Did you ever have a friend that would back stabb you and she would expect for you to for get about it and still be friends. because i have one of those but i really don't know what to do because she made out with my friends boyfriend and she only told me and i really don't know what to do. should i tell my friend or not then when we went to this chruch retreat thing she tryed to make a move on me ok well we just made out and now that im around her i feel different i really don't talk to her that much anymore what do ya'll think that i should do keep talking to her or stop and forget about everything i know that this is alot but i can use some advice

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not everything is black and white

this is true, i think u have to organize this whole scenario in your head, and then weigh the bad things with the good things she's done. People DO make mistakes you know, and i think its always a good idea to confront someone, even if they dont like it.

thanks for understanding my problem and yes she was friend with that girl they were really close and i know that she will get mad if i don't tell her but the thing is that i just did not want to be in the middle. and yes i'm a girl and i messed around with her but the thing is i'm not gay and that is one reasons why we are not talking. i guess because i was just really confused about the whole thing and just needed to be alone

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Originally posted by kittie:
I'd still be friends with her but I would confront her with this problem.

but the thing is that my friends does not to be confronted with anything but now that we are not friends i finally realized alot about her and how she likes to sleep around with everyone. and how stupid i was for caring for someone like that.

I think it all depends. Was she friends with the girl that had the boyfriend that she cheated with? If she was friends with her then that means the she really doesn't value friendship at all and isn't very trustworthy. If she wasn't then maybe she did it as some way to get back at the girl or something along those lines. I don't really know alot to give you much advice right now. All I can say is talk to her about it. Ask her why she would intentionally want to hurt your friend like that. You need to think about your part in this all because if your friend happens to find out that her boyfriend cheated on her, and you knew and didn't tell her. She may get upset at you, especially if your dating the girl she would probably feel that you betrayed her as well as her boyfriend did. You should really set your priorities and see which means the most to you.

I'd still be friends with her but I would confront her with this problem.

My advice is to still be friends with her, but let her know you dont like her and she needs to stop hooking up with everyone. I think you should let her suffer her own mistake, but if it doesnt work tell your friend and when you friends gets pissed at her then she will relize she needs to stop.

*me*

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Originally posted by Ironic:
My advice, if it happened to me, I would leave her and never talk or see her again. If she had made out with your friends BF, she don't deserve to be with you. She is willing to kiss another guy over you. I hope this would light up your problem. Please don't take any offense on me if my choice was bad.

i know what you are trying to say but i guess the thing that you don't know is that i'm a chick and bestfriends just don't really do that to friends.

i want to confront her about it but she does not like when people confront her about things. but the thing is that i did so much for this friend we went through so much together i just can't drop a friend like it was nothing because i see everyday. and we have the same friends and if she ever had a problem i was the one there telling her it will be ok and this is how she repays me i guess im just really comfused about everything.

Ironic, not everything is black and white.

Sometimes friends mess up. I learned that from one. Although it seems hard, try focusing on what she HAS done right.

Confront her. And if that doesn't work, then i'd take a serious glance on your relationship.

My advice, if it happened to me, I would leave her and never talk or see her again. If she had made out with your friends BF, she don't deserve to be with you. She is willing to kiss another guy over you. I hope this would light up your problem. Please don't take any offense on me if my choice was bad.