i want to know what you think about kids age 14 - 15 having a relationship with guys that are 18 or above. Personally i don't think that it's right, but i have a friend who is in that kind of relationship and she seems to be happy. But to me it all seems a bit fishy.

congrats on finding a man worth marrying

I've read some of your responses and some of them are well thought out. However, some people seem to tend to think that older men just want sex. That is not always the case. A very good generalization yes, but none the less not always true.

I have always dated guys that are always about 2 years older than me. At first, it was fun and i was all "ooh im dating an older guy!" Then i got into some emotional trouble when i was screwed over by him. So i decided to date someone my own age.

I then noticed that guys my age weren't as emotionally mature as i was. So i went back to dating older guys. Went through a few more heartbreaks and now am in love with a guy i intend on marrying. He is 24 and I'm 18. I trust him with everything i have and i never doubt that.

Anyways, that's my story but it doesn't apply to every girl or guy. Sometimes the girl isn't mature enough to date an older guy and yes sometimes all the guys want is sex. Let's just hope that in the situation the friend can make a good decision for their friends and trust that their friends are makin the right decisions. And if they aren't then they should speak up.

i went out with an older guy and i am not taht type of person i always thought it was wrong.but i new the guy since i was 3 so i let down my guard.it a big mess now and were not together.even if the guy wants a relationship he probabuly will push your friend into sex.especially if he has al ready had sex

when i was 15 i met a guy who was 25 and iam 18 now and iam still with him and we love each other so much and plan to get married soon he is 27 now

I hate girls who are in highschool yet bragg about their boyfriends who are in college.

great, you have a boyfriend who needs to hit highschool girls to get any ass


If you are a college guy and you are dating a highschool girl, and not cheating on her, under most circumstances...you are a loser

Well, this is my opinion.....I know atleast three girls who have boyfriends who are older....they are 14 and one of them, their boyfriend is i think 19, 20, somewhere there....okay..well let's just say she lost her virgintiy already....he trys to take over here....and with one of the other girls too....i just think that gilrs should go to that age, it's too much for them to handle....

An older guy expects more of a relationship than a 14 year old....correct me if i'm wrong. And, 14 year olds do not have the physical and emotional strength to fight back..worst of all, that one girl knows that she shouldn't be doing this, but can't get out of the situation

Besides, if it wasn't a bad thing, why would they hide it from their parents?

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i think it is totaly wrong. the only reason why a 20 year old guy would go out with a 14 year old is cuz he is a sick pervert who couldn't find any little girls, alone on the street. he just wants to get some. and if u r dating a much older guy be careful, they r up 2 some thing

Do you have factual proof of that?

i think it is totaly wrong. the only reason why a 20 year old guy would go out with a 14 year old is cuz he is a sick pervert who couldn't find any little girls, alone on the street. he just wants to get some. and if u r dating a much older guy be careful, they r up 2 some thing

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Have you ever herd of the 2 year rule?

The right formula is that men should only date people whose age is at least half theirs plus seven years (it only works if they're 14 or up).

Of course, formulas in this department are stupid.

I don't see anything wrong with a person that 16 dating a guy that's 20. My older sister was 16 when she starting writing her {now husband} and he was 20. They wrote and talked on the phone until she was 17 and then they got engaged and then 4 days after her 18th birthday they got married. They've been married for 10 years and they have 3 children.
My Dad and Mom are 6 years apart and they have been married for 30 years.

But that's just my opinion.

I'm 16 and dating a 20 year old, I see no problem with it really. I'd see a problem if the guy/ girl is 10 or more years older than the one they're dating, but I can't see much of problem with a 4 year difference, like you do. And as long as they don't do anything, it's not really illegal anyways.

i dont see it as wrong unless the guys like 45 and shes like 13 but im 16 and ive date alot of older guys... the oldest being over 25 and im still a virgin so i know they wernt into me for that

hey iv gone out with a 23 yr old and it was fuckin messed up so i got out of that relationship we didn't have sex or anything but yeah it i was really nervous around him , but then my dad told me that he had to run off to l.a. cuz he wasn't just messing around with me

When I was 17 I dated a 23 year old. Even then, I should have known what I was in for. We were married when I was 20 and have since divorced (8 years later) because I discovered he had an addiction to child pornography.

Older guys dating younger girls can be completely innocent - but sometimes it's not. To be safe - and not sorry - it's better to date people your own age until you are old enough to make a reasonable choice based on what you observe in his behavior.

Talk to your parents - let them know what is going on and see what they have to say about it. Talking to your parents is ALWAYS a good thing. They were kids once too.

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Originally posted by gabibff:
love is love you can't help who you do love your not supposed to.There is nothing wrong w/it.realize that

There is... its called statutory rape!

I would have never thought of going out with someone 18 and above when I was younger. Be smart date people around your own age.

love is love you can't help who you do love your not supposed to.There is nothing wrong w/it.realize that

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Have you ever herd of the 2 year rule?

i think its just wrong

there is nothing wrong w/it love is love you can't help your feelings.I know how that feels b/c I am talking to a guy 9 yrs older than me nut I can't help how I feel.And I know most of the situations are about sex but he would've started talkin to somebody different.He isn't like normal older men he's my best friend(so is his sister)they(his sis and him) are the only true friends I've had.So no there is nothing wrong w/it