Yeah ok heres the deal:

I started cutting for about 5 months because yeah all the normal stress, hate etc but then I couldn't stop because I just liked looking at my blood and I liked the way it shone against my skin. And the feeling of pain and stuff but now I've stopped thank god, A message to all you current cutters:

STOP IT! Honestly!! I know its really hard but its totaly worth it. Talk to someone who you trust but don't talk to a lot of people because then they'll be like spreading the word and other people at your school and stuff will be *scared* to talk to you and that'll make it worse. Stop asap, rub vitamin E on your scars so that they fade and get over it. Fix it, then END.

Wierd. If i were cutting and I wanted to stop all this therapy and psychatric help would have scared the **** out of me . It does scare the **** out of me.

I cut for a year before my parents found out and sent me off to therapy.
Oddly enough, I never cut out of depression/anger or anything like that. It was mostly because the blood was pretty. =/
Ah, well.

I don't think it's a good idea to cut. I'm in the process right now of trying to stop. It's really hard, and not fun.

I would say that both you and your friend could maybe send each other like a package or something that has your favorite candy, a note, a movie, or something that reminds each other of your relationship. That could maybe help you deal with his moving away. Sorry to hear that he's moving.

~kirstee

don't think that your the only one in this world that hurts themself. a lot of people do it and its awesome that you got help. you should deff stop. i know its hard but you'll get through it. sometimes it helps when you have someone tot alk to. like a really good friend. OR a theripst.

btw. where did your boyfriend move to? i live in maine.

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Originally posted by carpetrug01:
cutting is for s l u t s and w h o r e s

I'm starting to notice a pattern with your posting. When you have nothing to say you say something offensive. Nice.

I was a cutting for a long time, probably about five years.

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cutting is for s l u t s and w h o r e s

That's not the first time someone has called me a ****. Then again, considering you're not a cutter, how do you know? I don't think you have any right to call anyone a **** or a whore just because they're a cutter. Grow up.

cutting is for s l u t s and w h o r e s

What I suggested is what I wanted my parents to do with me. But they didn't, they sent me to a psychiatric hospital. Oh well. I think you will make the right decision.

I am and have been a cutter, so let me put in my two cents.

Calmly approach him and try to initiate conversation. Something like how his day was, how things are going, significant girls (or guys, I don't know) in his life, things like that. If he first opens up about something troubling him, you are in good. If not, just mention, again calmly, that you noticed the cuts on his arms, and if there was anything he wants to talk to you about. Just open up the possibility of conversation, and let him know you are there if he wants to talk. Don't pressure him to say anything immediately, because he might clam up, just let him know you are available to talk if he wants to.

And above all else, don't mention that you are worried, that will probably put pressure on him. And for the love of God, don't mention therapy or a counselor. Try that, let me know what happens, and I will see if I can help anymore.

I would love for someone to help me out, please. I noticed cuts on my sons arm today and I dont know what to say. I had a difficult time growing up and I dont want to make the same mistakes my parents did. I know this is a youth noise,which is exactly why I came here. I need your help. Please I dont want to offend him in anyway. I need your voices. Tell me how to help my son without running him off. He is 17.

pleasehelp me. I think my son is self-mutalating. I just saw a lot of cuts on his arm. I don't mean a few, more like 20 or so. Please tell me how to approach this, I don't want to turn him away. I need some help. I also am not upset by things as other parents. I am very open and understanding to him. He is 17. I also went through a hard time growing up and we live with my parents right now. I know this is long and boring, but I don't want to make the mistakes my parents did. Please someone tell me how to help without offense.
hi

i think this is the right board but i want to just ask u guys something about self mutalation.i was a cutter for three years. then i got sent to therepy .Has any one been or is a cutter. i just feel alone cause the only person i ever knew to do it to was my boy friend and he moves away to Maine cause his parents couldnt take it. do u think that is fair? I dont. Well please post or email me with your answers. i would really appreaciate it[/QUOTE]

I am just very anti-self mutilation.

Correction to myself. Green was not thinking clearly and typed in "And OCD." That is incorrect. Biting fingernails is attributed to OCD.

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"Taking everything more personally than you should" is being weak.

It may not be easy to find a better way but it has got to be better than harming yourself and having to hide it. How can that be easy???

Worth, its not. That would be like saying because I was an over-sensitive-hypermoral-OC nutcase, that I was weak. I wasn't weak. Many people who self-mutilate, are probably going through an experience that they don't understand. Something that sparked it all and now they have ceased to stop the urges to cut. I'm sure its very complicated.

Did you know nail-biting is a form of self-mutilation? And obsessive compulsive disorder? Who would've thought.

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Originally posted by forevertears14:
Everyone is different! Not everyone is going to handle stuff lightly.. i know that even getting asked to clean my room (includng vacuming, organizing.. ect) gets me worked up.. some cutters im sure can handle stuff longer but when it finally gets to be to much they cut.. im not the kind of person who cuts everyday.. i did for awhile.. i only cut whn im really stressed..

If being asked to clean your room "gets you worked up" then I suggest you get some help.

I know that people handle things differently. But one of those methods should not include harming yourself.

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I dont think its about being weak . They just take everything more pesonally than you should .
Finding a better way to handle is not easy . Officially speaking even yelling and sulking arent good ways to handle stuff .

"Taking everything more personally than you should" is being weak.

It may not be easy to find a better way but it has got to be better than harming yourself and having to hide it. How can that be easy???

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former is weak and can't accept things easily or find a better way to handle them.

I dont think its about being weak . They just take everything more pesonally than you should .
Finding a better way to handle is not easy . Officially speaking even yelling and sulking arent good ways to handle stuff .

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Originally posted by WorthWaitingFor:
I didn't say that you weren't the same as other people...the only difference I can see between cutters and people who don't cut is the fact that the former is weak and can't accept things easily or find a better way to handle them.

Everyone is different! Not everyone is going to handle stuff lightly.. i know that even getting asked to clean my room (includng vacuming, organizing.. ect) gets me worked up.. some cutters im sure can handle stuff longer but when it finally gets to be to much they cut.. im not the kind of person who cuts everyday.. i did for awhile.. i only cut whn im really stressed..

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cutting isnt stupid to everyone and ppl who critisize cutters should maybe get to knnow a few.. we are the same as other ppl but we hid our pain and dont want to talk bout it.. JUST GIVE US A CHANCE.. please

I didn't say that you weren't the same as other people...the only difference I can see between cutters and people who don't cut is the fact that the former is weak and can't accept things easily or find a better way to handle them.

I cut because i am really stressed.. i was adopted when i was 8 days old and my parents are constantly asking mr if i wanna know anything about ym parents.. im sick of it.. then they are always pushing me to do better when im doing the best i can.. i started cutting more and more since last week because i know that it was the last time i ever got to see my best friend and i took it really really REALLY hard.. i even rean away cause my parents were trying to do anything to make me feel better but they would just make it worse.. cutting isnt stupid to everyone and ppl who critisize cutters should maybe get to knnow a few.. we are the same as other ppl but we hid our pain and dont want to talk bout it.. JUST GIVE US A CHANCE.. please