Ok first of all It's not that big of deal to loose your virginity at least not as big of deal ppl make it out to be. Yes I know you can get pregnant and all but as long as your careful and trust the person you are with you'll be fine. Second the person you loose it to does not have to be that "special someone" You'll spend your whole life trying to find that person and if you dont then their is you whole life wasted. For me it was a friend someone who knows you very well and will still always be there. 3rd the whole girls cannot be sexually active is not right guys are deemed cool for hooking up wit a college girl but if a girl hooks up with a college guy watch christian boys she's the devil. Okay girls its ok to be sexual and have fun wit it. It took me a while to figure this out and now im ok but I will say that having a rep isn't always the greatest cuz you never do know when a guy is being true or if he is just trying to get some. But you have to first be comfortable with yourself if you dont think you can look yourself in the mirror after it has happened dont do it your not ready and if you dont think you can handle the consquences if someone does go wrong dont do it. This is a mental as well as physical ordeal and you can't always go through it alone. If anyone needs any help contact me at volleyballgirl_24_00@hotmail.com I think i have written enough here.

I think your point of view is cool, and you present it well, nbc. I don't know...I've always believed in waiting for my soul mate, and if I end up waiting my whole life, so be it. Sex doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me anyway. However, if I do get married (which is becoming a bigger 'if' by the day), I want the physical union to be a symbol of the give-and-take required in a good marriage. I want my husband to feel special; I want him to know that I waited for him because I thought he was good enough to be waited for. If I end up not being married, I'll just be a virgin the rest of my life. Like I said, sex doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me. I'm of the opinion that I can take it or leave it.

However, your point of view has some definite female-empowerment messages, and I think all girls can benefit from your pointing out the sexual double standard in the world today. Rock on, girl, and be yourself.

Peace,

Birdy

Its not often I agree with cheerleaders, but right on, NB.

Ok, I totally disagree with you. I definitely suggest that you go to the *keeping your virginity* post on this forum.