I've thought abou sex many times with my x but i was afraid of it he's 2 years older and only wants to have sex because and i quote"HIS friends did it" but i really liked him and i thought If he loves me we will you know but i thought I would do anything for him and then the next day we broke up its not the media that makes us want to have sex although they help.Just remember gurls don't let the guys tell you if you love me,things like that its YOUR decision there is a posibility of getting pregnat and getting a kid and (most likely) they will take off after that.Don't let the guys convince you to although not all guys are like that just watch out for the guys that ask you to.Just be careful if you do use protection remember its Your decision.

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Just don't take it out on the fetus.

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Don't like abortion? Think it's wrong? DON'T ****ING GET ONE!

"If you feel ready for sex and know the risks then go ahead."

Just don't take it out on your fetus.

"If you feel ready for sex and know the risks then go ahead."

Just don't take it out on the fetus.

The media doesn't 'force' sex on people. People force sex on themselves, if someone thinks it's cool to have sex because of the media, that isn't the media's fault. That is the person's fault for being stupid.

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no what i mean is. like maybe out of 4 bfs you've had one wanted sex.

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No, you've had one bf that told you they wanted sex, and 3 that lied to you.

The media doesn't force sex on us. In fact, the media's fascination with it is a direct result of our appetite for it. It's our nature to want sex.

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like maybe out of 4 bfs you've had one wanted sex.

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What guy doesn't want sex? I know out of all my boyfriends, even if the media never talked about sex, they would still want it.

no what i mean is. like maybe out of 4 bfs you've had one wanted sex.

i think the media "forces" us to have sex, because as said, sex is nature. as we already become aroused naturally, the media and its sexuality makes the arousing increase a lot. and a lot of people feel preassure to have sex, just because "everyone else is doing it" (as said by my best friend).

damn i forgot what else i was going to say

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I mean, I dont know any 15 year old virgins.

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I know dozens.

ARGH i just dont agree one bit.. its too easy to blame 'the media'. sure its everywhere n sex sells, but why? i really dont think its cos of exposure, in any case its cos people don't talk about it n arent open enough. 'people', not actors on tv. how wouldnt we b attracted to it if its in our nature? n how wouldnt we turn to the media if its the only place we can 'learn'? at least a sociably accepted one. its true that it can create pressures by getting everybody else to b proud of having sex or at least showing that but that whole thing of 'the media makes us do this or that' is ridiculous. if anything the 'wrong' things about sex today is the consequences of the 'sex revolution'. cos its easy 2 forget it but too many things changed in the last century to do with being open about sexuality, woman's role, etc etc n now we're in the caos era, but i do believe we're moving into something better. what the media did was making it massive n it sure accelerated stuff but it didn't create anything, n i just think thats good

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I'm sure a lot of you have had a bf/gf who's been asking for sex a lot.

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No. I don't actually have a boyfriend right now, but I did a month or two ago, and there was no pressure to have sex. I've had other boyfriends, as well, and there was also no pressure to have sex. If there was any sexual activity, I initiated it. It's very stupid to think that your boyfriend or girlfriend can pressure you to have sex. If you really are that susceptible to pressure, you should find out how to ****ing grow a backbone.

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If you have sex, you're cool, you have worth, you are accepted socially, and you basically fit in society. Everyone says Britney is worth nothing without sex appeal. Prudes are losers. To be famous, you have to be a ****. The fact that one is smart or has a great personality means nothing, the only thing that matters is sex. Women: pretend to be lesbians, were thongs that show in your jeans, and you better obey your man! Men: stop thinking about loving a woman, just sleep with her, let everyone know that you're 'the man'. And you better be good at faking it!"

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You've actually heard the media say that? And I'm really sure that there are lesbians only because the media says it's cool.

If you really think that sex on TV and in movies and whatnot is influencing kids to have sex, then shouldn't all the comedy on TV and in movies be influencing kids to be funny? Obviously not, since no one has a ****ing sense of humor anymore.

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ive had sex many times and I dont have a kid or stds... so the media is actually lying to you.

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We care because?

ive had sex many times and I dont have a kid or stds... so the media is actually lying to you.

Personally I believe that its up to the person on whether they decide to have sex . Of course the media plays a great roll in teenagers and sex but it doesnt decide it completely. For example, my close friends and I are all virgins and we are very strong in thought about not having sex. And the media also focuses on important points like protection, AIDS, and abstinence.

I've had friends who have slept around and been called many names that's not gonna be. Plus I don't want to get an STD of get pregnant. My college career and future are too important to interrupt with a baby. Though if for some reason I were to get pregant I would give it up for adoption. I'm pro life and not in the traditonal sense, but for all age, genders, races and feel everyone no matter what should be respected.

To each their own thats basically my view on sex. If you feel ready for sex and know the risks then go ahead. If you want to save yourself for marriage or something thats cool too. Just never let yourself get pressured into it thats the biggest thing in my opinion

The meida is saying have sex on every channle, on every radieo station, and in every magizeen, exct. and in one way or another it makes us think we have to have sex to fit in. The thing is, is that anymore we DO have to have sex to fit in. And thats just sad and pathetic! (i dont fit in)

haaha, your gonna regret that whole saving yourself part

How about a 21 year old virgin? I plan on saving myself for the guy I'm going to marry. I think it should be somehting special between two people who really love each other and are ready to make that life long commitment to each other.
I know that's not kool but I don't care.

yeah I think I agree with this a lot. I mean, I'm really glad that I am a girl because there is a lot more pressure on guys I think to loose their virginity and I don't plan to loose mine before marriage. Anyways, when a guy is a virgin, I think a lot of people see it as like they are a virgin because they ... well you know ... like that they can't get anyone to do it with them. while with a girl, its like ok, sometimes expected, to remain a virgin.