well i suppose if im a girl it would be called lesbian right? well anyway, i really do like guys ALOT but i also sometimes like girls. i don't know but i think i have always been like this. im friends with all the guys and like plenty as more than just friends, but since i was VERY young (and im only 13) i have always picked the pretiest girls as my favorite or best friend. theres this girl nicole at my school whom i think i really did like for a few months, and this other girl (whose name is too unique to use) that i kinda liked too. and this girl spread a rumor (idk if it was true) that this other girl melinda was bi and suddenly i was hanging around her alot. idk please help

I think everyone has asked themselves that question once before. I don't really know how you know, but if I were you I would try to figure out if I really liked girls in a serious serious way. Sometimes the way that you are feeling could just be you trying to figure out who you are as a person. Once you find that out, you will know whether you like boys or girls.

Umm.. I have the same question really. I haven't ever thought of girls as attractive in my life, but recently that has changed. I started high school a couple of months ago, and i met a girl there who quickly became my best friend. only I have thought of her as more than a friend lately, and i don't know why. I have always only thought of guys this way, and i still do, but I am finding that I am becoming attracted to girls as well.. but really only this girl in particular. But I don't know what that means. Does it mean that I'm Bi?

You're 13. You don't have to define yourself like that...if you feel the need to define yourself, do it in other ways; your actions, your words, your ideas, accomplishments, etc. There's a certain point to where confusion starts to run your life--don't let it, don't give in to it. Think about it, but don't think about it too much(easier said than done). Just because you're confused doesn't mean you have to label yourself as society would like you to. Yes, others will label you...but you do not have to label yourself. You do not have to come up with a conclusion to it right now, so don't feel pressured (even though your confusion might to that to you), but, for now just settle on living the way you want to live, go with your feelings and don't worry about labeling yourself...getting too caught up in labels can drive someone insane.

If you like guys that's fine.
If you like girls that's fine, too.
If you like both, well...just think of yourself liking your options.

Hope this helps,

-Amatory10

over the last year or so, i've realized that i'm bi.
i found out, because i at times get attracted to certain women, and also because i've had crushes on a couple girls that turned into my girlfriends.
and i really like it. its not bad to be bi or gay or whatever you end up being, so dont be ashamed to let it out.

they way i found out i was bi was because of one of my friends, she was very open about her sexuality and would scream that she was a lesbian even. but i figured out i was bi because i practically fell in love with her.
before i knew her i told myself i was straight, and even when there was a rumor around school that i saw a lesbian i completely denied it.
but anyways, i came out because she started dating another girl and had no clue i liked her that way at all.
so i guess what i'm trying to say my advice is, is to just give it time and don't deny yourself from liking someone because of there sex.

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Is to think that: well if I'm bi at least I can choose to be gay or straight!

Um. Where the hell are you getting this from?

*puts a band aid on LTR's forehead*

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something I find that helps if your bi which I myself might be. Is to think that: well if I'm bi at least I can choose to be gay or straight!

*Bangs head on desk*

something I find that helps if your bi which I myself might be. Is to think that: well if I'm bi at least I can choose to be gay or straight!
kuz for me I might be bi and even if I'm sure I am I can still be totally straight for my whole life. So really even though it's not a very respectful way to look at it; being attracted to a certain sex or sex's can be or not be a choice. For me and maybe for you I would have to say that at around the age of 14 if you don't already know if you like girls or guys just try and choose and if you realize that your choice isn't working because you truly arent attracted to that sex then it means that wether or not you like it; it's the other one that you truly like lol.

Give it time to figure yourself out. It's okay if you're bi. It doesn't mean that you're more apt to have sex or whatever. It just means you like two genders instead of one. My suggestion? Just reflect for a while, more than once. The best way to grow is to look within yourself. Ask your family. Yes, talk to them about it. It can be a growing process for all of you.

ok i was in the 6th grade and i alwas knew i was diffrent. but i kissed my best friend and i liked it. i have camout to all of my freidns and my brothers but not my parents im scared of what they well thank .but my uncle was gay befor he died and my mom loved him for him and so do i.know im in 7th grade and i have 2 bi friends and i have a lot os straite friends and we have fun all the time.but i also havea boy friedns named pablo and i love him alot. but when im with my friend country we talka bout girl alot and how hot they are and stuff. well if you wont to tlak to me my email is mariah_hates_you@hotmail.com bye........

o thanks everyone it really helped ^^

keishal, I have two words for you: Infatuation. Lust.

Ok i found out i was a bisexual... when i was in seventh grade.. i was thirteen when i found it out... and honestly the only way i know how to put it is... try kissing a girl... experimenting like that... and if you feel something that just sends butterflys through your body you will know.. thats how i knew... well if you ever need anyone to talk to i will be here for you... just email me at keisharoxsmysoxs@hotmail.com ok? love Keisha

Well then, it was my fault. (bows) My anti-advice remains, though.

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And when I mean experiment...I mean dating and kissing (just to put that out)....

That's what I ment to put in the qutoes

I didn't mean sex and I think I specifically stated that.

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And when I mean experiment...I mean dating and kissing (just to put that out)....
That's what I ment...I still belive in sex after marriage and I'm going to wait and if you're going to assume something when you're readin Shade...Please read the whole thing and the whole thing correctly before stating something!!!!

Really, I just kind of figured it out, it was...hard to come to that conclusion because I had to keep on telling myself i'm gay i'm gay i'm gay because I am but at the time I really couldn't beleive it. Really, u just need to think about it and see if you're attracted to girls? yes/no. boys? yes/no. and then re-think it about a billion times! ;-)

Hmph. That is by far, the worst suggestion I've ever heard! You should not experiment. Haven't you heard of sex after marriage?! Good god, have we no decency left, have we nothing sacred left to keep to ourselves? Do our bodies mean nothing? They're just tools to "experiment" with, now? My body cages my soul, and I hold great respect for it. I would never "experiment" with anyone unless I knew they were right for me. We are far too young to be experimenting sexually with our bodies, with the greatest gift of any mortal: to give life. I have... I have nothing else to say to that atrocity.