I know, but still, I'll know I'm in a relationship where this a commitment for a very long time.

no one plans on getting divorced, it just happens a lot.

I wouldn't get divorced unless he abused me. If I did get divorced, I would look for a good Christian man. If I had children I might wait about 5 years or so before beginning to date again. I don't know, because I plan to marry once and that's all.

what if you get divorced? Are you just gonna pretend it never happened and remarry someone who is still a virgin or would it not matter after that?

No, I'm not, but I don't prefer to hear about it.
I don't want to sleep with anyone until I'm married and I don't want to marry someone that has already slept with someone. I don't want him to compare me to someone else and I don't want to compare him. I want to know that I will spend the rest of my life with this guy before I sleep with him.

Why are you against it? So that you will be utterly confused on your wedding night? What's wrong with learning about something that is a natural thing, and something that we shouldn't be afraid of?

I bet you're one of those girls who blushes when someone says penis.

I totally agree with Dumars5 about parents taking sex ed with their students, or at least a guardian.

It really makes me sick to read on these boards about how to pit on a condom. I go to a private school, where they teach Biblically based sex education either your senior or junior year. Starting when you are very young, they preach and teach that premarital sex is wrong. I guess I am now pretty much fully against sex education.

Okay, I'm not at all trying to be conceited or what have you, but I really belive that some of the people who read this message board and who are posting relpies are more uneducated than they should be. I'm especially writing this for the girl (Teddy I believe) who does not know how to put a condom on correctly. Again, I'm not trying to act all "upity", but I do know a lot about sex because I had such an amazing sex ed class in high school, I belive it is important to know EVERYTHING - not just sections - about human sexuality, so here goes.

This is how you correctly put a condom on:

1.) If there is no airpocket/cushion in the condom package or if you can visibly see a tear or hole in the condom wrapper, DO NOT USE IT! No excuses, throw that puppy away and grab a good one.
2.) Check the expiration date before you open it up and use it. If it is expired, don't be stupid, throw it away! Also, don't keep condoms in your wallet, purse or glovebox. If it's in any of those places, it has a very high chance of being ruined and it's effectivness plumets because of the constant temperature variations it's experiencing.
3.) Tear an entire side off the wrapper with your HANDS - not your teeth or scissors, etc. Be careful not to catch the condom as you're tearing and make sure you rip off the entire side of the package so that you aren't pulling the condom through a tight open spot - it could potentially tear.
4.) Whoever is putting it on - and girls you need to know this too because you never know if he knows how to do it or if he just wants you to do it, you gotta know ... protect yourself! Anyway, pinch the tip of the condom and begin to roll it onto the penis with the other hand. It's very important that you continue to pinch the tip because that's where the semen goes during ********ion and you wouldn't want the tip stretched tightly over the head of the penis, because the force of the ********ion could potentially break the condom.
5.) PAY ATTENTION TO WHICH WAY YOU ARE PUTTING IT ON! I CANNOT STRESS HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS! If you start to roll it on the wrong way - in other words, it won't roll down the penis because you didn't pay attention to which way it would "unroll" - immediately throw the condom away and grab another one, if you don't have another one - which you should ... always have a backup! - then too bad, don't have sex until you get another one! WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT USE THAT CONDOM! It is a very common misconception that you can just turn the condom over to the right side and roll it down the shaft of the penis, but guess what?! When that penis enters the vagina, **** or mouth, the girl (or guy) is being contaminated with pre-********ory fluid. That other side of the condom that came in contact with the penis head has at least some pre-********ory fluid, whether you can see it or feel it, it's there and it will most definitely be enough sperm to impregnate you and it will carry whatever diseases/STD's the guy has.
6.) Make sure the condom is rolled down the entire shaft of the penis, one size pretty much fits all - I can get a condom to cover the entire area of my forearm, so you shouldn't have any problems having one fit! If you prefer though, there are "Large" sized condoms. Anyway, it is important that the condom is unrolled in its entirety and the entire shaft of the penis is covered.
7.) When you're done and the guy pulls out, be sure to hold the tip of the condom so that you keep the semen inside of it and carefully unroll the condom off of the penis. It is best to tie the condom off so that no semen leaks and I always suggest putting it back into the wrapper and throwing it into the TRASHCAN!! Do not flush it - I've heard some horrific stories of it clogging up pipes, trust me you don't want that - it's expensive and embarrassing. And whatever you do, don't just throw it on the ground if you're outside or in a car or whatever. Kids find them, andimals find them, it's not good for the environment and it's simply just untactful. Just make sure you dispose of your condom in the correct manner.
8.) I would hope that this isn't news to you, but do not double up on condoms! Whether it's a guy wearing 2 condoms or a guy wearing a condom while the girl wears a female condom too. IT DOES NOT PROVIDE EXTRA PROTECTION, IT CAUSES FRICTION AND MAKES THE CONDOMS BREAK/TEAR!
9.) Just so you know, condoms are only about 97% effective and they don't protect you from every STD. There are STD's such as herpes, genital warts, and other external diseases that can be contracted through contact of any sort. The condom will not cover the entire genital area. When you're having intercourse, your skin is still touching in other areas, you're just protected from whatever is on the shaft of the penis, inside of the vagina, or in the semen, nothing else. That's why it is extremely important to make sure you are positive that your partner has been checked for STD's and that you are not putting yourself at risk for anything!

I hope that was informative to at least some of you. I know putting on a condom seems like a thoughtless and simple task, but it's a careful task that everyone needs to know everything about. So for those of you who already knew all this, I apologize to you, but I hoe you understand I'm just trying to educate the ones who need to know.

I really do know a ton about sex - from protection to the way things work to just about everything you need to know when it comes to humans and their sexuality, so I would be happy to answer any questions you have whatsoever. As you can probably alread tell, I'm not shy about it and it makes me very happy to be able to educate people about what they need to know - I think it's absolutely imperative information to know. Don't hesitate to either ask a question on this NoiseBoard or to e-mail me at: Shannypoo2785@hotmail.com.

Be safe,
Shannon

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Is earlier sex ed the answer?

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No. Informative sex ed is the answer. When I took sex ed in 8th grade, we only learned about abstinence. We didn't learn about birth control, just that abstinence was the way to go. Well, no one listened to that. People later on at my school would have sex, regardless what our sex ed teacher said, and since they wouldn't know anything about protection and birth control, guess what happened? Lots of teen pregnancies and lots of HIV and AIDS. Yes, it is the teens fault for having sex, but maybe if our teacher had told us how to protect ourselves, then they wouldn't be pregnant or infected with AIDS. Maybe, just maybe.

I'm sure that you're thinking of the best when saying that Sex Ed shouldn't be taught until 12th grade, but seriously, that would be awful with even worse consequences. If there was no sex ed even as late (yes, late) as 9th grade, even more kids would be getting more STDs and worse. Just because kids don't know the consequences of doing something is not going to stop them. People still speed while driving even while knowing that they could get caught and get a ticket. People are still going to have sex and other types of inuendoes, even if they know they could end up with herpes or something worse! What schools need to have are firsthand accounts of people with STDs and what they think of their former behavior.

I am going to take a stab at this and say it is because minoxinol-9 was just found to not kill but acctually increase your chances of getting aids while makin love.

YEAH, they can.

A Condom could protect you from getting STD?

Ok last year I had P.E. All the students that had P.E had to take swimming, going to the weight room, inside gym, outside gym, and finally health. It went in any order. I went to all of the classes but Health Class. Which to me was the most important clas out of all of the classes in P.E. Because I didn't know and I still don't know anything when it comes to this stuff.

Like for example knowing how to put an condom on. Even though, I'm a girl and knowing this probably isn't really important to me, I should still know about it right? I never really seem one neither.

Things like that, I never got the chance to learn about because my gym teacher or whoever didn't give the class and I a chance to learn. The other P.E classes had a chance though. A lot of people say Health Class doesn't teach you anything but I will be the judge of that. But, how could I be the judge if I never been to Health Class?

If that isn't bad enough then hear this, the class I was in had guys in it too. It was only four girls including me and the rest were guys. Look two of the girls didn't go swimming because they felt uncomforable with the guys there with them. I felt uncomfortable too but I would wear some shorts under my swim suit. But, they almost failed because of that.

I don't know maybe I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Is that fair or am I just overracted?
This probably doesn't have anything to do with this topic but I am tired and I don't want to look for another topic that I could talk about this or make my own topic if there is another one talking about this.

Well, Thanks For Reading
Well, Bye N Have a nice day

When it comes to sex education maybe what should be talked about is how to put on a CONDOM.
STD's are on the rise.
Therefore teens are having more sex.
Also they are having UNSAFE sex.
So, probably what should happen is in every health class one day every student is given a banana and a condom.
Their goal, without laughing about it to successfully put the condom on the banana.
Yes it won't answer every problem. However, unlike "the pill" It will offer some protection.
Just so you know I do not believe in pre-marital sex, but I do believe if you are going to have sex use a condom.

So many more young girls are having sex much earlier now because they have the "it won't happen to me" outlook on life. Sex education in my elementary and high school was a disgrace. It seems like teachers are either afraid or embarrassed to address sexual issues. Some teachers tend to give their own personal opinions rather than an educated answer when asked a question about sex. Personal opinions, views, and judgements have the tendency to overshadow the truth. I think more videos should be shown and more discussion and less skimming through sexual issues should be encouraged in school. It would also be helpful to have experts or someone who has been through the worst come and give speeches in school. Schools need to face the fact that their old methods of teaching sex-ed (brief two week programs that go over the parts and functions of the human body, contraceptives, and puberty) is not working anymore. In order to successfully raise the awareness-level of diseases like HIV/AIDS to teenagers, the comfort-level when it comes to SEX must also be increased.

I don't think sex ed is wrong, i just feel it's taught a little too early in some cases. I think that it shouldn't be taught until the kids are matured enough too understand. When immature kids are taught about sex, it's very peculiar for them not to want to try it out, just to know what the fuss is all about. Sex Ed tends to build up curiousity, I must say.

Sex potrayed through the media does not help the situation either. It only helps in building up curiousity and this time with vivid pictures.

Sex Ed should mark a child's crossover to adulthood. I had my first sex ed at 14 and I know what I went through.So why should 13-year olds know about sex?

There will be no need for worry or raising alarm if children know nothing about sex until they are older, mature enough to handle the gist.

SEX ED ITSELF IS THE PROBLEM

AIDS and other STDs wouldn't be nearly as big of a problem if they younger generation didn't KNOW ABOUT SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE. That's why I agree with people who want to raise sex ed to 12th grade… make that college… make that never. Kids wouldn't know ABOUT the unholy act of sex if they didn't hear about it in school in the first place.

Every time someone says the word "sex," Jesus sheds a tear… for every sex act, an angel loses its wings… every time you m*sturbate, God kills a kitten… sex is EVIL, PERIOD.

(*cough* sarcasm *cough*)

I think that it is a good idea for teens to have a sex ed class. People are age need a little guidence now-a-days. Maybe they will listen in that class and learn that you really need to wait or to just have protect sex.