One of my friends (16 yrs old) recently told me that she has a STD and that she went to the hospital and they had her sign tons of papers so they her parents wouldn't have to know. Do you think that it is the parents right to be informed of what is going on with their child?

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Check into state/city laws about minors getting tested and if parents need to be notified.

Okay,
so I have Chlamydia.
Well, im not postive
but im pretty sure,
my ex i was with for nine months
who i was sexually active with
told me after we broke up that he had it.
and im sure i got it.

But im not telling my dad, hell freak out,
im his yougest.

But do you know if theres hospitals around Plano or Dallas that will give you test, and not tell your parents?

I don't think that parents should have the right to know... That would cause a lot of troubles for the unfortunate kids that have STDs and decrease the number that got tested because they were afraid... Meaning less would be really careful because they might think they were not infected even if they were... It would be a mistake to give them the right to know in my opinion.

I know I wouldn't have been tested myself if they would've told my parents... They'd kill me if they knew I was even sexually active... Luckily I came up clean.

If parents were informed, kids wouldn't get tested. Most people feel safer if it's anonymous so that's the way it should be. If i were a parent, I'd rather have my kid get an STD but get it diagnosed, than for him/her to get an STD and never ever get tested because they didn't want me to know.

I think that the parents should know, but that it's the child's job to tell them. If clinics, hospitals, etc. are forced to tell parents when their children have STD's, then the number of people who don't get tested will probably go up. So really, it's about which is worse: Having an STD, knowing, and receiving treatment; or not knowing because if you do, then so will your parents?
~Melissa Eee

Yes, her parents have the right to know, and should be told. it will be hard, but as a person she needs to know the consequences of her actions. Honestly, I'd think it'd be wrong of the parents to go insane on her, and I don't think it would happen. I think they would just be worried about her health. but I suppose it depends on the parent.

omg! i've been thinking about this so much lately. i think it is the minors right to inform or not inform their parents. think about how many phsyco parents there are out there. i had a friend (cough cough) that would refuse to get std tested if it was legal to tell the parents. it would destroy her world. and actually, she did get tested and came up positive for an std. and she had to go through the health department and get meds and handle it all herself. the health department requires that you get it handled anyways. its definitly the kids right. what if they would get beat up or worse if their parents found out they had something?

They totally have the right to know what's going on with their daughter!I know it would probably be soooooooooooooo hard to tell her parents but she really needs to tell them. 16, wow young......it's really sad!!

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Originally posted by AnnieGurl:
One of my friends (16 yrs old) recently told me that she has a STD and that she went to the hospital and they had her sign tons of papers so they her parents wouldn't have to know. Do you think that it is the parents right to be informed of what is going on with their child?

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Dang! She's 16!
Alright, I'm also a 16 chick. Dude, she is their daughter, and they have the right to know whats going on in her life. I'm not talking about reading her diary, but a STD is a way serious thing. Once she is 18, then I think she is old enough to handle these things on her own. But as long as she's living under her parents roof, they totally need to be kept informed on this kind of stuff. When you're sixteen, your parents have to sign a piece of paper for you to get your drivers license. Don't you think that a STD is a little more important than a drivers license? At 18, you're officially an adult, and then can make your own decisions about being stupid with your life. But under 18, no way! Your 'rents are still in your life, and still signing release papers. A doctor allowing a chick under 18 to keep something as serious as an STD from her parents is irresponsible.

first of, at the age of 16 the dr. is not leagaly allowed to release any information on his patients without concent, at least in canada. second, it's really up to the person.

First I think it depends on how old that person is I think if there 18 or older than it's there choice on wether they want to tell anyone or not... but if anything wether your 18 or not I still think you should tell someone it doesn't necessarily have to be a parent but at least a close friend that will be able to be there for you and help you out if you need it... and secondly if your under the age of 18 then of course I think you should tell your parents, they deserve to know, and yeah they maybe upset with you at the time being but they will get over it, it just takes time. and your parents will be there to help you... I mean the longer you keep it from them the more problems your going to have with your parents in the long run....

Not really. I mean, it's obvious that it doesn't have to be their buisness when there are planned parent hood centers around that let you go alone as long as you're 12 and over. And they can issue you free birth control and condoms, and STD tests without your parents knowing. It's nice to know that there is a place to run to when you're ready for that stuff and you're parents won't have to know.

___I'm against forcing anybody at all to be forced to share private information with their parents or families. You can generalize saying that all children are insecure and embarrased, or just plain scared but did you even consider "why"? A child who lied to its parents did have a reason to do so. We have this widespread painting of what we believe it means to be a parent: nurturing, caring, protective, understanding... but this is not a requisite for raising children. There are such things as bad parents. Yet with another assumtious, idealistic law made(for the better of the child) will end up creating equally damaging problems other than secrecy. If I was a stupid young person who was forced to come clean about the rather disgusting end result of my one big careless mistake to the two people I truly despise in this world, I would blame the government with such resentment that I would stop at nothing just to prove what messing around with lives of children using adult-given power can really drive a person to doing.

I wish I could say that if they're old enough to be having sex, they're old enough to make their own decisions...unfortunately, that's really not the case. Perhaps if they're under sixteen, the parents should be informed? That seems reasonable to me.

People avoid going to the doctor all the time for fear of hearing bad news.

But in the case of children. The Parent MUST know what is/might be wrong.

Of course I'd like to be informed, I'm just afraid that a lot of kids wouldn't get checked at all if they knew they're parents would be told.

Maybe many of us don't plan to become good parents.

But I would like to be informed ifmy kid has a Dieses.

If I had it because I had sex with someone, the right thing for me to do is to tell my parents, "Mom, Dad, I borrowed my classmate's toothbrush one time and her gums bled and she has aids so now it passed on to me."

well i wouldn't want my parents to know b.c. it is me not them and as long as i get to doctor when i have to see him them i think that it is fine that they don't. like the one tme i thought i was pregnat so i just called up my doctor and to them and i went and the gave me the test and i wasn't and i didn't even tell my mom. so if it is not like cancer then if you don't want to tell them that is fine it is you not them ..


ashley