does age really matter in a teen relationship? i think it should be based on maturity. I met this girl and I thought she was cute, and she looked my age. Im 17, and she told me she was 15. Then we started hanging out alot and I started to like her so much, and she seemed so much older and mature than 15. Then when we started getting more serious she told me she had lied and she was 14, turning 15, not 15 turning 16 like she originally said. Yet i still hung out with her bcuz i still liked her. I figured, i liked her when i thot she was 15, whats the difference if shes 14... but now i seem to get this uneasy feeling in my stomach because she is a freshman and im a senior.. is it wrong for me to like her?

I think its more of the maturity age rather than the actual age... but I think that if someone is say 13 and they are with someone in their 20's then thats awkward. Ones an adult one is just a teenager...

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hey all. I don't know if the problem is resolved yet but here's my advice... go with your feelings and instincts. I had my first real boyfriend when I was a freshman and he was a senior in high school. Now I'll be a senior and I would be more than willing to date a freshman boy if he was mature and a really good friend. Age is only a number but be responsible. Don't do anything stupid that you would regret later, you know what I'm talking about...and don't let your johnson make your decisions,use your brain and remember this-- sh*t happens, don't let this one relationship(if it goes to the gutter) ruin your friendship, both with the girl and with your pals, but learn fron this experience and enjoy every moment of your time together.

i am coming into this a little late and i dont know if you still need advice, but if so i think i can help. it sounds to me like you need to discuss the situation with her and see if she is ready for a relationship and if she wants a relationship with you. being friends with benefits is fun at first but eventually someone gets hurt. i dont think that age is that big of a deal. i met my first love when i was 14 and he was 17 going on 18. but our maturity levels were equal. dont worry about what others say, if you really care about her what people say wont matter. i always heard "he is only thinking about one thing" and in the end they were all wrong. he and i are still great friends and i was the one that messed up the relationship and knowing what i know now, wish i never did. you just need to be completly upfront with her. and btw...stat. rape only applies if it is over 3 years difference so calculate it up even if it is 2 years 364 days...its not prosecutable...trust me i went to court with that one. and besides, even then without a complaining party...or a confession nothing can be done. so good luck with everything!

yeah, unfortunately, u may just be right about that... but i jus know how jealous ill feel if i see her with some1 else.. i think im jus like addicted to younger girls or something, i dont like any1 my age

Yea, she's just too immature...you need to get someone your own age...you made her sound more mature than she really is. The end.
~S~

now its sorta weird between us.. its been almost 3 weeks that we have been together now, and we have hung out almost every day since then, except the last couple days.. then we hung out tonite with her friend and a few of my friends, and she didnt really act like we were together and she kinda flirted with my friend and she wasnt compasionate at all.. idn wut to do/say to her or if its jus me thinking that cuz we both drank a little.. but i feel like she doenst like me now or something and idn wut to do.. we have one more day until she goes away for 5 days.. and jus the other nite i held myself back from alot of girls at a party because i liked her so much.. i mean its hard to be intimate with her bcuz she seems like she always has 2 be with her friends.. waht should i do.. sometimes i jus wana be with her alone.. i mean i dont wana do 2 much with her, i understand shes young, but jus be wit her and talk and cuddle and kiss.. idn wut 2 say 2 her now..

Yea it's fine...just make sure that nothing sexual goes on b/c they can slam you w/ stat. rape even if it was consensual. Other than that it doesn't really matter I guess. I dated a 19 year old when I was 13,lost my virginity to him, and then moved on to his 21 year old friend...as long as it doesn't end up on that route you're fine. Love is love no matter what the age...just make sure it's love and not physical.
~Serena~

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Originally posted by Ironic:
Age doesn't matter when it comes to love. If two people loves each other but has an age range, that shouldn't be the reason they couldn't be together. It's all about the love that matters. Does it make any difference if she did or didn't tell you? I doubt it, love is ageless, no law telling when/who/what/how to love.

I agree. Why shoud age matter. If you love someone then you have a right to be with them. My mom was 16 when she met my dad and he was 14. There isnt anything wrong with the age difference!

thanks alot, that was a great post

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Originally posted by DAZEDnCONFUSED:
does age really matter in a teen relationship? i think it should be based on maturity. I met this girl and I thought she was cute, and she looked my age. Im 17, and she told me she was 15. Then we started hanging out alot and I started to like her so much, and she seemed so much older and mature than 15. Then when we started getting more serious she told me she had lied and she was 14, turning 15, not 15 turning 16 like she originally said. Yet i still hung out with her bcuz i still liked her. I figured, i liked her when i thot she was 15, whats the difference if shes 14... but now i seem to get this uneasy feeling in my stomach because she is a freshman and im a senior.. is it wrong for me to like her?

Age doesn't matter when it comes to love. If two people loves each other but has an age range, that shouldn't be the reason they couldn't be together. It's all about the love that matters. Does it make any difference if she did or didn't tell you? I doubt it, love is ageless, no law telling when/who/what/how to love.

its more like 3.. 2 1/2 in age and 3 in school.. i seriously dont think it should make a huge difference.. age is just a number, but some ppl think otherwise

2 yrs is nothing whichever way you look at it .

That's not a true "age difference". It's a really insignificant difference. If you were in college and she's a freshman in highschool...that's another story.

when i said "getting more serious" i meant seeing each other on a regular basis, like not just dating once in a while, wen we started seriously being together she told me she lied at first.. b4 that we had only hung out a few times.. then wen she knew we mite end up together she told me she was 14 not 15.. she jus seems and looks sooo much older.. but we just met recently

It's not wrong for you to like her. I, personally, think the freshman-senior gap is a little much, but that doesn't mean that it CANNOT work. I'd definitely stay friends with her, but takin it slow (treat it more as a friendship than a dating relationship) would be a wise way to do it. If it's gonna last, it'll be there when you're older, too.
When you say "getting more serious" how long had you known her when you reached this point?