Are you FOR or AGAINST premarital sex? State your reasons and open up.

I am definitely FOR premarital sex

promiscuous casual sex on the the other hand?

don't endorse it but if you want to risk VDs for empty pleasure then go right a head, use a condom

however i think sex within a committed relationship is healthy and, in most cases, necessary. A HUGE part of functioning marriage/long-term relationship is sexual compatibility. If one partner's needs aren't being fulfilled its only a matter of time before he/she cheats.

personally, im against it, but i dont think anyone has a right to tell someone else wheather its right or wrong.
everyone makes their own decisions. if you can end up talking someone out of doing something, then they must not have wanted it in the first place.
nvrletgo, is right though. if you decide to have sex then YOU have to suffer whatever conciquences that come along with it.

i don't rly agree w/ casual sex, but i think that if u truely like a person, and aren't just having sex so u can say u did, then it is perfectly fine

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Originally posted by sportagirl91:
I think it's fine to have sex. Its a natural thing.
But the thing about people today is, that instead of healthy, hopefully long-lasting relationships,
people are just hooking up casually, whenever they feel the need to. Just to have sex. Thats why there are unplanned pregnancies and stds and all that stuff. Personally, unless i've been with someone for quite a few years, im waiting till i get married. and thats what most people in our society should do because they can't handle the responsibility of having sex outside of marriage.

I feel the same. Sex is often exploited these days. It's became just another thing to do whenever you have nothing else to do.

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Your virginity is something thats worth saving for your spouse.

What if you lose your virginity to your future spouse? I thought the deal was saving sex for the person you love. You don't need to be married to be in love.

I think it's fine to have sex. Its a natural thing.
But the thing about people today is, that instead of healthy, hopefully long-lasting relationships,
people are just hooking up casually, whenever they feel the need to. Just to have sex. Thats why there are unplanned pregnancies and stds and all that stuff. Personally, unless i've been with someone for quite a few years, im waiting till i get married. and thats what most people in our society should do because they can't handle the responsibility of having sex outside of marriage.

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he bible clearly states sex outside of marriage is wrong.

Passages?

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I am a Christian, and the bible clearly states sex outside of marriage is wrong.

So, what about the people who don't believe in the Bible and aren't Christians?

I am against. Your virginity is something thats worth saving for your spouse. I am a Christian, and the bible clearly states sex outside of marriage is wrong.

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if you waited untill you are maried it would be a new experice for the both of you.

If it doesn't feel good, it's bad sex. You may not know what you're missing, but that doesn't change the fact that you're still missing it.

Also, it is possible to have respect for someone without having to wait. For instance, my girlfriend did not want to wait until she was married. She just wanted to wait until we had both graduated college. I respected that, but we have since had sex. Does this mean I don't respect her? No, of course not. I love and respect her more than anything, but we both made the choice to make love to each other. That was almost a year ago and neither of us have any regrets about it. I don't see what's wrong with that.

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1, you could get pregnant 2, you could get a permanant disease which you will never get rid of

These only happen with a lack of protection. Safe sex (as in the kind practiced with a single partner, condoms, birth control, or some mix of the above) doesn't result in either. As for guys leaving you when you're pregnant, that's just poor choice in a mate. As Ikki said, there are indeed guys who are jerks, but not every guy just wants into his girlfriend's pants. And even among the ones who do, their reasons are not always selfish.

IKKI14REED, IM SORRY, YEAH YOU ARE RIGHT, SOME GUYS DO CARE AND STAY, BUT IN MOST CASES, THEY LEAVE YOU.....OR TELL U TO GET AN ABORTION, OR THEY WILL LEAVE YOU.....BUT YOU WERE RIGHT -SORRY......

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - from The Education of Shelby Knox

SEX is a BEAUTIFUL, NATURAL thing, that people are MEANT TO ENGAGE IN. There is a biological reasont that people want to have sex and enjoy having sex. If your body tells you that youre ready, thats because YOU ARE READY! Its not an issue of self-control. And you know what? If teens know the conseqences, and how to protect themselves (ie CONDOMS), then whats the problem?

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And last 5, the guy just wants ou for one thing sweetie, your body, he will get u pregnant then leave u ...trust me!!!!!!!

Not all guys are like that. And there are some girls who get pregnant, have the baby, give it to the guy and leave.

"Good sex is 5% of a relationship... Bad sex, however, is 95%!"

How would you know what sex was like if it was good or not? if you waited untill you are maried it would be a new experice for the both of you. i am a firm roman cathlioc and blieve what i do and will not turn on my fath for anyone. if someone is willing to wait for you that show how much they love you and respect you. i am with some one right now and i have told him first thing i dont wanna have sex until i am married. he said he will respect me and my wishes and i trust him. This show a great deal of respect on my part. i some one loves you they will make "The complet sacrifice" of waiting.

ok, i am against premarital sex for sure, b/c 1, you could get pregnant 2, you could get a permanant disease which you will never get rid of 3,marriage is meant to be between two people that are married, it'sa gift God gave us...it was meant to be between a amrried couple not two people looking for fun, or looking to fulfill their needs.....which is stupid.....and if you have sex with someone you are not married to, you are now one with them, and everyone else they hace slept with. And 4, premarital sex is against my religion, you are to wait until you are married!!! And last 5, the guy just wants ou for one thing sweetie, your body, he will get u pregnant then leave u ...trust me!!!!!!!

You don't "blind marry" someone. You go out with them first to make sure that the two of you are a good match, since you'll be stuck together for a loooong time when married.

But how come people think lesser of how they match their partner in bed?

A professor of mine once said: "Good sex is 5% of a relationship... Bad sex, however, is 95%!"

What if you marry someone and find out that he or she has totally other preferences than your self? I'm not talking anything illegal here and still there are many ways to do "it".

I want to know that I go into my marriage this summer under the best of curcumstances. We have talked about children (and raising them!), carreer, money, spare-time, where to live, morales and ethics and we have ensured that our families and friends are comfortable in the presence of each other.
We have also had sex. And recently we have talked about fantasies and preferences to make sure that neither of us will end up desperate and frustrated; we will rather deal with such stuff now than spend the first months as newly weds dealing with the issue.

I hardly think anyone can tell me I've done wrong or that there is a better way to ensure a happy and harmonious marriage?

As a personal choice I would have to say I perfer marital sex over premarital sex. For me it's not so much safty, as it is the moral issue. Even though I have friends who HAVE had sex with their boyfriends, I don't love them any less or think bad about them. Contrary, I embrace them and their choices, and if they messed up, well I'm here for them. I just believe that waiting until your married is the safest choice one can make at this stage in their lives. I don't enforce this on my friends because they should be able to live their lives as they choose to and I don't do it to other people either. You're entitled to your own opinion as am I.

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Mimi<3

The main reason that I've seen so far that make people totally against Premarital Sex is because of RELIGIOUS reasons. Its all in your own opinion but when it comes to that who are you to judge? God is the one who is to make judgement on us am I right?...Who are you to judge again?...that's right..you aren't...and if you feel its wrong then that is fine but do not make judgement on those who choose to have sex before they get married because who is to say they even want to get married. Not everyone is religious and you have to respect that.

Whoa now. Please lay of the caps lock. My ear is still ringing.