hi

i think this is the right board but i want to just ask u guys something about self mutalation.i was a cutter for three years. then i got sent to therepy .Has any one been or is a cutter. i just feel alone cause the only person i ever knew to do it to was my boy friend and he moves away to Maine cause his parents couldnt take it. do u think that is fair? I dont. Well please post or email me with your answers. i would really appreaciate it

i can only tell you why i cut. i was in a very phsically abusive marriage when i started cutting. after years of abuse i starting hurting myself. it took away the pain of what he did to me. i would scratch deep lines in my face because he said i was ugly. little did i know it was because he didnt want anyone else to see my true beauty. i believed i was ugly. now at 37 i have pronounced scar's on my face. he would call me a slut. so i would carve slut on myself. it would make me feel alive. it would take his pain away. i would pinch myself all over my body to feel this wonderful pain. i would bruise myself and tell people i fell. i was too embarassed to tell them i did it to myself. now i have permenant smile marks by my lips. i would rip and tear at my ugly fat face. at least thats what he had me believe. now i know better. in short now my 14 year old daughter has the same problem. i cant tell her it started because of her dads abuse. help me help her.

trust me. your not the only one. I'm still battling with it. your not alone. I'm in a really cool group that helps alot. my dad is an alchoholic, and I'm clinically depressed. Read my article "Angel". I think it will help

HI I am 25 old female..mother, married and a nurse!!! I am from the US....I am am a cutter. It is a disease, and it includes all walks of life...some places just surpress it. All clutures have different ideas of what is and is not socialy "OK" to talk about. So don't think just because you do not hear about it that it does not happen, It might be right in in front of your face and you have no idea, I hid it so well for about 5 years that no one not even my own mother had any idea!!
Yes it may be groos to most people...even me!! But you have no idea untill it hits home so to speak. Thank god I have finally stopped after getting 50 plus stiches in my arms when I hit rock bottom. But the scars are there every day to remind me and really not a day goes by that I don't think about doing it again!!

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could someone please tell me why American kids cut themselves and Europeans don't?

Maybe the American culture we live in, is much more stressful than European cultures. Especially in High School.

Well, i can't give you that answer, sorry. All i know is that people here cut. And its not cool.

And maybe the cigarretes example wasn't a good one, i was going to use herione as an example, but i figure that was a bit too harsh. But I hope you understood my explaination that cutting is like an addiction, its not so easy to just stop doing.

oh, and by the way i'm from Canada, and i know a number of kids that struggle with the same thing as i do over here. It's weird that kids don't cut over there, i don't get it.

could someone please tell me why American kids cut themselves and Europeans don't? for that matter, australians don't seem to do it either, and their culture is also relatively similar to american culture.

I quit smoking cigarretes about 5 months ago, it wasn't difficult, i had smoked for 4 and a half years.

*sigh*

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omfg you comprehend(and thus accept) self mutilation?

I do beleive you have misunderstood where I was comming from. I do not in anyway find self mutilation or cutting right. I do admit that I have cut, and sometimes still do.

Let me explain so maybe you can understand. Cutting is like smoking cigarretes (okay maybe a bit of a drastic comparison, but i'm trying to prove a point) both are addictive, and unless you've been a smoker addicted, trying to quit, its impossible to undertand how hard it is for them, Same with cutting, unless you've been a cutter, addicted, its impossible for you to comprehend how hard it is.


now, you can be as unreasonalbe as you want. But the truth is, you haven't lived our lives so you can't judge us.

omfg you comprehend(and thus accept) self mutilation?

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The people who 'bitch' about it here most likely don't actually cut.

more in my favor then

its really funny how a few well placed words can make everyone mad at me almost instantly

Yeah. I have to agree.

Grow up and realize there is more to the world than your small, obviously uniformed point of view. Thankyou! you can come and judge us once you understand where we are comming from. Until then, don't comment on something you can't comprehend.

Yousofunnay speed.

OMG lyk dis 1 time mi mOm cam in wen i was CUTtin an i was lyk SHlT! so i stop an now im beter an stuff

Yeah. That ^ is called a fake.

Some people "mutilate" their body because they think it's acceptable, even looks good. Sometimes I do. There are many cultures that find it not acceptable to NOT mutilate the body.

The people who 'bitch' about it here most likely don't actually cut.

Stop being an asshole.

i fail to grasp how a few thousand miles of water make people want to /wrists.

i watch the same movies you do, i eat similar food, i listen to the same shitty comercial XXI century music we all listen to, i read a lot of the same books, i study and work the same ammount of hours. I have been seriously depressed(5 years seeing a psychologist says something on that issue), yet neither me, nor anyone i know that has gone through worse has had an urge to slice their wrist over the bathroom sink with a razor.

Instead of talking crap on here and asking other cutters about how they feel and feigning support for each other, tell your mother and father you want to see a therapist, and if possible, you do not wan't to take any sort of antidepressant, as it will cause a dependance wich will hurt you in the long run. Talking about this over the internet is just a way to avoid confronting it IRL. Stop avoiding your problems and confront them, it's the only way you'll ever get over them.

I still haven't gotten a reply on the cultural motives behind pseudo-suicidal habits.

I also know first hand that Trisscar speaks the truth. I couldn't have said it better myself.

Self injury is a coping mechanism, albeit one that is problematic in itself. I also must say that cutting for attention is despicable, some people do it because they really have problems, like YouthVoice and I, for us the pain that caused us to do it is real. If someone does it because they want attention... That's sickening to me, because it took so much more than merely wanting attention to make me do that, it took the death of my closest friend and true love to do that to me. The pain is unimaginable, and if you judge me and say I did it for attention I'd like to understand why, but I can't get my head that far up my ass. Believe me, the last thing I want, or wanted when I was harming myself, was attention.

Have you ever heard this quote speed? "Minds are like parachutes, they only function when open"

I've been through it myself and know first hand that what Trisscar is saying is true. Just wanted to come by and second that thought.

I think speed needs to go to his happy place...

jk

Alright, I'm not going to argue with you because i feeling you're intirely irrational and one of those people who have to be always right. I'm just going to make one statement: CUTTING IN SOME CASES IS DONE FOR ATTENTION, BUT OFTEN IT IS DONE BECAUSE OF SOME MAJOR EMOTIONAL PAIN THAT THE PERSON HAS BUILT UP INSIDE AND IS USED AS A COPING MECHANISM, IT IS KNOWN AS PHYSICAL HARM WITHOUT INTENT TO COMMIT SUICIDE AND IS A SERIOUS ISSUE.

okay, i refuse to argue this point with you.

you need attention. the only reason someone could possibly cut their wrists WITHOUT actually trying to kill him or herself is because he/she needs attention.

Why is the US so fvcked up? i mean cmon, i live in europe, i've had friends in psychiatric hospitals, known tons of depressives, been depressed myself many times, yet i have never seen or heard of anyone here having an impending need to /wrists and then bitch about it on an internet forum. wtf is wrong with american society and culture omfg...

Well, the truth is... are you ready for it... I'm a girl... but i often get mistaken for a guy on the net... *sigh* i'm not complaining most girls are stuck up bitches that think they're better than everybody else. I don't want to be like that.. EVER.

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then read about the issue with not being able to change the gender in the profile...

I thought she was a guy for a while but people kept refering to 'him' as a her. So I was confused and went back to her profile and ended up figuring it out.

This Trisscar person fascinates me... Especially her profile, because I read about the boyfriend as a hero, then read about the issue with not being able to change the gender in the profile...