Okay, so I don't quite understand what it is (in a relationship), what the rules for it are and so on. Does anyone want to help me out with a definition?

Someone playing "Hard to Get", can be fun, but it gets boring real fast. It's a tricky skill to get down in my opinion, purely because of how you have to play with the biological clock of attraction, in which you don't know what the time limit is, nor have a rough idea as to how it ticks..

Almost like playing Perfection, blindfolded.

Although, in this scenario, your mate telling you to "Play Hard to Get", can almost be considered offensive, if he said it in a tone that connotates "Keep your legs shut". In which case, castrate him... Then again, it's an unlikely scenario....

I'm going to be quiet now.

If someone played hard to get with me, I'd get disinterested fairly quickly. But if it's a request...well, that's just weird. My professional opinion is...that he wants you to be less easy to get. Or something.

But yes, burnouts are bad. That's sort of what ruined my first relationship. That and a lack of time for each other.

Common sense is so underrated...

Well freedom, I think having a relationshiop getting heated very quickly isn't necessarily a bad thing. This just means you two are really into each other. But you do have to be careful. I've been in relationships where things went a little too fast. I think maybe this is what he is referring to? Since it has only been a month, there is still a lot you both don't know about each other. Its better not to rush into certain things. Just make sure to hang out more and do things that are more simple instead of falling into a complicated mind game of what each other wants. Thats why I am always a firm believer in being friends before jumping into a relationship. But overall, I definetly think talking about it with him is a very good idea, so you can understand exactly what he is asking from you.
I hope things work out!

Well, we have been dating for a month at this point, and things got heated very quickly, mostly due to myself. We had a serious conversation about how it might "burnout" if we don't slow down, etc. So he said to take it easy, and that it wouldn't hurt me any to play hard-to-get. But because I don't really know what he means by it (because in my opinion, I'm doing what you've described), I suppose the best thing to do is talk it out. Especially since you are right: this is getting frustrating.

Holliewood said it all.

i dont really get why he wants you to play? its kind of weird. l0l

hmmm...you mean he is asking you to play hard to get? That's interesting. It sounds like both of you already know that you are attracted to each other so I don't see the point of "playing hard to get" if you two already "got" each other lol.

But, maybe he just wants you to be a little difficult if you know what I mean. Like for instance, a lot of people I've known like to act more aloof to what the other person wants. Like, if your boyfriend asks you if you like him, you joke around or tease and say something stupid like "yeah, but only a little..", but in a joking way. Lol, I don't know if that makes even the least bit of sense. Its like not always giving him what he wants, but making him work for it. Oh God, this is so much harder to explain than I thought. Anyway, I hope you can understand what I'm saying, otherwise I'm sorry

But on another note, I think you should just be yourself and if he doesn't appreciate that, then tough luck for him. Playing games can just get frustrating after a while. All that matters is that you both like each other and if you have a connection then great, if not, don't try to figure out how to act differently to make it "work". But also make sure to be an individual and not concern yourself so much with what that person wants from you. A relationship takes an acceptance of who a person is from both sides.

Either I'm having a really hard time playing hard to get, or I don't completely understand what he means by wanting me to play it with him... It isn't really working yet... All I've been doing differently is allowing him to take the reins and not making any moves, but I guess that's not playing hard to get.

Simply put~ its not giving in too easily or not letting a person know how much you like them. Its kind of like giving them the cold shoulder so that they have to give out a little bit of a chase. Pretty childish when you think about it, but it works

i would if i knew...