rite now im really trying to stop cuttinulg, but alot of times i dont think i can. my whole life is stressful and i find this the only way to cope, i've told sum freinds but i still cant stop, i dunno y, im afraid i might do some serious harm to myself, but the fear doesn't stop me. if u guys have any advice, plz tell me

Okay so I talked to her about why I did what I did...and at the end I said that she can except my apolagee or not, and she said she would think about it. But I froze. i didn't say what I wanted to say and now that I think about it it sounds stupid...

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Originally posted by Srmikman:
You want to disappear because another person said sorry doesn't cut it? Just ignore the comment, life goes on. Not everyone is loved by everybody... everyone has their own rivals, though some may not be as big as others. This isn't her life you're in, but rather she is in your life. You'll be fine .

Now she wants to talk to me about why I did what i did. And I will. But how do I explain that she did the same thing to me...she just didn't know it. and that he asked MY girlfriend if she wanted to cheat!

You want to disappear because another person said sorry doesn't cut it? Just ignore the comment, life goes on. Not everyone is loved by everybody... everyone has their own rivals, though some may not be as big as others. This isn't her life you're in, but rather she is in your life. You'll be fine .

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Originally posted by Srmikman:

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Originally posted by Monkey400:
Okay so I have a problem and I know it kinda has nothing to do with cutting but I trust you guys to give me good advise.So I had this thing going with a guy and then he got a girlfriend so we stopped. But then like a week ago we kinda did some things and now his girlfriend found out and she kinda wants to kick my ass... What should I do? I mean it's not just my fault...It takes two to tango...HELP!!!

Just avoid her.If you see her, just walk away. The last thing you want is to get in a fight (and possibly lose) when you're depressed (but even if you weren't depressed, still best not to fight). I don't believe love is aquired by fists or ugly words.

I didn't avoid her. I walked up to her and told her what happened and I said I was so sorry and it was a big mistake. She said when you do something like that...sorry doesn't cut it...and now i just want to disapear.

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Originally posted by Monkey400:
Okay so I have a problem and I know it kinda has nothing to do with cutting but I trust you guys to give me good advise.So I had this thing going with a guy and then he got a girlfriend so we stopped. But then like a week ago we kinda did some things and now his girlfriend found out and she kinda wants to kick my ass... What should I do? I mean it's not just my fault...It takes two to tango...HELP!!!

Just avoid her.If you see her, just walk away. The last thing you want is to get in a fight (and possibly lose) when you're depressed (but even if you weren't depressed, still best not to fight). I don't believe love is aquired by fists or ugly words.

Okay so I have a problem and I know it kinda has nothing to do with cutting but I trust you guys to give me good advise.So I had this thing going with a guy and then he got a girlfriend so we stopped. But then like a week ago we kinda did some things and now his girlfriend found out and she kinda wants to kick my ass... What should I do? I mean it's not just my fault...It takes two to tango...HELP!!!

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Originally posted by Bushsupporter:
The only person who can help you stop is yourself, not some boy. You don't respect yourself enough to stop. Until you do, let's hope you don't seriously hurt yourself.

I have been trying to stop. My real problem is that I don't feel worth it to live...And though every one says I am I don't thinks so...

The only person who can help you stop is yourself, not some boy. You don't respect yourself enough to stop. Until you do, let's hope you don't seriously hurt yourself.

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Originally posted by Srmikman:
Why do you feel you must hurt yourself? Is the physical pain a distraction from the emotional pain? If so, I would suggest finding another way to get your mind off depressed thoughts. Perhaps you could play a fun video game, or find a job to concentrate on doing labor tasks. You could do charity work or find new hobbies. Doing a sport would probably help: You could become part of a team and make friends with the members as you get to know them better.

There are plenty of other options to take.

I have tried all those things, I am first chair in the fidalgo youth symphony, but other than that I have no time. I'm always on the run and I hate it. I guess cutting helps with the emotional pain...I've tried to stop but...It's hard and I've tried soooooooo many things. The one time I stopped I was dating this amazing guy and he helped me so much...I kind of ruined that though...and now that he's gone thing's have gone so wrong. I've even tried commiting suicid but it didn't work...sometimes I wish that I'll cut so deep that I'll just bleed to death...

Why do you feel you must hurt yourself? Is the physical pain a distraction from the emotional pain? If so, I would suggest finding another way to get your mind off depressed thoughts. Perhaps you could play a fun video game, or find a job to concentrate on doing labor tasks. You could do charity work or find new hobbies. Doing a sport would probably help: You could become part of a team and make friends with the members as you get to know them better.

There are plenty of other options to take.

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Originally posted by Srmikman:
I have never really felt the urge to cut myself, so unfortunately I can't relate to your situation. However, here's what I suggest:

1. Lock up whatever you use to cut yourself.
2. Develop an understanding that shedding blood doesn't make life easier.
3. Be tough. Recognize that your life is more important than any other life in the world, universe, because it's YOUR life.
4. Self-respect. Learn to love yourself, meaning both body and mind. Treat yourself with repspect, because you're going to be stuck with yourself for the rest of your life (haha, never thought I would type that).

Good luck with the situation.

I have tried locking all my stuff up. I just ended up wrecking everthing I had so I could hurt myself...

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Originally posted by Trisscar:
Sorry Monkey400 I wasn't trying to argue with you I was just trying to make a point that looking for help is important.

Looking for help is important. Finding it is hard.

I have never really felt the urge to cut myself, so unfortunately I can't relate to your situation. However, here's what I suggest:

1. Lock up whatever you use to cut yourself.
2. Develop an understanding that shedding blood doesn't make life easier.
3. Be tough. Recognize that your life is more important than any other life in the world, universe, because it's YOUR life.
4. Self-respect. Learn to love yourself, meaning both body and mind. Treat yourself with repspect, because you're going to be stuck with yourself for the rest of your life (haha, never thought I would type that).

Good luck with the situation.

Sorry Monkey400 I wasn't trying to argue with you I was just trying to make a point that looking for help is important.

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Originally posted by Trisscar:
If your dad is abusing you, maybe you shouldn't be living with your dad and maybe you should say something to the councillors at school.

A lot of times councilors can't help you because you don't tell them whats going on. If your councilor was aware that your dad was going to abuse you, they probably would have taken a different route with dealing with this issue.

Well I no longer live with my dad and the reason I didn't tell any one is because there was no physical evedence. So they couldn't have done anything. I have already been through the foster care program and here I am again. Sometimes you have to be carefull with what you do and say.

If your dad is abusing you, maybe you shouldn't be living with your dad and maybe you should say something to the councillors at school.

A lot of times councilors can't help you because you don't tell them whats going on. If your councilor was aware that your dad was going to abuse you, they probably would have taken a different route with dealing with this issue.

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Originally posted by Trisscar:
Monkey400...

I find that when people refuse to go seek help through their school or from the people around them its usually because they don't really want help. Sometimes even when you have a problem you don't want to accept it, and a way to keep denying that you have a problem is by making excuses on why you shouldn't go and get help. Yes, if you go and talk to a councillor at school they may tell your parents, but if you explain the situation, councillors will usually go out of the way to help you in your personal situation. It is a councillors job to help you, they've been trained on what to do in sensitive situations.

Talking to internet friends is a good way to receive emotional support, but its not going to help solve the internal reason of why you are hurting yourself.

Yes the school shrinks will help you but they have to tell your parents. They said that even though I don't want my parents to know thay had too. My dad thought I was trying to kill myself and then abused me more. sometimes things like that don't work.

[/QUOTE]Wolfie, the truth is there are parents out there like that. Its not always easy to overcome addictions, and sometimes its impossible on your own and when you have nobody around you who is willing to help, or understands whats actually going on it can make things worst.

I suggest that anybody struggling with cutting to go and get PROFESSIONAL help if they don't have the emotional support of friends and family. Many schools have resources for students who need it, it can be scary to go and seek help, but its one of the bravest things you can do.[/QUOTE]

Sometimes at school or something you can't always do because if you are hurting others than they have the right to tell your parents. My suggestion is ARIS (At Risk Interventional Servise.) They can help you and they are all over the USA. And a good thing to do is always have a friend with who will support you. If you can't find one everyone on YN is here to help.

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Originally posted by Wolfie:
if you have parents that will disown you simply because you cut yourself well than you have some sucky-ass parents.

Wolfie, the truth is there are parents out there like that. Its not always easy to overcome addictions, and sometimes its impossible on your own and when you have nobody around you who is willing to help, or understands whats actually going on it can make things worst.

I suggest that anybody struggling with cutting to go and get PROFESSIONAL help if they don't have the emotional support of friends and family. Many schools have resources for students who need it, it can be scary to go and seek help, but its one of the bravest things you can do.