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Posted by Snatch:
Yes and what flow means by seeking this knowledge for yourself is

GET LAID! HAVE FUN!

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Not sure why you're being so weird on the boards this week, but 'chacun son gout', i s'pose.

That's actually *not* what I meant, but thanks for trying. Getting informed and educated means taking the responsibility for yourself to find information about safer sex if you choose to have sex. This means reading books, websites (like: Scarleteen), talking to health educators, public health nurses, harm reduction groups, peers, adults, anything that is accessible to you in order to increase knowledge and make the safest choices possible for your own unique life.

Sometimes out of all of the information, an individual realizes that abstinence is the best option for them at a particular place in their life. Sometimes an individual will decide that they are ready to begin having sex. It's a big decision - and one that only the individual can make.

Be informed, play safe
flow23

GET LAID! HAVE FUN!

And yes, porno's do have educational value.

1 word: Porno's. They can teach you alot.



Ok, seriously, read the Kama Sutra.

There's no law that requires anyone to get their sex-ed from their parents. Some people are lousy teachers and are uncomfortable in their own sexuality. For those of you who's parents are unwilling and unable to discuss sex openly and honestly, once you know that, it's *your* responsibility then to go and seek info from another source. Sexuality is the responsibility of the individual. There is a LOT of info to know about safer sex, techniques, emotions, etc.

If you're gonna have sex, it's on YOU to get informed.

If you haven't yet gone to the Scarleteen site listed below, go see it! There's lots and lots of info.

My mom does the same thing. Growing up my mom never told me anything about oral sex. I learned it all from my friends. Her and my dad would have the "sex" talk w/ my brother and I but the extent of that talk would be here's a book it's talks about everything, the end. It's pathetic. But the bad part is, is that because she didn't tell me about it, it made me even more curious as to what it was and everything like that. I would have liked her to be more open, because still to this day, I can't imagine myself asking my mom, so what do u think about oral sex!! I would die of embarrassment, and I think she would too!!

sorry, i somehow posted my last reply on the wrong board.

I am dumb.

-DeadWarm

ok Dante, you asked me to post a reply to your June 1st message, but I am not sure which part you are lacking, so um, ask me again, cause some of that we have been over.

-DeadWarm

Scarleteen is a great site. I highly recommend it.

Belldandy, I want to give you some links. I think it's really sad that some parents refuse to educate their children, especially if the child is asking for information. If your mom is uncomfortable with talking openly with you, maybe you should ask another adult that you trust if they can help you as an advisor - someone you can go to with questions without fear of judgment. Your mom's likely just uncomfortable with the image of her child having sex. It's unfortunately all too common an occurance in the field of parenting - this perpetual denial of the cycles of life.

Beyond that, for more general advice, there are so many sites online that can help you out. Remember tho, that ANYONE can set up a website, and just because it's published in the cyber-realm, doesn't necessarily make it true. Be wary of sites that seem to promote teens-are-too-young-to-have-sex, abstinence-only sort of 'information', especially if your questions relate more to specifics like oral sex. I help coordinate a harm reduction youth outreach project about safer drug use and healthy sexuality, so researching online sites is part of my work. These are some that I would recommend. Some of them have message boards where you can also post more specific queries. Take your sex ed into your own hands and get informed. There are dangers associated with oral sex as well as va.ginal/ana1.

I think it's awesome that you're seeking information. Healthy sexuality is about knowing yourself, knowing what makes you feel good, what your limits are and how to communicate assertively. Thanks for posting here.

Sexual Health Info::

Scarleteen: Sex Ed for the Real World

Scarleteen: Oral Sex Info

Solo Sex Info: The Groundwork for Healthy Sexuality

Teen Health: Alphebetical Index of Topics

Teen Health: Are you Ready for Sex?


peace
flow23

I can understand that I may be too young to know what it means but my mom asked me if the kids at my school were have oral sex,then I asked her what it was and then she just stared at me and didn't tell me so I kinda have a reason to know.
It's not right to ask a person a question and you don't know,and if you ask them what it is to answer them they don't tell you.
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You're 13, barely a teen, you don't need to know about oral sex. Trust me.
But, my mother also, is uncomfortable about sex and won't discuss it with me. So, to do my part, I tease her about it all the time. The nicer thing to do is ask your mom to explain stuff like that (or go online and find out yourself).