On the day of my 18th b-day my fam found out about my cutting. Now I'm off 2 therepy. How in the world do I start? Any cutters or sier's out there been through therepy? Any help appreciated. I know everyone's different, but I'm scared.
no offense, but i think that your rents sending you to therapy is totally wrong! nobody can help u unless you can help yourself. my friend russell went to therapy, and it did nothing for him, he was a burner. me russell and britteny used to all do it together, the only one who does it now is my friend britteny. there are times when i want to hurt myself, but i just call my ex, and he helps me thru it. talk to sumeone who cares about u, sumone you can trust. the best feeling in the world is when you stop, trust me....i know.
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i definitely know where you are coming from! i have been in therapy since 5th grade, when i first tried to commit suicide... last year i was hospitalized for suicide attempts and self-mutilation. i had to go through family therapy, individual therapy, and group therapy while i was there - daily, over the course of 3 weeks. it may not sound like much - but talking it through with people with similar conditions really helped me! im not going to say im cured because i talked about my "issues" but it definitely helped. the best advice i can offer is to talk it through - especially about why you feel the need to cut. anyways, i am always here (and im very new to the site) so just let me know if you want to reply or talk...
Talk to someone. I've been told it helps. There are just somethings you can't do independently. Turn to someone who is always there for you, like a best friend.
The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on. - Robert Bloch
im not a cutter but alot of my friends are and they always vent to me and they say it helps so find someone you trust and just vent to them instead of cutting.
your welcome
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quote:Originally posted by DieFromtheInside: suddenly this turned into positivevill. gwad. its like everyone is positive. so wat else to you want to be positive about? "and in abortion its not all THAT bad when the baby gets RIPPED TO SHREDS AND THROWN AWAY!!!!!"
Um, let's see... on a thread about recovering from SI... yes, we certainly wouldn't want tbe positive!! good lord, some people
oh, and sweetie, it's about choice. you aren't even thinking about the mother's life. before it's born, it's surviving/functioning... not living a life. but there are always issues here because you might believe in linear time, in one shot at life. whereas i belive in cyclic time and reincarnation.
"You save yourself or you remain unsaved." ~Alice Sebold
suddenly this turned into positivevill. gwad. its like everyone is positive. so wat else to you want to be positive about? "and in abortion its not all THAT bad when the baby gets RIPPED TO SHREDS AND THROWN AWAY!!!!!"
quote: if you can find the right person then thats aweosme for you but most dont find the person....
Not true. If most people couldn't find the right person, therapy wouldn't exist. To go on the basis of only your own experiences, without any regard for other information, generates a very biased point of view.
quote:Originally posted by PunkerishChk12: Tell him what you want to tell him._YOU_ are the boss. Sometimes they try to suck things out of you, and try to make you tell things you don't even want to think about. Its more comfortable to not have your family in with you. Sometimes its better with a good friend or cousin. Therepy makes you more depressed though. It makes you feel like you need to cut after talking about it. I hope your session goes well though!
If you have a good therapist they will not try to "suck things out of you". that is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard. they may ask you difficult questions, but that is because they want you to confront yout feelings and your reactions, so you can evaluate them and learn and understand better communication and coping skills. maybe the reason she cuts is BECAUSE of he family. and sometimes it is better to go with a friend, but if a friend is there, you can never be truly honest with yourself because having someone you care about there will obviously affect how you are. If you are actually working and talking and thinking, therapy should NOT make you more depresed. you have no idea what you are talking abuot, and you are obviously an immature, ignorant, close-minded "punkerishChk" who doesn't know how to confront her own feelings.
keep in mind your therapist wants the BEST FOR YOU and wants you to get better.
Tell him what you want to tell him.YOU are the boss. Sometimes they try to suck things out of you, and try to make you tell things you don't even want to think about. Its more comfortable to not have your family in with you. Sometimes its better with a good friend or cousin. Therepy makes you more depressed though. It makes you feel like you need to cut after talking about it. I hope your session goes well though!
Live as if your were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. -- Gandhi I'm a Female, not male!~
i was a cutter (clean for 8 weeks now!) and i am in therapy. just be brave, tell your counselor,a nd if you want to stop, she will help you learn good coping skills, etc. i have to run, but if you need more details or a person to talk to (sort of like a sponsor in AA) you can email me anytime at (thethe_Empty@Hotmail.com)
bunni88..... i had a good councler but she moved away and before then i went from one to another.... i had 7 in 1 and 1/2 yrs and then after ive had one and now im not in it because im gunna deal with it for myself... if you can find the right person then thats aweosme for you but most dont find the person....
diefromtheinside.... im not competing for anything.... jlo sings it and ya know what i use to have the mask and i sometimes still do but i got rid of it and now im me "im real"
FREE LOVE FOR ALL AMBER
Whats meant to be will happen.~ Tomarrow is yet another day.~ Thou shalt call me long winded.
Shrinks don't help, in my case, It didn't help for me. He didn't understand at all and thought he knew everything about it. I think the best way is to talk it out with your family and friends.
o. i see you're competeing for the most positive. you've got some compatition free love... or you would agree with her wouldn't you? o well. still i've never heard the 'i'm real' song. who's it by? sounds kinda...hipocratic in itself. nobody is real these days. ya know. its like you ahve to put on some kind of a mask to walk through you're ******front door(i kn ow, i hate wen they put the little * things...) i just dont get it.
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Please don't listen to all this bull**** and come up with some ridicolous idea that therapy is the the most vile, horrible thing anyone can do.
If you find the right therapist, it's awesome. Sometimes you have to go through a few before you find one that will actually help you. But the important thing is that you have to work at this too. All of those people who decided to **** the opportunity of having a life by shutting up when someone was listening aren't giving you the advice you need.
I've been in therapy for two years, and had two therapists. I cut for three years, and I have only cut once since November 29th, 2003. You don't need this bull**** in your life. Get help, and listen to what s/he says.
Don't be scared about it. You know all those things you've had in your mind that you can't tell anyone? Tell her/him. It's simple, and easy, and it's not as hard or scary as you may think to talk for an hour.
Whats this big obssession with being you? that was very random. i'm at school now so i'l check my e-mail when i get home.By the way, Tami has issues. she's sitting next to me right now. so just for future reference...
hey diefromtheinside.... cheack your email and if i did it right then you would get my screen names.... and yeah it didnt take only one day, thats kinda an exageration. but the thing is om FINALY me ME ME ME!!! im finaly me and im prowd of it...
so cheack your email
FREE LOVE FOR ALL AMBER
Whats meant to be will happen.~ Tomarrow is yet another day.~ Thou shalt call me long winded.
you sound kinda like a councelor. wat happend in my life? a load of ****. and i didn't like it. and then MORE **** happened(pardon my cursing. its like everytime i do somethine i fail misreably. its all been bad. and it sucks. A LOT. life reall y has no point. i dont know wat makes you think its a happy thing. or that it can get better. then again, it always seems to get better for everyone else but me. i dunno why. you can be that positive.how could you just one day figure it out. its a total given. i think we should have a one on one sometime. do you have a sn?
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or you would agree with her wouldn't you? o well. still i've never heard the 'i'm real' song. who's it by? sounds kinda...hipocratic in itself. nobody is real these days. ya know. its like you ahve to put on some kind of a mask to walk through you're ******front door(i kn ow, i hate wen they put the little * things...) 
i just dont get it.
