I have always been a curvy, health, sturdily built girl until recently. I decided that I was over weight and needed to loose 10-15 pounds. I ended up loosing 30.I went from 141 to 110 in the span of about 8 months. And i didn't even think i was skinny. Do not try to lose weight unless you are very overweight and others agree that you should. 'm 5'7 and i weight 110 pounds. Anerexia can happen to you, listen to your friends and family, love the body that you have.

i would like to point out that eating disorder, though experienced as being very much about the body and food, in reality have nothing to do with appearance. society is more a factor in the POPULARITY of eating disorders. if you want thinspiration, you could just look at the people around you. but regardless, an eating disorder has nothing to do with physical ostensibles. people who starve, overeat, binge/purge, cut, abuse substances, sleep around, smoke, drink, etc. are all struggling. those are all different possible manifestations for the same problem. but our society places so much value on the thin female body that more of us are tempted to choose that manifestation. don't let ana/mia blind you to the truth.

an excerpt from marya hornbacher's "wasted"...

"An eating disorder is not usually a phase, and it is not necessarily indicative of madness. It is quite maddening, granted, not only for the loved ones of the eating disordered person but also for the person herself. It is, at the most basic level, a bundle of deadly contradictions: a desire for power that strips you of all power. A gesture of strength that divests you of all strength. A wish to prove that you need nothing, that you have no human hungers, which turns on itself and becomes a searing need for hunger itself. It is an attempt to find an identity, but ultimately it strips you of any sense of yourself, save the sorry identity of 'sick.' It is a grotesque mockery of cultural standards of beauty that winds up mocking no one more than you. It is a protest against cultural stereotypes of women that in the end makes you seem the weakest, the most needy and neurotic of all women. It is the thing you believe is keeping you safe, alive, contained – and in the end, of course, you find it's doing quite the opposite. These contradictions begin to split a person in two. Body and mind fall apart from each other, and it is in this fissure that an eating disorder may flourish, in the silence that surrounds this confusion that an eating disorder may fester and thrive."

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Its great that you got out of the anerexia, I'm still dealing with mine, don't insult those of us who are struggling be starving yourself to spite others.

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Just because she sometimes refuses to eat out of spite doesn't mean she herself is not struggling. Sometimes spite is just an excuse people use to cover up the fact that they're still having difficulties. She is most certainly not trying to insult you, I think.

Frodo, not eating is not the way to solve your problems. I'm really sorry about your mom, but you aren't punishing her, you are punishing yourself. Yeah, in the moment she might suffer a little, but in the long run you are only hurting yourself. Its great that you got out of the anerexia, I'm still dealing with mine, don't insult those of us who are struggling be starving yourself to spite others.

Burn the magazines!

I was Anerexic in eighth grade seriously. But now I'm going back to not eating some meals. I am just going through such a hard time with life right now and parents yelling at me, mom hitting me, and just everything isn't going the way I want it. I just makes me feel good sometimes and I love seeing my mom suffer because I wont eat. I can't stand her at all...I dont know whats wrong with that picture but she trys to hard then stabs me in the back. Email me if can help me...

The root of most distorted body images is all the magazines, movies, models, and all those sort of things. There's a standard that's been set on the difference between beautiful and ugly. Not only girls, but guys too, see all these "beautiful" people, and then they take a look in the mirror. The body image they have of themselves is completely shaped and molded around wanting to be just as beautiful as the model in the magazine. It's sad how serious a condition like anorexia or bulimia can get. All anyone needs to do to prevent it is just remember that half of the people in the magazine wouldn't really look nearly as pretty if they didn't have makeup artists and people fixing them up to look perfect.

I agree. One must love their body, unless you are in a condition that is unhealthy; whether it be overweight or underweight (i don't know if that word even exists).