OK, I'm gay and I'm not very proud at the moment and I know i'm going to have to live with it. I have different visions all the time about my future as a gay man. Like yesterday I had a vision about my prom. Instead of a girl in a gown and a guy in a tux, it was 2 guys in in tuxes. Abd then when we got to the slow dance, I put my head on his shoulder. I didn't even know this guy. It was just a vision. I told my friend who I trust with all my problems about my sexuality. She was all like, well duh, I sure hope your date doesn't wear a gown. And the when I told her about the last part she goes: Confession: guy-on-guy is pretty hot. (Not that you really needed to know this. But also, the last part of my post is the stupidest. I have a crush on a straight guy in my middle school. Can someone help me with all this stuff.

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Originally posted by cesman_13:
OK, I'm gay and I'm not very proud at the moment and I know i'm going to have to live with it. I have different visions all the time about my future as a gay man. Like yesterday I had a vision about my prom. Instead of a girl in a gown and a guy in a tux, it was 2 guys in in tuxes. Abd then when we got to the slow dance, I put my head on his shoulder. I didn't even know this guy. It was just a vision. I told my friend who I trust with all my problems about my sexuality. She was all like, well duh, I sure hope your date doesn't wear a gown. And the when I told her about the last part she goes: Confession: guy-on-guy is pretty hot. (Not that you really needed to know this. But also, the last part of my post is the stupidest. I have a crush on a straight guy in my middle school. Can someone help me with all this stuff.

Well people just have to see you like who you are that can't say aything just because your gay maybe they don't even know who you are how can they not like you . you have to stop thnking how other people think of you and just don't worry about anything just live life fun and happy quit worry how other people think of you

I'm sorry that I didn't word myself better. I should have made myself more clear.
But thanks yogore for helping me clear that up

Thanks guys. And sorry, Ohio. I wasn't sure what you meant. My bad.

<< I work with a lot of gay guys, and a lot of strait women, and i've never once heard any of them think that its hot.>>

Just because you've never heard them express it, doesn't mean they don't believe. I'm a guy, I think guy-guy action is hot. Now you've heard a gay guy say it, and I know there are women out there that agree with me.

And 13 is a perfectly reasonable age to realize your sexual orientation. I started to struggle with it at that age. (Stuggle because I didn't want to be at the time, but now I'm perfectly fine with the way I am.) You can't help the way you feel, regardless of what a portion of society may try to say.

Don't worry, I have a good friend who came out when he was your age, and he is one of the happiest kids i know. He's now 15 and he has had boyfriends as well as crushes. He also has good friends (male as well as female) who support him. Don't beat yourself up. You are entitled to your feelings and daydreams just like the rest of us are. Good luck, and noisemail me if you need to talk.

Ohio wasn't saying you chose to be gay. She was saying the opposite.

Thank you guys for all of your help. I should have worded it better because, yes, they were daydreams. But Ohiosweetgirl? Who in their right mind WANTS to be gay?!

Your story sounds like what suddenly happened to me at age 13. I felt pretty damn unlucky...and realizing some things would be different than I always pictured was just weird. However, look on the bright side. You seem to already be confident in your belief that you are gay, you've already told someone about it, and gotten a positive reaction, and you're only 13. Those things don't happen until a lot later for some.

You will get crushes on straight guys. It's inevitable, not stupid. But don't jump to conclusions about yourself or others so quickly, sexuality is not always set in stone or readable on the surface especially at your age. When you feel confused or, just, down, try reading. Library, internet, the resources on homosexuality are there. They were helpful to me.

I don't think someone can just be like " I wanna be gay so I am" He has to know what he likes and what he is attracted to. He may be young but that doesn't mean that he doesn't know. You knew that you were striaght when you were 13 didn't you? I knew I was. Why wouldn't he know? Let him be who he is and do what he feels is right for him.

Just be yourself, take it one day at a time.

what are you talking about feeling better?

ummmm, ok, feel better?

Quit telling him he mdoesn't know. You knew you were straight, he knows he's gay. And even if he's not, what does it matter? Plenty of people know they are straight at 13, why because he says he gay does it become "you're too young to know"?

Alot of gay people know they are gay from a young age.

And alot of girls thing two guiys together is hot. Not all but some. So don't tell him that she's not typical. It hink it's the same reason striaght guys like lesbians.

And I think by visions he meant daydreams.

like Nikki said, i dont wanna sound unsympathetic but i dont think the "Confession: guy-on-guy is pretty hot." is a typical reaction for women. I work with a lot of gay guys, and a lot of strait women, and i've never once heard any of them think that its hot.

You also say your having "visions". More than likely these are day dreams and represent for what you want things to be like. Like a lot of people have said already you are pretty young to be worrying about stuff like this.

I'm gonna take the thought a step further and say you might even be a bit young to "pick" a sexual orientation. A lot of gay guys i know say they experimented around before they knew for sure they were gay, some didnt know for sure untill they were near 18 and 20.

Having a crush on a strait guy is like me having a crush on Jennifer Anniston -- nothing will ever come of it. its very unlikely that you will "convert" him, best to just try and get over that one

I hate to sound unsympathetic, because I truly am. I have plenty of gay and lesbian friends, and honestly, I never see them as 'the gay friend.' To me, they're just another person. But anyway...

When I was 13, I thought I might be gay. However, as I got older, I realized I wasn't. If you're young, it's more than possible you're just experiencing an identity crisis. However, most gay people admit that they thought they might be gay early on.

Whatever the case, you have no reason to worry. Attitudes towards gays are really changing in the world. There will always be the people that 'knowitall' that will try and make you feel bad for being different. But are people like that really worth your thoughts or feelings? (no)

And as for your crush...they can be rough, but they're a fun part of school. Good luck!!

You shouldn't feel ashamed or embarassed about who you are. Do what you enjoy and be happy with that reagardless of what others may say. Crushes often happen no matter what sexuality you are, your gonna crush on someone. We often learn things from crushes. You are still young, you have plenty of time just to look around

Crushes on straight guys happen, alot. It'd be that or no crushes, and not having crushes is impossible You just have to let the crush run its course. And at 13, don't worry about dating people. There's plenty of time and it's hard to find another gay 13 year old in your area. Just don't stress out about these things.
Let be what be.