My mom has this problem,when it comes to knowing about the real world and sex ed. i'm secluded.Once I asked her what oral sex was and she wouldn't tell me....
I know that it may seem embaressing to her but when she hides it all from me it makes me feel like she is hiding something and can't trust me.
When i'm an adult and if I have kids I promise to be more open to them,I don't want them to feel the way I feel.

Parents won't tell you much on things that they believe are not for you at a certain age. That's why you find out from another source, friends. More specific, really close friends, they're the ones who can pretty much tell you anything.

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they do it for the pleasure of the viewer, not themselves.

thats why they dont have orgasms, and we all know porn stars arent the best actors...

Just be lucky she's not anything like my mom. If I wanted to know something ike that, my mom would flip out and go postal. I mean, she already thinks that I'm sexually active and so are all my friends. And no, I'm really not. Just think, it could always be worse. If I want learn about any of that stuff, I learn it from my friends.

shoots if i talked to my mom about sex she'll freak out and ask me are u thinking about havin' sex or have u had sex as yet and eventhough i would tell no cuz i haven't had sex before she will still tell me just don't have sex and call my sis' tell everything and then she'll say whose the boy u had sex with then i start crying and say u 2 don't trust right that's all u have to say. but any ways parents have reasons about not talking about sex these days but don't worry talkin' to a counselor or friend or teacher( that u trust) about sex should work besides theres sex ed at school u should pay attention

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Wow,been awhile since i've checked the Noise boards.
Anyways,chie chie people who told me what it was,now i've gained more knowledge. ^-^

Jie Jien peoples

ya it koow and everything but parents should know everything u do but sometimes they get over their head but having sex @ a early age around 12, 13, 14,or 15 i'm saying i wouldn't but most of ya'll probably do but ya it koow to ask first and get a answer

I'm 14 right now and I started to have questions about sex when I was 10. My mom answered all of my questions then and there. A parent needs to be open with their child, if the parent isn't then that'll just amke the child even more curious so they'll try to find out the hard way. Parents shouldn't be afraid of communication on sensitive subjects. If you have sex at a young age you ruin the spark compared to when you do save it for the one you love. But if a 13 year old came to their parents and told them that they are sexually active, then the parents shouldn't yell and scream. They should yes get mad, and not alow them to do it but they should go by pills and tell them that if they're gonna do it to use protection. Parents are supposed to be an always active guardian who supports the child through thick and thin no matter what.

Your mother just feel uncomfortable with telling you. I wonder how old you are because the words define the activity, but you shouldn't think about that right now. EDUCATION is the best thing. So you could be financially and mentally stable for your children in the future.

ive know about sex since i was like 7, and it was my mom who told me, coz i asked her, and she was really open about it. so ive known everything i know now for quite a while, and i know quite a lot on the subject. however, im not pregnant, ive never had sex, never even really kissed. so dont think that, just because a girl knows a lot on the subject, she'll get herself pregnant, or that a girl who doesnt know a lot about it, won't get herself pregnant. it just doesn't work like that.

Heres a lil hint at why your mother might not want to talk about it with you YET!
1. YOUR 14
2. young girls these day are gettin preg. at your age and thats not good!
Don't rush your teen years to end up being a mother yourself and i know i sound like i'm preachin but beleive me! you need to know BUT just b/c u know DOES NOT! mean u need to ACT!

BABY

im new but i do have a comint about what you guys a saying i think that u have the right to know what that is i think that the appropriate age to know about it is when you feel confortable talking about it well although i cant really tell you what oral sex is but talk to your mom and tell her that you understand how she feels mayby she thinks you are to young tell her that you were just wanting to know what it was well bye

i agree w/ you, habermasa. its a mistake to keep things from kids like that. i've known about sex since i can remember, and i've never done anything. my friend had the talk with her mom when she was 13, and when she turned 14 she started having sex. if kids think its some kind of secret, they'll investigate, and end up in trouble because of some bad decisions.

"Only 13, you shouldn't need to know about sex??"
When I was that age, a had a lot of queries about sex, and you know, sex is starting a lot younger than you'd expect these days. The best way to keep yourself safe is to know at an early age. I don't mean when you're 8 or 9 or whatever, but if you're turning into a teenager, you're at that time where you should be informed on stuff. If a parent still thinks of their teenager as a baby and "doesn't need to know", heck, they're making a big, risky mistake.

Lol, greenfelt, you hack paysites as well ? I was working with a bunch of people doing that a while ago and you'd be surrised at the amount of money you can get for contact information of high spending porn site members.
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Porn and the internet are not a good way to learn about sex in my experience.

Just a few points:

Most people do not have sex like porn stars because it isn't very fun. When porn stars ***k they do it for the pleasure of the viewer, not themselves.
Porn stars do some pretty ***ked up stuff. They are sex objects, not lovers.

There can be a lot more to sex than just the physical act. Porn teaches nothing about love, respect, communication, or sensitivity to your partner.

Learning about sexuality from porn can give you a ***ked up idea of the roles of men and women in sex.



I speak from the perspective of somebody who

1) Is one of the few people burdened with the ability to hack into paysites and download usernames and password lists. I have seen a lot of porn, and

2) somebody who is sexually active in a loving relationship.

I wish I didn't learn so much about sexuality from porn because it's causing a lot of problems in my relationship now, and the beautiful woman I'm with really doesn't deserve to have to put up with that kind of crap.


With that said, I don't think porn is always terrible, I just think it's a terrible teacher.


sam


ps, Cyber sex is the lamest **** I've ever heard of. I guess it has pretty high comic value. But that's all

belldandy i think you are in the perfect age to start getting informed! if its not with your mom get informed by yourself. Im almost 15, and whenever i try to talk about sex with my grandmother she freaks out and says i should stop getting ithat kind of information, i guess its a generation thing but knowledge really is power. And the only weapon to get rid of problems like teen pregnancy, STDs, etc is KWOWING. The more you know the better you can handle and issue and make less mistakes. At my school we have had some sex talks. They talk about STDs, AIDS, ways to get protected, how to use preservatives and stuff. I know that sex ed sucks in most schools. But in my school we gave ideas for our own sex ed classes, maybe you can talk to an advisor and do the same thing. Its great you are posting websites, internet is a great way. And maybe TV is too, but you should check your info twice.

peace. 0shorty0

I know how you feel, but maybe she doesn't think you need to know right now - it could be something she thinks is too... is something you shouldn't be thinking about at your age. Or maybe, not saying it's true, but maybe she's afraid that you might want to do it.
Another theory - she probably still thinks of you as her little baby, and little kids aren't told about that stuff, so why should you be?
Again, none of these may be true, but they're just a thought.

Yeah, really. Everything I know has come from tv and the net. Some was from a Health class unit that lasted about 2 weeks. I never asked so my parents never told. I think if I did ask, my mom would tell me tho. She just always seems to know when it's time to tell me something. And right now, I don't need to know anything. Of course, she would probably just give me the bare facts and feel pretty awkward. I would too, that's why tv is better for this kind of stuff! I mean, it does go to extremes most times, but at least they show you exactly what can be done. But I think you should talk to your parents when you think it's time for you to experience it. No matter how uncomfortable they are, this is something you need to know about and they need to understand what's going on. So tell them to suck it up and spill.

"Everything i learned about sex i learned from t.v. and the Internet"
Its true! I definitely learned a lot from cybering but i dont do that anymore. I never asked my mom so she never told me, but she did say "u can get pregnant the 1st time" well duh!! Who doesnt know that?? Its just if i asked she'd freak out and think i was actually havin sex right now. And then she's preach about how havin a baby will ruin my life Dont get me wrong, i know it would, but i've watched enough t.v. 2 know that!