I have 1 question for all you guys out there, why do you constently judge on appereance? I am 210 pounds and look it and thats all guys seem to see. I have worn all diffrent things to make myself look skinnier and have presented myself as easy. But nothing seems to work. All guys seem to see when they look at me is fat fat and more fat. Can't guys just think with there heads and make right decisions other then using and thinking with there penis?

I know how that feels, well some of it. I tried to fake my good moods, too, or at least kill my depression with neutrality. I've had people tell me to snap out of it, and other things, too. But not everyone is like that. Honestly, not everyone. People as a whole are dumb, bigoted, unintelligent, arrogant assholes, but as individuals, there are those out there who can see past that to the real you.

And hey, don't lay this on me. You posted. You kept up the conversation. you could have left, any time. Guilt trips just blow over my head. That's my black heart talking.

I'd also like to add, that that just doesn't work when you're not pretty, overweight (although, people tell me I'm not. I think they're liars), or withdrawn socially. I can't respect people if they're telling me to get over it. Or stop being such a cry baby. Quit being so depressed. Nobody likes that. No one want to be around a sourpuss. Hahahah. That's very encouraging. I wish I could be honest and describe to people how I feel and why. But I guess I'll just continue to keep my mouth shut like a good little girl and hope someone different and understanding falls from the sky and into my lap. It's human nature to be rude to or ignorant of the plain, unattractive folk. As much as I hate that, I'm not going to go get plastic surgery to change my ugly mug. And I'm not going to put on a fake happy face. It's bad enough that people continue to think that I'm faking my depression. I don't want them to find out I've been faking my "good moods" too. I'm not fake. I just want to be me, and I don't want to change so some asshole can get into my pants and drop me like a hot potato the second a thinner, prettier peice of ass comes along. Fuck it.

Like I said, men are sick and disgusting. I wouldn't care if they all died suddenly. So, not a single one of them deserves my respect.

I was in an ok mood today, now I feel all shitty. Thanks for bringing up shit that made me think about shit I didn't want to think about. Thank you so fucking much.

Why.

Tried that. It's bullshit.

Maybe people would respect you more if you showed them you could do the same. You can't expect the world to love you if you show it nothing but hate.

So I'm a shithead. Sue me. I'm only like this because people have made it pretty clear that I'm not worth their time, so I see no reason to be nice to them.

I don't judge people. I'm simply questioning your words versus your actions.

Judge me as you wish. I don't care.

And what about how you present yourself to us EG?

I AGREE SPARKLES AND AT THE SAMAE TIME IN THIS HARSH WORLD WE HAVE SUICIDALS AND ANTAREXIC AND BELEMIA AND ALL THIS MALFUNCTIONS BECAUSE OF PEOPLE JUDGING OTHER PEOPLE INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT THEMSELVES. IF YOU MAKE FUN OF SOMEONE AND YOU'RE A BITCH OR WHATEVER THEN THAT JUST PROVES MY THEORY. THIS IS MY QUOTE: " PEOPLE JUDGE BECAUSE THEY DON'T DARE LOOK IN THE MIRROR TO SE WHAT'S WRONG WITH THEM" JUDGING SOMEONE PUTS DOWN THEIR SELF ESTEEM AND CAUSES ALL KINDS OF HEALTH ISSUES. ALL I AM SAYING IS THAT" JUDGE AND YOU WILL BE JUDGED

ya just don't be judging yourself, I mean i have had guys tell me i am hot,cute,ugly all the names in the book you can't let the stuff get to you everyone has their own opinion about everything, i mean i judge to i an't going to lie about it, but i am sure that you have to on some cases, i mean it's the world it harsh,unfair and mean but it isn't going to change, but you can't be makin yourself look like a skank girl it's not worth it, guys an't worth i mean i have a boyfriend i really care about and he treats me right and you have to except yourself to get something like that because most likely if you act easy the boys are just looking forward to one thing and i'm sure that you don't want that, so except yourseld or lose weight or something just don't make yourself skanky!

Gee, thanks for the sensitivity.....

Every guy is looking for a girl that is self confident and is not insecure. If you are insecure about yourself then you will always feel like shit and no man wants that. If a guy feels good about himself then he wants his girl to. I am not a guy but I would feel that way if I was a guy never feel insecure

This thread is nearly three years old. It is safe to assume that she is drowning her sorrows in a vat of chocolate syrup at this very moment. Leave her be.

I think that guys sometimes wants a girl that likes the way she looks so if you think that it is just the guys try to get a postive attitude about yourself and lose weight and you would feel better about yourself instead of just blaming the guys some guys are not that way.If you keep being easy than some guys thinks that it is just easy access then that is all guys want from you take that from someone who knows.

Most likely a lot of it is your own perception of yourself, rather than what other people think of you (unless you can see inside guys' heads, you don't know. They could think you're a sexy fox), also opinion of you will vary from guy to guy, also you are trying too hard.

Stop. Worrying. About. What. Guys. Think. Of. You.

Bex

Maybe because you're a fat ho who is so shallow and man-wanting she tries to look skinny and easy instead of trying to lose weight and get a good personality.

hey. like someone said a while ago, being skinny can be rough too. I don't think there is a right size to be. Even celebrities say they have insecurities about their weight. There might be a guy out there who knows exactly how you feel, or maybe just a guy who likes you for you. Don't give up hope. i'm having insecurities and low self-esteem right now about my face. I think I have a very ugly face. I'm kinda depressed. my mom says the way you view yourself is the way others will see you, but i just don't believe that. you can't blame parents for trying, though.

Everyone judges, don't say just guys. You probably go on looks too. It's the way it works! It's harsh, it's mean, it's unfair... but... it's true! Don't come off as easy, you shouldn't have to do that. Just be yourself. I mean, I'm fat, I'm ulgy (I mean... ugly!), but I have a personality that's got me boyfriends. (Not always good boyfriends... but I found a guy that's worth keepin'.)
-Sunset