What is love? How does a person know when he/she is in love? What is society and or parents disapprove of that love? What if he's older, or someone you'd never expect?

I am 16 years old, and still a virgin.
I met this really cool guy in june of last year,
he is 18 now.
Anyways, he is my step brother.
Our parents got married a year and 2 months, as of Feb. 13th.
My mom is so strict, and she doesn't understand.
I'm in love.
And he loves me too.
I always thought that young people, couldn't get in love-because "they're way to immature, and eelings fluctuate"
sometimes I'm not all to sure if I am in love myself, I just know this is something I've never felt before (maybe it's cuz I never had a REAL boyfriend). But I really don't know what to do. Some have said I should break it off, but it's easier said than done. I don't know what to do. In fairy-tales, they always tell you to follow your heart, this pleasure that I'm feeling may only be temporary, in the long run, it could be detramental, just because it goes against what I believe-spiritually. I just don't know.
Has anyone been in love?
If so, how did you know?
Did anyone ever oppose it?
Luv
~Mela

nichole442000@yahoo.com

I had this big crush on a guy as a sophomore in highschool but it never changed into anything more until I got to know him. He's a really sweet guy but we broke up over the whole player and I wasn't ready fo what he wanted if you get the picture.

Were back together.
Yeah.
Luv
~Mela

ohh.. the i thought this was about something else.. you title is so far from wats here

anyway.. hes you step brother,,,,!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and besides, its too elemtary to belive that kids cabt fall in love.. but mostly dont..

The best decisions are made in a split second.

MTLBYAKY

Now I'm not sure, if were back together, or just there... I think we made up yesterday... I hope we did, but only time will tell.

~Mela

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I don't think its a problem to love your step brother in that way cuz he ain't blood related. Also, give it some more time and thought and eventually you will realize what you want.

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It's kinda hard to believe that this was actually written by a crazy child!

i am sort of understand what u r going through. Myb dad was gonna marry this guy's aunt. prob was that i liked the guy alot.
i like this guyn who is 20 years old. he is in college. but, i am 14 that's the prob. i like him alot.

Yeah, that is what it feels like when your with the person you love, nothing matters, and time just seems to slip, and when your not with that person, you feel those effects, and all your insecurities seem to creep up on you, until your back with that one person-at least that's how it is for me... Pitiful to some, that one person can make you feel so beautiful. However, he and I broke up, and I feel miserable, I'm the one who broke up with him, it was like he wanted it to end, but somewhere I feel he's suffering as much as I am... I don't know how to behave, I know what my heart wants, so if that's not love than I don't know what is... I'm constantly laying in my bed, hoping he'll come wake me up...
But it hasn't happend.
Maybe were over.
But I know how I feel.
I miss him.
Thanks everyone.
But I don't think love has a number,
but I do know that feelings do change, and fluctuate.
Luv
~Mela

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If life has taught me one thing, it is this:

If think you are in love and are between the ages of 8 and 16, You are not in love

Or are at least not in love that will last in the long run. People's lives change drastically in the years between 16-25 or so.

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How do you know? I just read an article about a couple a few days ago that met when they were 13,married when they were 18,and are still together today,and they're like 60 or something. You don't know that for sure. Just because it hasn't happened to you doesn't mean it hasn't happened to other people. It's happening to me.

your lucky enough to get along wid your step brother and much more than that fall in love with him..
your so lucky that you live together..just don't care what parents think..they are always there to put thorns in everything that kids do..
as long as you know your limits and your okay wid what is going on...go for it....

If life has taught me one thing, it is this:

If think you are in love and are between the ages of 8 and 16, You are not in love

Or are at least not in love that will last in the long run. People's lives change drastically in the years between 16-25 or so. Step back from the situation and reasses your emotions. You haven't had a lot of epxeriance with relationship.

Both me and my best friend are in love,and I'll answer this question the way I answered it when my friend asked me.

When you're in his arms,you just feel completely safe and warm,and time doesn't seem to exist,you want to stay with him forever.It's like every time you see him,it's exciting,like visiting a new place...but comforting..like coming home after a long trip.

When you're not with him..it's like you're merely existing until you can hold them again,and every second seems like eternity.

Yes,my dad apposes to this,mostly because the guy I love is 4 years older than me,but my dad just doesn't get it either..and I think he's being a little unfair..mostly because him and my mom are 5 1/2 years apart.

I hope I helped...
-XxNobodysAngelxX

The reason it sucks to be in love with your step-bro. is the situation. Our situation is so frustrating!
Luv
~Mela

candycane-

that REALLY sucks. to have a step brother that you are in love with. i dont think that the 2nd cousin law applies to non blood relations though...? anyways i would have to agree. i see kids that are 3 years younger than me to tell u the truth that i think are hott lol. i think that there is a lot of pressure about the age of the person you date. there is a guy that i think is sooo cute who i originally thought was 2 years older than me, but he is 2 years younger, and all my friends absolutely freak at the idea. i dont understand how five years age difference between your parents can be such a short difference and still five years before you are 25 is such a...big difference. best of luck candycane.

Thanks you guys for all who replied. Yes it is a very confusing feeling, and no, no one can tell you if your in love, but I do know to some extinct he does make me happy, and I do feel comfortable around him, but there are some things that I am not ready for, and I don't think I'm fully ready for the relationship, although I love him (as a person, EVERYTHING), but when your in love with someone, I don't think you can just give up on them/the relationship, so although I don't think I'm as fully ready as I'd like to be, I'm trying to make the best of it. I want to make him happy... I just wish I was more happy with myself, because the way you feel about yourself, affects how others will feel about you, especially when your in a relationship... TElling my family? No, my family is really negative. It's not because they mean to, but they want to the best for your-my family that is, and if someone in my family, feels that anyone is making a mistake it can get pretty ugly... SO no I don't want to tell my family, maybe later in the future, but I know they'd learn how to adapt-they'd have to! My twin sister knows, I told her about this, but it didn't really help, because she dislikes him alot!
But thanks ya'll for responding. And I'd love to discuss this further, just about love in general, and it's ages, etc.
Luv
~Mela

Yes, I've been in love, and still am. I know I can't live without Him. He has so many great qualities, and we believe the same things.

Whatever It sounds kinda creepy to me.

It's crazy to have others tell you whether or not you're in love. It's not something people can tell you because they don't know how you feeel inside. I think if you did love him, you would talk this over with him and your whole family. The trick with that is to keep civil, dont cause fights or trouble for yourself, just keep as a serious conversation with the family unit. I don't think it's wrong to love your step brother but it might not be the right love you're feeling, it could be a family type love that you are mis-interpreting as a husband type love. also ask yourself if you would feel the same way if you're parents hadn't married each other. If you had met him at school or something. Finally if you care about him make sure to listen to how he feels and what he thinks should happen

I don't think its a problem to love your step brother in that way cuz he ain't blood related. Also, give it some more time and thought and eventually you will realize what you want.