I'm not saying I'm for it but I have done it more then once and if you don't want to then you don't have to but if you do people shouldn't look down on you for it.

OK I NEVER MENTIONED AGE.
DELACIA OR WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS YOU THINK THAT I'M FOR PRE-MARITAL SEX AND I'M REFERRING TO TEENS ONLY?...I AM ALL FOR PRE-MARITAL SEX FOR ANY AGE GROUP. IF YOU THINK YOU CAN TAKE ON THE RESPONSIBILITY OF HAVING SEX YOU SHOULD BE READY FOR THE POSSIBILITY OF ALL THE WHAT-IFS THAT COME AFTER IT. SUCH AS GETTING PREGNANT. BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX I'M SURE YOU THINK ITS POSSIBLE YOU CAN GET PREGNANT BUT YOU DO IT ANYWAYS. THAT'S YOUR CHOICE AND YOU ARE ALREADY OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW BETTER.

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sex is very personal and private. i'd want to give it up to someone special, and i want them to be the ONLY one.

This is possible without marriage. You don't need to be married in order to share your love with only one person. And then what about people in second or third marriages (note: those don't necessarily mean divorces)?

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pregnancy and deseases.

Both of these are avoidable by using birth control and/or condoms and staying with a single partner.

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to me premarital sex shows lack of self control as well.

Perhaps they did wait but not until marriage. This is not always evidence of lack of self control.

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If you look back at percentage of marriages that end in divorce 50 years ago it was a lot less. Why do you think that is? The pre-marital sex percentage was a lot less.

Not true. There was a study done recently that indicated that people had premarital sex just as much back in the '50s as they do now. Heck, something like 9 out of 10 Americans have done it at one point in their lives, and that number has risen only slightly in recent years.

I am not married, and yet I am not a virgin. However, I am with the girl I plan to marry. What, if sex is supposed to be for a single person, is wrong with that? I see no point in getting married yet, and that is my decision. Who's to say it's a wrong one?

personally im against teen/premarital sex. for a number of reasons.

1. sex is very personal and private. i'd want to give it up to someone special, and i want them to be the ONLY one. i want to be able to truthfully say on my wedding night that my husband is the first. who wants the apple if someone's already taken a bite?

2. pregnancy and deseases. my mother was a teen mom, and shes told me, and her mother has told me, how difacult it was to raise a child at that age. people simply arent ready. ontop of school and coming of age and finding yourself and all that, PLUS a little baby you werent ready for, thats alot. i mean, i give a standing ovation to all the teen mothers out there who pulled though and raised there kids like my mom, because its not an easy thing to do. even when u ARE old enough and stable enough its a hard thing to do. so kudos to all of you. and how many men (im not saying all men are losers like this) run out when there gf tells him shes pregnant? and i know a number of girls who WONT let the father of their baby see the child because they know how irrisponsible the father is. i dont feel thats right, to be content with sleeping with a man, but not loving him in a way that u would want children with him?

and deseases. i know several kids in my school who arent even 17 and have already gotten STI's. if people were married and/or only sleeping exculsivly with one partner, sti's wouldnt be here and wouldnt be spreading around.

3. to me premarital sex shows lack of self control as well. you cant control your hormones enough the be decent and wait? eww...

In countries where marriages are arranged the divorce rate is also a lot less.

Maybe one of the reasons that marriages don’t last as long as they should is due to pre-marital sex. If you look back at percentage of marriages that end in divorce 50 years ago it was a lot less. Why do you think that is? The pre-marital sex percentage was a lot less. So maybe TEEN SEX is hurting everything. But you could also blame it on the media and how they have exposed us to many sexual images. But then again who really cares? Lets get drunk and screw…

Ok so here's my opinion....
I don't think you have to be married in order to have sex. I mean come on, how many marriages these days last anyways?...not many am I right?...THANK YOU and you do NOT need marriage vows to keep you from being lonely. If lets say you're getting older and you begin to get scared that you're going to be lonely for the rest of your life so your last resort is getting married...what makes you think that you need to get married?..the fear of being alone?...well if you get married its not to hard to go and fill out some papers for a divorce. If you both love eachother it shouldn't matter whether or not you are married.

Bahahahaha!

*ahem*

*writes notes*

I guess I should explain why pizza reminds me of sex.

Freshman year when I had to take health our teacher was talking to us about peer pressure and sex. He said if anyone was ever pressuring you to have sex you should just say, "You know, I think we should just go get some pizza."

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And I'd just like to note that I had pizza twice today :P

Ahahaha!

Gah!

Now that's going to stick with me...

I agree with Shade, marriage as a contract basically exists to make your relationship official with God and the world. Marriage as a concept to me means companionship, friendship, family and faith, but I guess those are things that can exist without the contract. I don't know, I just thing I'd like to have it all. I don't see what the benefit of not getting married is.

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My list of things that piss me off was not directed at only you. Just so you know.

I know, just wanted to explain myself for getting 2 out of 3.

And I'd just like to note that I had pizza twice today :P

It's true. It's not really important to people who don't value things like that. Marriage was created only as a public commitment before your kin and the gods. Does it have much meaning now when people disregard both family and faith?

I still don't see why marriage is all that important, aside from legal benefits.

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Originally posted by Sphinx:
but I don't think you are actually mature enough to handle sex until you are mature enough to get married.

You could be mature enough to handle marriage and just not want to. Also lots of people would say that they couldn't marry someone(make such a big commitment) until they've known that person in every possible sense, which includes sex.

haha

Great, I'm about to have pizza...

I'm for it

Gah!

Pies and pizza will forever remind me of sex.

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Haha. Sex like pie... that's halarious.

Gah! Don't ruin pies for me...