I have been sexualy active for a while... a long while. My boyfreind that I am living with and sleeping in the same bed as is a virgin and doesn't want to have sex "very soon."

I love sex. I love how it makes me feel and act and smile. I love attention. I don't know what to do or say that isn't sexual... but i don't think that when i make sexual comments that he doesn't like it.

I don't know what to do, I like him so much and i want to have sex. But i don't want to force him into anything. Hes went the farthest hes been with me.

Help... please?

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It is when you can't respect the wishes of another. She wants sex, All she talks and thinks about is sex, He doesn't like it, She has the audacity to come to us and get advice on how to get him to have sex with her. She is only thinking about herself and her needs and not his. Therefore, she is being very selfish

I agree with you, EG. Tempting him to do something he doesn't want to do could ruin the relationship.

If you can't live without sex, talk it over with your boyfriend, and then part ways if you must.

If you can't live without your boyfriend, stay with him and get a vibrator.

Honestly, taing a break from sexual activity-- anything, kissing included-- isn't always a bad idea...

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It isn't selfish to want a healthy sex life.

It is when you can't respect the wishes of another. She wants sex, All she talks and thinks about is sex, He doesn't like it, She has the audacity to come to us and get advice on how to get him to have sex with her. She is only thinking about herself and her needs and not his. Therefore, she is being very selfish

just take your time, dont rush things, and if you follow veggiechick08's advice about what to wear, it'll happen pretty damn fast...trust me....

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To be terse, you're being selfish. Leave him alone.

It isn't selfish to want a healthy sex life.

But clearly you two have different expectations. And if you've been sleeping in the same bed and he doesn't want sex, then somethings probably wrong with him. I suggest you try sleeping naked, no strait guy could resist that. Or get a new boyfriend. Virgins aren't that fun anyway lol.

people rush into things to fast all of the time. and then look back and not like what they see. love is usually infatuation and it makes you feel good for awhile but then slowly fades away and you cant get it back. you should alwats take you time and think things through and look at where it will take you in your future.

Let this put to rest all the steryotypes that say guys are the only ones who want sex. Thank you.

wait

if he doesn't want to he doesn't want to it's his decision so respect it

To be terse, you're being selfish. Leave him alone.

I think perhaps you should respect his wishes until he is ready. And also, talk to him about your expectations and his. That way you will unsure that you are both headed in the same direction and you both want the same thing with your relationship. Open communication is key to a successful relationship.

Perhaps he's a eunuch. Consider purchasing a penile prosthesis?

What exactly do you need help with?