as strange as it may seem, cutting makes you feel good. i think it has something to do with endorphins. even though you feel a moment of pain, you know that afterwards there's that feeling of ... i don't know what the right word is? relaxing? it just kinda releases everything as cheesy as that may sound. i think that what people don't understand about cutting is exactly that. they don't understand that there is a good feeling you get after cutting so it makes it addicting. i'm not sure if this is common to other people who cut, but i think you would get just a sudden urge to cut becuase it was addicting.

i cut. i've been cutting since i was eleven. i just turned 13. well all my friends know, my friend mel is the one who always wants to help. WHATEVER YOU DO DO NOT THREATEN YOUR FRIEND. that does not help. just tell them to come to you anytime she needs someone. my friend never has done that, but lemme tell you, it would be so nice to know there is someone you can trust who will always be there for you. tell them to use rubberbands and to cry or spill their feelings out first. tell them to only cut if nothing else works. then eventually they will get better at finding alternatives and will cut less often, which soon, will cause them to see there is no use to cut.

(damn i wish someone told me that. shoot i helped myself^^)

I really hate when doctors think that to fix a cutter is to throw them on pills. Turning out that they do what their suppoed to "fix" all your problems.

I think that they don't know what to do so a guess is all they want to do. I know from ecperience that councling works if you want it to... but only you can decided to recover.

i am a cutter. i cut becuase of December 19,2005 my x boyfriend started lieng to me. i felt horrible. becuase me and him were like brother and sister after me andhim ended the relationship. then. i stoped. but i started cutting agian sometime in march. my friends started doing drugs. thats when my cutting went out of control. my anger went up higher and higher. my mom took me to the doctor for a physical. and they found out that i may have bi polar. a disease where i can not control my anger. after finding out. i went to my friends church and now i stoped cutting. and im a christian. if any one of you are still having trouble cutting. please message me on my myspace. i can help you.
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Originally posted by briezyD:
My friend is a cutter and I want to help her stop. If any of y'all are cutters can you explain to me why you cut. And if you know a cutter can you tell me how you helped them stop if you did.
thanx,
briezyD

i am a cutter. and i cut. becuase a guy who is my first love broke my heart. and its a long story but most people cut becuase of a guy, or family, or at home. i really hope your friend stops

I'm a recovering cutter but sometimes I still cut myself. I've been through alot that got me started cutting. I've been raped once, had ex boyfriends use me for sex, been through alot of shit and I feel that the cutting helped me through it all. Until my mom found out I was cutting and took me to a doctor. They diagnosed me with depression. I've been taking anti - depressents for about 2 months now but still I've cut twice, however my mom doesn't know. Like some of you were saying it is hard to get over cutting, it truely is an addiction I know exactly what you all mean. ~Elizabeth

I don't have to watch that movie because I know exactly what it looks like. I know the pain that person would have went through. But you wouldn't understand... you haven't done it.

I'm not advertising it. I didn't like myself at all when I cut. No worries about me.

that is no way to handle ur anger no it is not u should make a stress ball and squeeze it so it get rids of all the stress u have and if that doe snot work maybe star t kicking bags u know that will really work but don't cut ur self cause it will make u loose alot of l blood and make u ahev more tmeper okay and it will get in fected and ut is just no way a human should handle anger and don't even think about burning. and if u need to know some more ther is a lifetime movie about a girl cutting and burning herself it looks nasy and i t is really sad u shouls look at it okay and u should go on lifetime.com/t.v. and look up the movie and u will see the scars and want to stop cause u will see wat it does to ur body.

I've tryed to kill myself 9 times in my life. I am here because something was meant for me to be here. I used to cut because my mom was abusive and other things ive been raped 2 times and with multible boyfriend they have made me have sex with them. Shit happens. i know that a lot of people love me and I'm happy. Now.

hey well im a cutter and the reasion i cut is because when i cut i feel alive its like it covers all the pain inside and its all to much to deal with so i cut to releve it so i focus more on the physical pain because i can handle it better and its some thing i have controll over in my life ive tried suicide over 12 tomes in the last year im in counsling and more all i want is to be loved and try to be close to people i need people to support me and cheer me up so maybe try to talk to your friend and whatever you do dont say shes weird and phycotic and a whole bunch of put downs because that will make her feel even worse about her/him self maybe also try to help him/her to accept him/her self for who they are and to be proud of it also dont leave them out in the cold they probably need you more than any thing rite now and to what you wrote you seem like a good friend wanting to help

No pressure... but make sure they know their not alone and that they need help.

I cut the other day. Stress from graduating and deciding what I'm doing the rest of my life.

Stress from my mother too.

Anyway... I talked to someone and now.... I'm still here....

As for fakers... I know and it makes me look bad. Makes me look like a faker.

Wel i still cut and lyke you just sed
yer it is reli hard to stop i told ma mate coz i needd to tell sum1 at 1 point and she cried
dat made me feel reli bad
i cut bcoz of depression i just don't feel i can do nethin nemore its just lyke i don't play a part
i am always left out of thins
there r fakers in our class wich makes me mor mad
ARRRRGGGHHHH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LUFF YEW XX

well..im a recovering cutter. i cut because of depression school my friends and family and i just got to the point where i couldnt handle the stress.
i did it cuz i needed some control and i guess turnin emotional pain to physical pain was workin and it became the only thing i could control. ive had a few slips.tho my last one was a few weeks ago. i stopped seein a therapist cuz it didnt do much for me. but for your friend just dont pressure her or anythin liek that cuz the smallest things can cause someone to cut specially since its very hard to stop. just try and support her just not to much.

I am a recovering cutter. Like alcohalism cutting is something that you never get over. It is an addiction.

I cut because of depression. Because like anyone who is belimic or anorexic I need control over my body. Because when I need to relieve stress that is what I turn to. Because I feel pain in my heart, but cant rip that out.

I am a recovering cutter.

I haven't cut in 67 weeks. No one that isn't a cutter could understand how hard it is to stop. Once you start nothing but yourself can make you stop.

My last slip up was more then a year ago. I was clinicaly deppressed. I was an average depressive. Stayed in my room did nothing. Now I'm graduating highschool.

The only reason that I am a doing all this work is because soemone helped me.

3 years ago I confessed to my father that I cut. From then on it was a hard thing. It was a good thing I had friends behind me.

BriezyD just be her friend, tell her everything will be ok, tell her that you are behind her. And tell someone that can make her stop.

I personally have never cut, but have many friens that have. From what I've been able to interpret, its all about control. The emotional pain in their lives is so great, they feel that they have lost control of everything, that they don't have any real control about what happens to them, but when they cut, they know they can inflict their own pain, and it gives them the sense of control back. It's truly just a way of regaining some feeling of control over their lives, and not feeling like everything just happens to them. They are only hurting themsleves because they can control the pain, not like the rest of the pain that they've been recieving.

As for stopping the cutting? I wouldn't attempt to do that on my own, contact your friends parent or a guidence counseler. They may be mad at your for a long time afterword, but you basically just saved their lives. So they'll forgive you in the end.

some people do it to feel physical pain instead of emotional, give them something to concentrate on, to punish themselves, because they like to, maybe they just like the way it looks feels etc. it really doesnt matter thats all so cliche, i used to cut myself and my advice would be..getting help doesnt really help and you cant just decide to quit. you have to grow out of it, move past it whatever. as long as your friend doesnt want to die, only to hurt herself, its actually not really harmful in my opinion just let her work it out in her mind

yea, the reasons for cutting differs from person to person. it's such a broad elixir to a lot of problems. it really depends on your friend.

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Other things that are less moronic than cutting also release endorphines. Like binge drinking.

But alcohol is a depressant. I'd suggest something like hang gliding, surfing, sports, dance...

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Originally posted by iluvphil36:
I'm also a cutter I've been doing it for 2 years and i've been 2 about 4 different therapists..scared away them all... and cuttin gives u relief...the pain will calm u down and will help u gain control of urself every1 has different reasons for cutting but those r mine

It's not the pain, it's the endorphines released that normally help your body cope with harm in real life or death situation.

Other things that are less moronic than cutting also release endorphines. Like binge drinking.

I'm also a cutter I've been doing it for 2 years and i've been 2 about 4 different therapists..scared away them all... and cuttin gives u relief...the pain will calm u down and will help u gain control of urself every1 has different reasons for cutting but those r mine