Well then, it was my fault. (bows) My anti-advice remains, though.

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And when I mean experiment...I mean dating and kissing (just to put that out)....

That's what I ment to put in the qutoes

I didn't mean sex and I think I specifically stated that.

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And when I mean experiment...I mean dating and kissing (just to put that out)....
That's what I ment...I still belive in sex after marriage and I'm going to wait and if you're going to assume something when you're readin Shade...Please read the whole thing and the whole thing correctly before stating something!!!!

Really, I just kind of figured it out, it was...hard to come to that conclusion because I had to keep on telling myself i'm gay i'm gay i'm gay because I am but at the time I really couldn't beleive it. Really, u just need to think about it and see if you're attracted to girls? yes/no. boys? yes/no. and then re-think it about a billion times! ;-)

Hmph. That is by far, the worst suggestion I've ever heard! You should not experiment. Haven't you heard of sex after marriage?! Good god, have we no decency left, have we nothing sacred left to keep to ourselves? Do our bodies mean nothing? They're just tools to "experiment" with, now? My body cages my soul, and I hold great respect for it. I would never "experiment" with anyone unless I knew they were right for me. We are far too young to be experimenting sexually with our bodies, with the greatest gift of any mortal: to give life. I have... I have nothing else to say to that atrocity.

One of my best friends is going through this problem also...She trusted to talk to me about it because I'm the only one in our group who is lesbian...My suggestion to her is to experiment...That was the only way I found out...But you have to experiment with alot of girls (like 5- or more) but not slutty like to see how you feel...And when I mean experiment...I mean dating and kissing (just to put that out)....But in the end, It's all about how you feel...Not what someone else is telling you to conclude for your feelings.

Well everyone wonders at some point, and to decide or not isn't really possible (Torin). It's just innately who you are, whether influenced by hormones, your brain, heart or soul, it's who you are. Meh, even I'm still figuring it out. One would think having a gay brother might help the situation (and that I might talk to him about it), but it's making it worse. He's the kind who jumps to conclusions. Just... reflect alone, and often. Sit and think about you, your life, your past, your future. This is good for anything, but it's also good for finding the truth. The only way you can find the truth of the matter is looking within you. No one else can tell you who or what you are.

I would suggest for you to do a little more growing too. You have got a lot more brain devolopement left (thats not meant to be an insult) and for you to decide your sexuality now would be unwise especially because of all the hormones running around in your body that can and does cause many people your age to think they are homosexual or have homosexual fantasies for that matter.

nvm... i've read other ppls posts and figured i just gotta experience more... but if u'd like, you could give me advice on what i can do to see how i really feel