I have this great friend who cuts, I am really afraid one day she will go a little too far. I can't tell her to stop though because then I would be considered as a hipocrit on a count of I also cut. We both decided to quit once, that didn't last longer than a day. I can't tell anyone because we figured this could be handled between the two of us.

YNLissa i know where to get help not trying to b mean but sometimes those dont work i have call that before and it did not work.....but i have not ben to "Learning to Cope with Self-Injury" isd it any good cuase i dont have to go to a theripist any more cause i got out but i still cut and i dont want ot go back to that hellhole!!!!

I know that you feel that a problem like this can be handle between the two of you, but it may be too big. If you love your friend and are in fear of her life, get her and you some help. Tell someone that you trust and let that person be someone that can help you through this problem. I wouldn't say that going to a therapist is the best solution. Talk to your friend and tell her that you are affraid and feel like the both of you together should go talk to someone. The both of you can get through this. You just can't give up. God Bless.

I just put this information on another board but these resources may help you also,

1-800-DONT-CUT or 800-366-8288

Learning to Cope With Self-Injury

I haven't been to a therapist, but I don't think I want too!

i c where u r coming from but u have not bne the person that is suicidal. in my case and i think lucasflorin too we have ben the one who has ben begging not to tell cause it feel like hell walking into the therpist office 3 times a week when they dont ever know what it is like to be u and they say "i know what u mean" they dont...and when ur parents find out u cant even look at then with out feeling like u let them down i know that they want to help but i still dont under stand y people care if u cut or are suicidal...its my life and i want to keep it that way!

Trust me on this one.

If you tell a friend, the friend has no idea what to do or what to say. They'll try the best that they can, but sometimes, in the end, it doesn't matter. I've been the friend. It scared me to death whenever my friend got suicidal because all I could do is tell her that I loved her and I was here for her. That I wouldn't know what to do without her. Great, now I'm crying.

Just believe me. Getting help is so much better in the long run. So much better...

i agree. i have cut sence i was in the 5th grade... last year some of my friends found out and i told them that they cant tell after that i found out the 3 of my best friends also cut so we decided to stop it lasted 4 about 2 weeks... after that some kid saw my cuts and got scared and told a treacher at my school and now the whole school know and i haveto go to4 it so what ever u do dont tell a adult they will jsut make it worst...talk to some friend that u know wont tell and tell them that u want to stop and u know u need to stop but u dotn want to go to therpity so u want them to help

its hard though...

Honey, It obviously can not be handled by the two of you. Please, get some help. Tell an adult.

Cutting won't solve your problems, and I know that you know that. Please, just go find some help for both your friend and you.