The smart, assertive girls always get the good guys. It's a perfect way to weed out the jerks: they're too cowardly to prey on the intelligent ones.

Better to be an "intelligent and assertive" woman and be single for your entire life...than to be a dumbed down version of yourself for a man, never achieve all you're capable of, and have to rely on someone else for the rest of your life...

But maybe that's just me.

I like smart chicks and I find chicks who are up front and assertive to be extremely attractive

I say yes. Maybe I should just become drooling, submissive, feminine (gay) little ditz, who can't read and screams at the sight of small rodents and reptiles. That or be alone forever. Hmmm...

I think that many boys do find intelligence and assertiveness hard to handle. I am an intelligent, assertive girl and I get the feeling that boys are afraid of me. There isn't really any other reason why guys seem to avoid me anyway.

Guys in general have differing opinions on what type of girls they like, its impossible to come up with a definate answer to this question.

Im smart and assertive, and ive even been called a femi-nazi (extreme feminist), but I have no trouble getting guys.

Let's be honest here. Smarts aren't enough. If the girl ain't cute the girl just ain't cute.

I have many friends, also some not as bright as myself. I don't say this to sound patronising it's just the truth. But they have so many other qualities that I don't have.

The bottom line is that no matter how smart you are you're just not dating material if you don't have some other good qualities in you. Guys - and girls as well! - would rather date a really sweet but maybe a bit stupid person than a really intelligent but malbehaved one. It doesn't mean they're intimidated. *wink* ;-)

i completely agree im athletic and get good grades, and im deffinetly not shy, guys say im pretty but then say they dont think of me
"that way" they think of me as "just a friend" and i hate it, i thnk they are intimidated.

I've always, without a doubt, found intelligent women more attractive. Why would i date a girl that didn't challenge me? I need someone wo will call me on bad ideas and offer up other ideas. The problem i have is not with Girls that are assertive but with girls that are argumentative. I'm too easy going to date a girl who can't go with the flow, otherwise we'd be stuck doing everything she wanted to do and i would get frustrated. Also why would i want to date a girl who always argued with me? There are better ways to talk and it's not fun to argue. Like it says in proverbs "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife"

Sex never seriously entered my mind until I was well into my relationship with my current girlfriend. Six or seven months in. Unfortunately, guys like me are a minority. While I will admit that I was originally attracted to my girlfriend because of her looks, but it was her intelligence and confidence that kept me interested. Looks aren't worth anything if a girl can't carry a decent conversation. I've had some pretty deep and valuable conversations with my girlfriend, so she's a keeper. Definitely.

yeah i know not ALL guys are, especially on this site. and i do know some good guys. however, i did say at my age and you cant deny that high school boys are stupid. and im pretty sure the 21 y/o is a sex addict...ahha i really know how to pick 'em!
but im a girl and i want the intellectual, physical and emotional...but i hate guys who are panseys. but if i need to vent about serious things, not like how much hw i have, but real issues, guys run away. they dont know how to handle it. maybe im just too intense but in my experience its been either the guy is stupid, hes boring/not willing to be adventurous, or only wants to get in my pants...and i feel this is normal. if its not, i need to go on a man hunt!

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Originally posted by peccadillos:
so i dated a guy from work who is 21 and i wouldnt have sex with him after like 3 weeks so he broke up with me.

at my age? guys may think youre awesome and want to date you but it all comes down to sex. i sometimes even feel bad for guys cause they cant help it and they walk away from so many awesome girls because of their penises.

Nothing like making assumptions about large groups of people based on your personal experiences, eh?

Contrary to the popular belief, many of us are just as interested (or more interested) in romance and companionship as we are about sex. The "all guys think with their dick" line of reasoning is not only offensive, it also lets the assholes who take advantage of women off the hook to some extent.

so im a 18y/o senior girl and heres what ive found: people at work like me a lot because i seem older/more mature than my age, but at school, nada. so i dated a guy from work who is 21 and i wouldnt have sex with him after like 3 weeks so he broke up with me.

at my age? guys may think youre awesome and want to date you but it all comes down to sex. i sometimes even feel bad for guys cause they cant help it and they walk away from so many awesome girls because of their penises. hopefully guys will just take us girls out on a DATE once and a while and try to woo us like the old days. its not that hard. THEN, once they deserve it, they can get it.

and you know those smart good girls can get down. ;-)

I like broken people, or on the flipside, being broken to someone. Intelligent, sure, confident and assertive? no. ...But I just realized this is a reeeally old thread revived from the long-musty grave... I didn't know you guys were necromancers.

Intelligence is a turn on to me. If you believe in evolution theories, or at least some of it like i do then intelligence is actually a turn on for men because we believe in our subconscience that if a female is intelligent than she can bare children and raise them better than an unintelligent woman. This sounds vrey barbaric but in some cases the evolution theory has a point. If you take a look at my profile picture that is one hell of a smart woman who i love.

well i don't think they all find it intimidating unless they are shallow or greedy. the guys who want to be all that and more. im the smartest one (girl or guy) in my grade. and im a grade ahead and the youngest. ive had many relationships and one very serious one (which i was incredibly stupid to end).

absolutely.

well at least most psedo, intellectual, neo philo-sofocrats are hott.

keep up the good work ladies. ruff. grruff.

unlike lots of guys i prefer to see intelligence and assertivness and open communication between me and ANY girl i am around. not only girlfriends but also just friends i love being around people that i can learn from

I know that girls in my school are the type that think if they play dumb the person will like them more because it makes them "easy". I think intelligence and assertiveness are great and if the person that you want to go out with doesn't then do not waste your time on him.

Stuie