholic and become sober he needs to go to rehab. He needs more help than you can give. If he is always using you as an excuse to drink or to die than do you really think that you can afford to be in this relationship? What if one day he really does go off the deep end and that choice causes him his life are you going to be prepared then? All I can say is this: He needs to go to rehab for his drinking and a shrink for everything else. You need to get out of this unhealthy relationship now. If you love someone, set them free.

One question, How old is he?

ok i understand what u r going throught all you must do is try ur hardest to help him through this.

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people say and do things they know they are going to regret...so why do they do it???

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- Chelsey

thanks for all your help. he has told two teachers about his problems, and one is an expert on this stuff, because he always talks to kids about their problems and he has many students that are "at risk" students. he also told one of his other teachers, who is vowing to help him as well.thank you so much and I hope he'll semi recover.

You just shouldn't have to deal with that.

Alcoholics go to meetings, your bf is a drunk.

My Dad was an alcoholic. He left my family when I was in 2nd or 3rd grade. He disappeared for 4 years and then showed up and expected to be welcomed. He wasn't, and once again we've lost contact with him.

crazyloo, this reference page offers some resources you might find helpful, Suicide Prevention

Remember if you need immediate help for your boyfriend to call 911!

my mom is an alcoholic and i can say from experience that trying to control someone and make them do ANYTHING just won't work. i think it's your duty to SUGGEST going to rehab, but if he refuses, ultimately it's his choice. if he decides to drown himself in a substance, don't let him bring you down with him. i found the best way to handle someone you love drinking alcoholically or acting alcoholically is to let them know how you feel and how they should deal with it and then let them make their own decisions. no matter what, he will always be an alcoholic. no alcoholic every recovers from it, meaning that if they go to rehab and then try to drink again, they'll right back in and maybe harder.

He's still dependant on alcohol now. And just so you know, if he never went through a withdrawel phase, he's still drinking, even if it's in moderation.

Sadly, I'd say get out of the relationship. It sounds harsh, but you seem like you're already in too deep, and need to back out before it gets worse. You simply cannot have someone whose entire life revolves around you and wishes to die if you aren't there. It isn't healthy, it's selfish, and it makes one person feel horrible and guilty all the time. If you really care about someone, you wouldn't do that to them, so frankly, I'd ditch the self-centered unstable and find someone else.