I don't know. I think that we are greatly influenced by the media, but I don't think that people (guys) go around and say 'i'm going to force my girl into having sex with me because I saw this t.v. show...'. No, I think it is the guys and girls decision to have sex. The girl may be pressured into having sex with her boyfriend, but I don't think it's as bad as people play it up to be. I think that the girl gives in (and sorry for all the girls out there, I'm one to, don't get offended) sometimes consciously other times not.

i think media does have an infliuence on teens having sex, but i don't think its completely responsible for it. ya, media can give the message that if you gotta have sex to be cool, but that mesasge is reinforced/strenghtened by the people around us. people get the idea that you gotta have sex to be cool from the media and then believe that that its right and then they go around and make people feel uncool and sometimes pressure them into sex.

(and FYI, i'm a 15 year old virgin)

for starters i'm 15 and a virgin, so congrats you just met one, and i've never really felt pressured or anything like that by the media, my bf knows that i need to feel ready when we do it, and hes perfectly fine with that.

I never felt pressured by the media, I was ready and I knew all the facts. I was as safe as I could be and I knew I was ready. But I can see why the media does pressure teens. porn and all the stuff they show is horrible for teens.
Thanks, Melissa

I agree that the media does influence sex drive, but it would exhist without the media. It doesn't matter if you've never seen tv, you still will eventually want sex. It happens naturally.

Celtic, you summed it all up, but forgot:

Pornography

That's a factor.

i am 14 years old and i have friends who have done alot of sexual things, even who have had sex.It is COMPLETLY ridiculous for kids our age to be having sexi know i might sound like a mom when i say that, but its true. I am christian and VERY proud to say it. It says in the bible colossians 4:18- "Put to death, therefore whatever belongs to you earthly nature:sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires, and greed, which is idoatry. Becuase of these, the wrath of god is coming." I would think that people would want to save themselves for their soulmates. Why would u wanna waste your virginity on a guy thats not even worth it? its senseless. I guess people will just have to learn the hard way. By the way, i dont think the media has anyway of pressureing teens to have sex. Teens make their own decisions. Not by the media, or anything else. They make the decison themselves. its like saying " im going to have sex cause in this song it says its fun." thats totaly dumb! or its like saying " im going to have sex cause i want to." which one makes more sense to you?

You shouldn*t force it! Let it just happen, it should be special. Well, I think we should wait till after marriage.

Based on my religion cuz I'm a Christian I'm celibate because sexual immorality is wrong. (No offense to those who aren't virgins.) But the media causes teens to have sex. A healthy relationship could just be talking, spending time, holding hands, kissing, and hugging. No one should be pressured to have sex. I have a boyfriend and he has never pressured me to have sex. There has been times we he as played with me and said " When u gon to give me some", but we laugh it off because he knows that I'm not ready. We've been happy with each other for almost a yar. But the media changes things like that. It shows sexually explicit movies and shows which makes teens want to have sex because they believe that everyone does it. But it's not true. Not everyone has sex. Sex is a big issue especially with my race. I'm Black. No disrespect but it's like almost everyone I know has had sex. ALMOST!! And AIDS, and other STDs are affecting Black women alot these days and it's scary! It's also affecting men. And until the media decides to tone down along with music lyrics these days, none of this will never change.

To make my statement i know people who are 15 and are virgins i also know people who have sex because they believe everyone is doing it but i also have friends who do it because they feel their boyfriend/girlfriend wil dum them if they dont. but it hink that you should have sex when your ready and if a person is going to dump you then let them , because if that's what they want for you to stay with them their not worthit.

I believe that it's all about influences. The media influence some people but not all to be like so and so if you want to get ahead, or wear this or wear that, if you want boys to talk to you, and you know it's sort of crazy because now that I look at it ALOT of people are trying to be someone else instead of themselves. About the whold bf/ gf sex thing: The reason I say it's about influences because your bf may be influenced to have sex, so he wants you to feel the same way he does, so he influences you to have sex, and so maybe you think that sex is alright. ( And I'm not saying it's wrong) In reality: It's not up to the MEDIA, nor your BOYFRIEND, nor your GIRLFRIEND to decide for you if you want to have sex or not. It's up to YOU.

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i am fourteen.i have screwed a girl every week for the past year.the main reason i do it is not at all because of the media.in fact,they just encourage me.i do it because it feels good.it makes me closer to my gf's.i think this whole chat it screwed up.the media doesnt make you do anything,and my friends actually tell me it isnt that great.it is my personal decision.i love sex!

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Ok thats just sick. Having sex just for the hell of it is digusting. If you have sex for the love, then its not much of a big deal. I'm sorry man, but thats just plain disgusting.

I dont think the media is the one really forcing teens to have sex because if u have a mind of your own , nothing and n o one can force u to do something u dont want to do. the bible also said present your body as a living sacrifice holy and acceptable unto God. which means have dignity for your self and set a high standard. where people havea to come up to your level u dont have to stoop down to there level.love u all just keeping it real.

It could be about media .....it ofcourse is one of the ways in which we're influenced ...but i fail to understand what is this row about? More than the media it is societies and religion that tells us that sex is bad. and we've ended up being so concious that we're looking for ppl to blame when we just do what our instincts say.

If the media really influences you to have sex, then you obviously aren't mature enough to make your own decisions, so maybe you shouldn't be watching TV in the first place.

I absolutely agree with CelticNewAger.. I mean, if the media wont push teens into having sex then teens have the thinking to do for themselves whether what they are doing is right or wrong. I know that human's basic instinct is for sex but that doesnt mean that you do not value your virginity. I think that the media is the cause for this. If only they would not promote sex stuff, people would have at least the mind to think that sex is not a priority but that good personality, loyalty, honesty and kindness to anyone can bring success and a good life to each of us..

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and a lot of people feel preassure to have sex, just because "everyone else is doing it" (as said by my best friend).[

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thats so true - BUT u cant blame the media. im a huge britney fan n i dont feel i have to sleep around just cos 'everybody else is doing it'. thinking that way goes way deeper than a problem to do with the media. its about how strong ur ideas are - n i dont mean ur religious ones, but those who tell what feels right for u. its an issue about self respect. cos i dont think having sex before marriage or at a young age is wrong at all, but doing it just cos others are doing it is not respecting yourself. unless of course you just need to put that excuse cos u're not comfortable enough saying that's what u want - what would b not being true 2 urself anyway

No I dont feel guilty for having sex. You know why? Because I did it once with my bf and I dont go around sleeping with everyone.

Yes, the media implies sex. It doesnt? so Maddona and Britney making out isnt supposed to affect us? Sexy videos and women getting breast implants doesnt make you think? And when you watch dating shows and the **** wins, does that affect you at all? If people laugh at you because you're a virgin, not even a 1% of your mind thinks about sex? If your friends do it and are preassureing you, you do absolutely nothing? You never want to "catch up"? Oh please, if you said no to ALL of these questions then I truly admire your sainthood.

All this bull**** about media forcing teens to have sex is just a way for sexually active teens who feel guilty about their sexual escapades to be able to blame someone else for what they've done.

And all this bull**** about abortion being wrong, is mostly coming, not necessarily on this site, but in general, from Republicans who support the death penalty and walk on the homeless and impoverished to feel a little better about themselves at the end of the day, because while they are trying to save fetuses and embryos, they're killing grown people.

You see a lot of shows that...basically ENCOURAGE sex and it mostly reaches the "young" people. All of the couples out there...get to talking about sex in a matter of time. Also...friends encourage people to force sex on their BF/GF's. An example is ... say one of your friends had sex and they tell you about it and stuff...and all of the sudden they say something like "you know...you and your BF/GF should do it. it's really nice" etc. Then you get to thinking and you try to force sex on the other person. Sometimes that can lead to break-ups and losting each others trust. so stay away from that because it can ruin a person's relationship.